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Pre-plan for Peace of Mind

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 21:18:04 GMT

Pre-plan for Peace of Mind

While thinking about one’s own funeral can feel uncomfortable and surreal, more adults are discovering that with Advanced Planning comes both emotional reassurance and financial clarity. At Keohane, we ensure that the process is straightforward and supportive.

Pre-planning your funeral allows you to make important decisions in a calm and thoughtful setting, long before they’re ever needed. It grants you the opportunity to take control of the details that matter most to you, and, perhaps most importantly, it’s a meaningful way to ease the emotional burden on your loved ones during an already difficult time.

We’re Here to Help

It all begins with a meeting with one of our experienced funeral directors to discuss your wishes, share biographical information, identify family members, select meaningful items and details if desired, and review payment options. Families often tell us that when a loved one took the time to plan with Keohane, it made all the difference by providing guidance, comfort, and relief during a moment when decisions can feel overwhelming.

Our funeral directors specialize in working with individuals and families interested in pre-planning and are always available to answer questions or offer guidance. You can begin the process by contacting us directly or by completing our secure online pre-planning form. We’re here to help every step of the way.

Beyond offering you the chance to create an individualized service, the pre-planning itself can be individualized as well and is always rooted in empathy. We’re happy to meet with you wherever you feel most comfortable, including in your own home or at one of our funeral homes.

Give the Gift of Advanced Planning

A funeral is ultimately for those left behind, which is why communicating your wishes with your family can be so meaningful and helpful when the time comes. While it may be tempting to eliminate services to spare loved ones from pain, it’s important to remember that grief is caused by the loss itself, not by the funeral. In fact, a personal and thoughtfully planned service can be a vital part of the healing process. When planning ahead, we encourage you to make choices that reflect your passions, values, and life story because a funeral should truly be a celebration of life.

Pay At Your Own Pace

If you choose to pay for your funeral in advance, we offer safe and secure options, including funeral trusts and insurance policies. Our funeral directors will guide you through the options that suit your needs. Your funeral plan is completely transferable, so if you move out of state, it can be transferred without penalty. If services are still planned in Massachusetts, we’ll coordinate everything on your family’s behalf.

Pre-planning can also play an important role for individuals preparing for long-term care, as Medicaid allows funds to be placed in an irrevocable trust or insurance policy designated specifically for future funeral expenses. This lawful option can help reduce assets while ensuring eligibility for needed care.

Take Care to Share

Once your arrangements are complete, we recommend keeping a copy of your plan and paperwork in a safe place and sharing the information with a trusted friend or family member. We securely store all records in a secure system, because your privacy and peace of mind are always our priority.

While the concept of pre-planning may seem overwhelming at first, the act brings peace of mind today and comfort to your family tomorrow. It is a thoughtful gift to those you love and a meaningful way to ensure your wishes are honored. Every story. Any style. Always personal.

Our funeral directors are always available to answer questions and help you take the next step.

Pets

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 20:28:15 GMT

A Bond That Deserves to Be Remembered

For many families, pets are far more than companions; they are family. They share in our daily routines, offer unconditional love, and leave an indelible mark on our hearts. When a pet dies, the grief can be just as profound as the loss of any loved one, and it deserves to be acknowledged and honored.

At Keohane, we believe that every bond matters. Our office manager, Tracey, recently experienced the loss of her beloved dog, Chief. To honor that special relationship, Keohane Co-President Dennis Keohane created a personalized prayer card for Tracey, including Chief’s name alongside her deceased family members.

This small but meaningful gesture reflected our belief that pets hold a lasting place in the families who love them.

Pet funerals and memorial services provide families with an opportunity to pause, reflect, and say goodbye in a way that feels personal and healing. Whether through a prayer card, a small gathering, or a private moment of remembrance, these rituals can offer comfort and validation during a difficult time.

We are honored to support families grieving the loss of a pet. If you have lost a beloved animal companion, Keohane offers the option to create a prayer card in their memory free of charge as one way to honor their life and the love you shared.

If you’d like to request your own custom card, please email dennis@keohane.com.

For support with pet loss and grief, please visit https://www.aplb.org/.

Q&A: A Conversation with Ed Keohane

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 18:09:32 GMT

Reflecting on 60 Years of Service, Family, and Community

Q: What first inspired you to enter the funeral profession, and did you ever imagine a 60-year career?

Ed Keohane: My father started the business in 1932, and I joined in 1965, so funeral service was always part of my world. Still, I never imagined I’d be here 60 years later. Over time, the profession naturally weaves itself into your life, and before you know it, it becomes a meaningful part of who you are.

Q: What has kept you committed to this work for six decades?

Ed: The simple answer is helping families. That’s always been the reason. The way we do that has changed over the years. Funerals once happened in homes, my father even had a storefront, but the purpose hasn’t changed. Our job is to find ways to help, in any way we can.

Q: Keohane is often described as feeling different from other funeral homes. Why do you think that is? Looking back, what moment or accomplishment are you most proud of at Keohane Funeral & Cremation?

Ed: I think it boils down to longevity and loyalty. At Keohane, people don’t just build careers; they build lives. Many employees stay 10, 20, or even 30 years, because it feels more like family than a job. We hear it in surveys as well. Families often tell us, “You all feel like family,” and that’s the greatest compliment we can receive. This work requires genuine connection, and that comes from genuine people.

Q: You’ve worked with countless families, all with different personalities and needs. How do you approach that?

Ed: The only constant is learning how to love people as they are. Everyone is different: mothers, fathers, siblings, etc. Meaningful connection looks different for each person. Our goal is always to meet people where they are and offer what they need in that moment.

Q: How has being part of the South Shore community shaped your career?

Ed: I’ve always been social, always enjoyed being involved. I’m active in the Quincy Rotary Club for many years, and I truly believe service is the rent you pay for the space you occupy. If you’re part of a community, you have a responsibility to give back to it.

Q: Has funeral service changed the way you see people and society?

Ed: Absolutely. This profession makes it clear that we’re not all the same, and that’s okay. Society doesn’t always hold one another up the way it used to, but we try to be open and present when people need us most. You don’t have to fix everything; it’s often just about showing up.

Q: What qualities do you believe are essential in a funeral director?

Ed: Compassion, kindness, and thoughtfulness…and not in a scripted way. You need a range of personalities on a team because families are all different. Empathy isn’t something you can fake. It must be natural.

Q: What advice would you give to someone considering a career in funeral service?

Ed: Not everyone is compatible with this work, and that’s important to understand. Your personality matters. You need to be comfortable with people, with emotion, and with service because this profession is about others, not you.

Q: How do you think society’s relationship with loss has changed over the years?

Ed: Life, love, and loss have all changed. Life isn’t only about you; love is your job, and your contribution; and loss, even death, is a natural part of living. I think we’re still learning how to talk about that openly, and education plays a big role in helping people understand that.

Q: When people talk about your legacy, how do you think about that?

Ed: I don’t think it’s up to me to write my legacy. That’s for others to decide. All I’ve ever tried to do is help people, care for families, and serve the community honestly. If that’s what people remember, that’s enough.

Words We Live By

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 17:40:20 GMT

Words We Live By

At Keohane Funeral and Cremation, every life has a story worth honoring. That belief has always guided us, and now it’s reflected in our new motto:

Every story. Any style. Always personal.

What hasn’t changed is our commitment to time-honored traditions. We continue to offer the full range of traditional funeral and memorial services that families have trusted for generations. What has evolved is the freedom to personalize those traditions or reimagine them entirely.

Whether your family prefers a classic service, a contemporary celebration of life, or something uniquely meaningful, our role is to listen, guide, and help bring your vision to life. No two stories are the same, and remembrance should reflect that.

Every story. Any style. Always personal. We promise to honor you and the people you love, your way.

Partner Spotlight: A Q&A with Matthew Van Drimmelen, Owner & President of Full-Circle Aftercare

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 15:26:03 GMT

Partner Spotlight: A Q&A with Matthew Van Drimmelen, Owner & President of Full-Circle Aftercare

After years working on commuter rail projects and right of way, Matthew Van Drimmelen’s career took an unexpected turn. In 2013, a friend introduced him to a pressing problem in funeral service: families struggling with the complex logistics of closing estate issues after the loss of a loved one. Inspired to make a difference, Matt founded Full-Circle Aftercare.

Q: What inspired you to transition from civil engineering to founding Full-Circle Aftercare?

A: I really stumbled upon it, but it started with a conversation I had with a good friend who works in a funeral home. He was tasked with meeting families after funerals to discuss options and pre-planning their own funerals.

The phenomenon he noticed was that every family he met with whether rich or poor, organized or not, with kids or without, was incredibly stressed about what happens after a funeral. These families really had nowhere to turn. We just don't think about that part of death. We focus on the legal side, like transferring assets, but not on the emotional side or the logistics of everything that person’s life touched, be it a credit card, a government benefit, or a Facebook account…everything must be updated.

He explained it to me like this: I had just moved, and he asked, “How many people did you have to contact to update your address?” I realized, out of the woodwork, everything had to change. Now imagine that process multiplied tenfold when someone passes away. Families are given checklists of what to do, but they’re grieving, and calling businesses in that state is incredibly awkward. You're sitting on hold thinking, “My wife just died, and I have to cancel the cell phone?” It’s difficult for everyone involved.

He told me the average family takes a year and a half to make these notifications, and many miss a lot. For example, Social Security looked at widows who should have received an increased benefit after a spouse’s death, only 18% received it. That means 82% were underpaid for the rest of their lives. Attorneys don’t handle this type of work, and no one else does. Families need a service with no sales pitch or ulterior motive, just help. I couldn’t sleep for days thinking about it. My own wife and I decided this needed to be done. Government work was fine, but I realized it was time to move on.

Q: Can you walk us through the typical journey of a family when they engage with your team?

A: Our service is gifted by Keohane. During the initial meeting with the funeral director, families start the process because they need to order death certificates. The funeral director explains all the people that need to be contacted, which can feel like a heavy burden. Then the

funeral director introduces our service, saying something like, “One of the things that makes our funeral home unique is that we have someone assigned to help you. Use them as much as you’d like and it’s completely free.”

We reach out and schedule an appointment when the family is comfortable. Some want to start right away; others wait a few weeks. The first step is discovery: figuring out what needs to be done. This might involve pulling credit reports to see open accounts, or we might use information the family has already organized. We then create an action plan and do everything the family wants us to do.

We handle notifications, paperwork, and calls to companies, organizations, and government agencies. Families can stay on the phone with us or let us handle it independently. There are a few things we can’t do, like change a car title or handle probate; we can guide families on those tasks, but otherwise, we handle everything. Typically, a family is completely done in two to three weeks, rather than years.

Q: How do you ensure that families feel supported, especially when dealing with businesses while grieving?

A: This is where the human touch comes in. One of our founding principles is helping women, particularly those re-entering the workforce after caregiving, rebuild their resumes. Many people we hire are mothers or caregivers who need work experience, and helping families allows them to gain the skills and experience they can showcase in future jobs.

There’s a certain personality type required to help these families. You can’t be too patronizing or too pushy. Our team meets families where they are emotionally, guiding them step by step. Some widows have never touched the checkbook; others are financially savvy and just need a partner to make sure everything is completed.

The calls we handle (such as canceling services or notifying agencies) can be tedious and stressful. Our team protects the family from the transactional side while allowing them to ask questions and stay informed.

Q: Do you have a particularly memorable situation that highlighted the significance of your service?

A: There are so many, but one stands out. A young widow, whose husband was military, had three small children. He became terminally ill, and she quit her job to care for him full-time. When he passed, she had no support and no knowledge of how things worked. The landlord threatened eviction if the rent wasn’t paid.

In just two and a half hours, we had everything organized: notifications were complete, she received life insurance and Social Security benefits she didn’t know about, food stamps, and local community support. At the end of that call, she said, “I can do this.” I broke down, it was incredible to see someone go from complete hopelessness to having a plan, resources, and the confidence to move forward for her children.

Q: Where do you see the future of aftercare services heading?

A: Aftercare will remain human-centered. AI and digital tools can help with tasks like finding assets or filling out paperwork, but grieving families need real human interaction. A computer can’t provide the warmth, empathy, and understanding that a person can. Technology will enhance efficiency, but the human touch will always be essential.

Q: Can you share your experience working with Keohane specifically?

A: Keohane is exceptional. Their attention to detail is elite. They treat every family as individuals that need care. From the moment you arrive, staff greet you, guide you, and make the experience feel personal. They focus on service first, and it’s an honor to be a small part of that process.

Q: Anything else you’d like to add?

A: I would like to clarify that we are not a legal service. Attorneys are important for estate closure, but we handle the practical tasks that families don’t want an attorney doing.

We also provide five layers of fraud protection for every family. Every year, 2.5 million deceased individuals have their identities stolen, often while families are trying to wrap things up. Our program protects families and their estates in ways they may not even realize, providing safety and peace of mind during a difficult time. Beyond these safeguards, the heart of our work remains the same: offering comfort, clarity, and compassion when families need it most.

What began as a single conversation between friends has grown into a national movement of care and compassion. Thanks to Van Drimmelen’s vision, countless families now have the guidance and support they need to move forward with confidence after loss. https://www.full-circlecare.com/

Keohane Funeral & Cremation + Parting Stone

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 14:23:03 GMT

Honoring Loved Ones in a New Way

At Keohane Funeral & Cremation, our mission has always been to help families say goodbye with compassion, respect, and meaning. That’s why we are proud to partner with Parting Stone, an innovative cremation alternative that transforms ashes into a collection of smooth, stone-like memorials. This unique option offers families a deeply comforting way to remember and keep their loved one close.

Parting Stone is a company that transforms cremated remains – whether human or pet – into beautiful, stone-like memorials. These smooth, tactile pieces offer a comforting alternative to scattering ashes or dividing them among family members in urns. The process involves collecting the ashes, purifying them to remove contaminants, refining them into a clay-like consistency, and shaping them into stones. Once solidified in a kiln, the stones are returned to the family to be held, shared, displayed, or carried close.

The result is usually a set of 40-80+ of these stones, smooth and uniquely shaped. Because every person (or pet) is unique, each set has its own individual colors, textures, and feel.

For many families, traditional cremated ashes feel abstract, heavy, or difficult to relate to in daily life. Parting Stone offers a more tangible, personal way to remember someone you love.

Parting Stone offers families connection and comfort by turning ashes into something tangible, bringing peace in a way that ashes sometimes cannot. Because each set includes multiple stones, families can share them among loved ones, place them in different meaningful locations, or incorporate them into memorial displays. Beyond their practicality, the stones themselves are beautiful, resembling timeless artifacts of remembrance. They naturally invite storytelling, reflection, and daily moments of connection.

Grief has no one “right” path. What matters is that you find ways to remember, to feel connected, and to hold close the love you shared. At Keohane Funeral Home, we believe offering meaningful alternatives – like those from Parting Stone – helps people do just that. We’re honored to provide this option and to walk with you in every step of remembrance.

If you or a loved one is considering a solidified remains option, or you just want to learn more, please reach out. We’d be glad to explain the process, show samples, or help you decide what feels right for you.

Honoring a Life

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 18:51:00 GMT

Creative Ways to Personalize a Memorial Service

Every life is unique, and a memorial service should be too. For years, families and friends took a cookie-cutter approach to funeral services, but as time has gone one, the desire for one-of-a-kind sendoffs has come to light. At Keohane Funeral Home, we believe a meaningful tribute is not just about saying goodbye, but about celebrating the individuality, passions, and legacy of your loved one.

Personalizing a memorial service helps family and friends connect more deeply to the person they’re remembering. Here are a few creative ways to honor a life with thoughtfulness and love:

Tell Their Story Through Keepsakes

Consider creating a memory table or display filled with cherished items: a favorite hat, artwork, travel souvenirs, or a beloved book collection. These simple, personal touches bring their personality to life.

Incorporate Their Passions

Was your loved one an avid gardener, musician, or sports fan? Integrate those elements into the service. From floral arrangements inspired by their garden to a musical performance of their favorite song, small details can make a big impact.

Custom Memorial Programs or Guestbooks

Design printed materials that reflect your loved one’s life story. Include photos, meaningful quotes, or even recipes they were known for. You can also offer a personalized guestbook where attendees share memories or messages of love.

Video Tributes and Slideshows

A tribute video filled with favorite music and family photos can provide comfort and joy. Played during the service and shared online afterward, it becomes a keepsake that families can treasure forever.

Interactive Memory Activities

Invite guests to write down a memory on cards, share stories during the service, or contribute to a digital memory wall. These shared reflections help build a legacy of love that endures long after the day.

Meaningful Ceremony Locations

Think beyond traditional venues. Whether it’s a service by the ocean, in a family backyard, or at a favorite hiking trail, the setting can speak volumes about the life being honored.

Personalized Music and Readings

Select songs, poems, or readings that held special significance. You might include lyrics that resonated with your loved one or readings by their favorite authors.

No matter how you choose to personalize a memorial service, the goal is to reflect the spirit of the person you loved and to bring people together in a way that feels authentic and heartfelt. At Keohane, we’re honored to help families create services that are as unique and memorable as the lives they celebrate.

Interested in planning a personalized service? Contact us today! We’re here to help every step of the way.

Memorializing Loved Ones Online

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 18:44:57 GMT

Digital Legacies and Virtual Tributes

In today’s digital age, honoring the life of a loved one doesn’t end at the funeral. Many families are now creating virtual tributes that celebrate and preserve the memory of those they’ve lost, offering a meaningful way to connect, remember, and share.

One of the most cherished forms of digital remembrance is the tribute video. Whether shared online or saved to a DVD, these personalized memorials are a beautiful way to reflect on a life well-lived. Set to music that holds special meaning and filled with photos and video clips that tell the story of your loved one’s life, tribute videos allow families to revisit memories whenever they need comfort.

At Keohane, we believe in the power of storytelling. A tribute video can serve not only as part of the funeral or memorial service but also as a lasting keepsake that can be passed down through generations. These videos help family members near and far feel included and connected, even when they can't be physically present.

In addition to videos, many families choose to build digital legacies through memorial websites, social media tributes, or online guestbooks. These platforms offer space for friends and family to leave memories, share photos, and light virtual candles in honor of their loved one.

The beauty of digital memorials is that they grow over time. They become a living tribute updated, revisited, and cherished by generations to come.

If you’re interested in creating a tribute video or learning more about virtual memorial options, the Keohane team is here to guide and support you. Together, we can help you craft a lasting digital legacy that honors your loved one with grace, meaning, and love.

Talking to Aging Loved Ones About Their Final Wishes

Tue, 13 May 2025 19:13:58 GMT

A Compassionate Approach to Advance Planning

Having a conversation about final wishes can feel difficult and emotional, but it’s an important step toward ensuring peace of mind for both you and your aging loved ones. At Keohane Funeral Home & Cremation, we believe in the power of advance planning by providing families with the opportunity to make thoughtful decisions and relieve future burdens.

Addressing your loved one’s wishes for their final arrangements is not only a way to respect their preferences, but also a meaningful act of care and love. By engaging in this conversation early on, families can avoid unnecessary stress during a time of grief and make decisions that truly reflect the desires of the person who has passed.

How to Start the Conversation

Approach with Sensitivity and Understanding
Recognize that this is a topic that may bring up a lot of emotions, both for you and your loved one. It’s important to approach the conversation with empathy. Choose a quiet, calm moment where everyone feels comfortable, and let them know that the purpose of the conversation is to ensure their wishes are honored and to bring peace of mind.

Make It About Their Comfort, Not Your Fears
Express that your main goal is to ensure they have control over their unique transition and that their wishes will be respected. This isn’t about making your preferences known, but about honoring theirs.

Focus on the Benefits of Advance Planning
Explain that by having a plan in place, they can avoid leaving decisions to family members during a difficult time. Talk about the practical benefits, such as preventing family disagreements or confusion. Emphasize that having everything settled ahead of time makes the process smooth for everyone involved.

Use Clear and Respectful Language
Instead of rushing through the conversation, give your loved one the space to voice their thoughts and feelings. Use gentle, clear language to explain options for funeral arrangements, cremation vs. burial, and the importance of having advance directives.

Addressing Key Topics

Funeral Planning
When discussing funeral arrangements, be sure to consider all available options. Whether your loved one desires a traditional service, a more personalized memorial, or a simple gathering, it’s important to listen to their preferences. By making these choices ahead of time, families can avoid the emotional difficulty of making decisions under pressure.

Cremation vs. Burial
One of the most common decisions families face is whether to opt for cremation or burial. It’s helpful to approach this subject with an open mind and a clear understanding of your loved one’s values, beliefs, and preferences. Some people may prefer cremation for its simplicity, cost-effectiveness, or environmental reasons, while others may lean toward burial for tradition or cultural beliefs. Offer the facts and let your loved one lead the discussion.

Advance Directives
In addition to funeral plans, having a conversation about healthcare directives and power of attorney is crucial. These legal documents outline the care a person wants (or doesn’t want) if they become unable to make decisions for themselves. While these may seem like heavy topics, they are invaluable for ensuring your loved one’s wishes are respected.

Reassure and Encourage Open Communication

Make sure your loved one knows they don’t have to make all the decisions at once. Let them know that planning ahead can be a gradual process and that you’re there to help. Encourage them to revisit their plans over time, as preferences and circumstances may change.

Offer the option of speaking with a professional, such as a funeral director, who can guide them through the process of advance planning and answer any questions they may have.

At Keohane Funeral & Cremation, we understand that talking about final wishes can be emotionally challenging. However, we also know that these conversations are an essential part of ensuring peace of mind for everyone involved. Planning is a gift that offers clarity, reduces stress, and ensures that your loved one’s preferences are honored.

By having an open, compassionate conversation about their final wishes, you are not only supporting your aging loved one, but also creating a foundation for your family to navigate a difficult time with understanding and care. If you need assistance or would like to learn more about the advance planning process, please reach out to us. We’re here to help guide you every step of the way.

Comprehensive Aftercare Services

Tue, 13 May 2025 19:08:40 GMT

By Keohane Funeral Home through Full-Circle Aftercare

As a trusted funeral and cremation provider, we at Keohane Funeral & Cremation understand that the need for support doesn’t end when the service does. We are dedicated to guiding families through every step of the end-of-life journey with care, dignity, and compassion. That’s why we’ve partnered with Full-Circle Aftercare to offer comprehensive post-funeral services. This collaboration helps families navigate the often-overwhelming practical and emotional challenges that follow a loss, providing the guidance and resources they need to move forward with confidence and peace of mind.

Key Aftercare Services Offered

Final Affairs Guidance
After a loss, aftercare services provide personalized support to help families navigate estate paperwork, ensuring all necessary legal and administrative tasks are completed efficiently.

Notification Assistance
The service includes assistance with notifying relevant parties, such as government agencies, financial institutions, and insurance companies, alleviating the burden on grieving families.

Benefit Claim Assistance
Families receive help in claiming entitled benefits, including those from Social Security, pensions, and insurance policies, ensuring they receive the support they are entitled to.

Fraud Protection
Full-Circle Aftercare offers services to protect the deceased's identity, including blocking junk mail, updating the deceased’s registry, and canceling memberships or subscriptions, safeguarding against potential fraud.

Personalized Support
The team works closely with families to understand their unique situations, providing compassionate and professional assistance tailored to their needs.

Why Choose Full-Circle Aftercare?

Full-Circle Aftercare distinguishes itself through its empathetic approach, professionalism, and comprehensive support services. By partnering with Keohane Funeral & Cremation, they ensure that families receive continuous care and assistance, allowing them to focus on healing while managing the practical aspects of post-funeral arrangements.

For more information, please get in touch with Keohane directly at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

After Goodbye:

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 16:54:23 GMT

How to Support a Grieving Loved One After the Mourning Period Ends

Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. While society often places an invisible deadline on mourning –expecting people to return to "normal" after the funeral, memorial service, or a few months – it’s rarely that simple. The reality is that loss lingers, often in quiet and unseen ways. If you have a loved one who has lost someone, your support remains just as important in the weeks, months, and even years after the immediate mourning period.

Here are meaningful ways to support a grieving friend or family member long after the funeral ends:

Understand That Grief Doesn’t Have an Expiration Date

After the formal mourning period ends, many people assume their grieving loved one is "doing better." However, grief doesn’t disappear – it evolves. Special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays can resurface painful emotions, sometimes even more intensely than right after the loss. Instead of expecting them to have "moved on," recognize that grief is a lifelong process.

Giving your loved ones all the time they need to adjust to the shifting dynamics of their lives can be a powerful message. Let them know it’s okay to still talk about their loved one and you would be honored to hear about their cherished memories and/or emerging challenges. Check in regularly, even months later, to see how they’re feeling and acknowledge their feelings. Help them celebrate and observe any milestones or anniversaries related to the person they lost.

Continue to Offer Practical Help

Immediately following a loss, many people receive an outpouring of support including meals, childcare, and housework help. But over time, those offers dwindle, even though the person may still be struggling. They may be dealing with emotional exhaustion, financial stress, or even day-to-day life tasks that feel overwhelming.

This is a great opportunity to help someone reenter the everyday world after a loss. Offer specific, tangible help, like running errands or preparing a meal. If they have children, offer to babysit or take over carpool. Ask if they’d like you to provide some insight on sorting out financial or legal matters if they’re still dealing with paperwork related to their loss.

Keep Their Loved One’s Memory Alive

One of the biggest fears for many grieving people is that their loved one will be forgotten. As time passes, people may avoid bringing up their name, thinking it will upset the bereaved. In reality, many grieving individuals find comfort in knowing that others remember their lost loved one.

Remind someone experiencing grief that while a loved one is gone, they are never forgotten. Reinforce this level of comfort by sharing a memory or story about their loved one. Send a text or card on significant dates, like the anniversary of their passing, not everything has to be formal, it’s just nice to be remembered. Donating to a charity in their loved one’s honor is also a beautiful gesture.

Be There on the Hard Days

Grief has no set pattern. Your loved one may seem okay one day and deeply sorrowful the next. Certain days such as the first birthday without their loved one, can be especially difficult. Loneliness is often one of the hardest aspects of long-term grief.

Ask ahead about upcoming tough dates and offer to spend time with them. You can plan something meaningful for significant days, whether it’s lighting a candle in remembrance or simply sharing a meal. It’s important to be patient and let them express their feelings without rushing them to feel better.

Encourage Professional Support, If Needed

While grief is a natural process, prolonged or intense grief that interferes with daily life might require professional help. Some people feel hesitant to seek therapy or grief counseling, especially long after the loss. If you notice they are struggling significantly, gently encourage them to seek additional support.

Admitting you need professional help and taking steps to secure it can be overwhelming. Offer to help the bereaved find a grief counselor or support group. Normalize seeking help by sharing positive experiences with therapy if you have any. Most importantly, let them know that getting support isn’t a sign of weakness, but a way to heal.

Respect Their Unique Grieving Process

No two people grieve the same way. Some may need to talk about their loss often, while others may process it more privately. Some find healing in work or new hobbies, while others need solitude. The key is to support them in whatever way feels right for them.

Ask how your loved one prefers to be supported rather than assuming. It’s imperative to avoid phrases like "You should be over it by now" or "At least they lived a long life” as this can come off as invalidating their feelings. No matter what, accept their way of grieving, even if it looks different from yours.

Final Thoughts: Love That Lasts Beyond Goodbye

Grief doesn’t end when the world stops sending sympathy cards. Your continued support –whether it’s a simple text, an invitation for coffee, or just listening without judgment – can make a profound difference in someone’s healing journey. By showing up long after the funeral flowers have wilted, you’re offering the greatest gift: the reassurance that love, care, and remembrance don’t fade with time. And remember, the Keohane team will assist you with grief support whenever you need – reach out to us anytime for help.

Even after goodbye, your presence can remind them that they are not alone.

The Healing Power of Ritual

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 16:43:22 GMT

How Funeral Traditions Help Us Grieve

Grief is a deeply personal and often overwhelming experience. In times of loss, funeral traditions – whether longstanding or newly created – offer structure, meaning, and solace. Rituals help us process emotions, honor the deceased, and find a path forward. Across cultures, funeral customs provide a framework for expressing sorrow, celebrating life, and supporting one another.

Why Rituals Matter in Grief

Rituals play a vital role in the grieving process, serving as steady anchors amid emotional upheaval. During times of loss, they provide a sense of continuity and predictability, offering mourners a structured space to navigate their sorrow. Specific rites and ceremonies create an environment where emotions can be expressed openly and communally, allowing individuals to feel supported and understood.

Rituals also serve as a meaningful way to honor the deceased, celebrating their life, legacy, and the impact they had on others. Moreover, these customs foster a deep sense of connection, uniting family and friends in shared remembrance and healing. By participating in traditions, mourners find solace in their cultural and familial ties, strengthening their resilience and providing a bridge between the past and the future. In this way, rituals not only commemorate those we have lost, but also help us move forward with a sense of continuity and belonging.

Creating Your Own Meaningful Rituals

While cultural traditions provide a framework for mourning, families may also find comfort in creating personal rituals to honor their loved ones in unique and meaningful ways. One such approach is organizing memory gatherings, where family and friends come together annually to share stories, light candles, or assemble a scrapbook filled with cherished moments.

Symbolic acts, such as planting a tree, releasing biodegradable balloons, or dedicating a bench in a special location, can serve as lasting tributes to the departed. Writing letters to a lost loved one can also be a deeply personal and healing practice, offering a way to maintain a sense of connection even after their passing. Music and storytelling further preserve their essence, whether through a curated playlist of their favorite songs or recorded narratives that capture their spirit and impact.

Additionally, performing acts of kindness in their honor such as volunteering, supporting a charitable cause they valued, or simply spreading goodwill ensures that their legacy lives on through positive actions. By incorporating these personal rituals, families can find solace, celebrate their loved one’s unique life, and foster an enduring connection that transcends loss.

Finding Comfort in Tradition and Innovation

Funeral rituals – whether ancient or newly created – help navigate the pain of loss and celebrate the life that was lived. They offer an opportunity to gather, reflect, and move forward with love and remembrance. Whether embracing cultural customs or crafting personalized tributes, the healing power of ritual provides comfort, connection, and meaning in times of sorrow.

Employee Spotlight: Brigette Gibson, Funeral Director

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 16:09:13 GMT

Brigette Gibson, Funeral Director

You’re a Quincy native from a large family. You were familiar with Keohane from growing up, right?

Yes, through growing up in Quincy, but actually, John Keohane raised his family right across the street from my grandmother. And John’s wife, who I call Miss Wilk, was my kindergarten teacher at Sacred Heart!

How did you end up working at Keohane and becoming the Office Manager for the Weymouth locations?

COVID, I think for everyone, was a time of change and reflection. My son was five months old when COVID started. It was such a blur back then, but I knew I didn't want to go back to what I was doing. I thought I’d work part-time and be home more with him. So I went on Indeed and saw that there was a job for a part-time bookkeeper here. I thought, “that's great, part-time! I can do that. I can still be home with him. I don't have to send him to daycare full-time. I started as the bookkeeper and I did that for about a year.

During that time, I did the books but I also wanted to learn everything. I started listening to people answer the phones. Some of the staff took me under their wings and when they heard me speak with people, they said “you have a knack for this. You make people feel comfortable and you’re trustworthy. You follow through with whatever you say.”

John Keohane noticed something in me and one day he came to my office and said “Brigette, I want you to be the Office Manager.” I told him I wasn’t sure. Even though I was never actually part-time, I was working 40-45 hours a week from the start because I loved it and wanted to learn everything. I liked what I was doing. But it’s very hard to say no to John, and so I became the Office Manager (laughs).

What did you do before joining Keohane?

I went to nursing school. When you’re 17 years old and someone says “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I thought I wanted to be a nurse. I learned very quickly that I didn’t want to be a nurse! I was still trying to find myself and was waitressing and working as a nanny, but it didn’t spark my joy. Something was missing. When I started working at Keohane, I realized that I love the family care that comes with this job.

You’re now a full-time Funeral Director!

Yes! I passed all my exams last September and was sworn in.

What’s the transition been like? Are there days when you wake up and think “I can’t believe this is what I’m doing now?”

I’ve enjoyed every aspect, from being the bookkeeper and managing the office to now being a funeral director. I’ve appreciated every single moment. And now that I’m here, I still want to learn, I still want to know what’s next for this career? How else can I grow? There are eight funeral directors at Keohane and each of them has taught me something over the past two years, and they still do. I still rely on them every single day and I’m still learning.

It sounds like you’ve received a kind of parallel education at Keohane, in addition to what you learned in college to get the degree.

Yes. And the other funeral directors will come to me when they have a billing question or death certificate question, things that I’ve done behind the scenes over the past few years, because as the Office Manager I handled all of the scheduling and death certificate information and calling the doctors and the churches and organizing.

What are some of the basic responsibilities of a funeral director?

It starts with the first phone call, and it could be a call before someone has passed, or it’s the first call after someone has passed. We’re there to help guide them. We’re not there to tell them what to do; we’re there to help them make decisions. We have to ask the hard questions. Death is still taboo to some people. They’ve never talked about death with their loved ones . It’s counseling people, discovering how they want to celebrate their loved one’s life. We explain to them that if they want to hold visiting hours, this is what’s going to happen. This is what you’ve got to do. And then we sit down together with the family and plan the services. There can be a lot of juggling.

Some family members might have different opinions on services. Our job is to guide and educate them on what’s best. And then, getting all of the Mass information and planning the Mass and scheduling visiting hours and services and cemetery info. If you don’ thave a cemetery propery, do you opt for cremation? Cremation opens a lot of options as well, which a lot of families are now choosing, and we as funeral directors can help them plan what to do.

You become a kind of therapist in a way, providing a voice of calm when there’s so much difficulty swirling around them.

This is already a hard day. You don’t need to make it harder by focusing too much on the smaller details. We’ll help you with all of this.

There’s also the aftercare when services have ended. Families go home and they have to sit with some of those feelings. Often they’ll start to get anxious about closing a bank account and what do do with the cars. We’re there to answer any questions a family may ask, and if we don’t know the answer, we’ll try to get them the answer. We’re here to help you. And sometimes when I’m out and about, someone will come up to me and say “oh, you ran my grandmother’s service,” or “you were the funeral director at my uncle’s wake” and they offer such kind feedback. I love that about this job.

What does an apprenticeship as a funderal director entail? What are some of the responsibilities that you took on during that period?

My apprenticeship was a lot different than most people’s. I never came to Keohane thinking I’d be a funeral director. John (Keohane) said “I see something special in you and let’s work this through,” because I was still the Office Manager! I was educated, I had the skills, but I still wanted to learn everything hands-on that I was learning in school. So I’d go on transfers, I would be in the care center helping as a second pair of hands, observing as much as I could. I’d help set up visiting hours, help on funerals whereever I was needed. We all need to learn. It’s not my family; it’s our family we’re serving.

How difficult was it to manage your studies while doing your day job and maintaining your family life?

I went to school full time and I still raised a family and I just got it done. I took summer courses. I took winter courses. I had a goal that I was going to get this done in less than two years. And I did. It was a blur. I couldn't tell you about the past few years. But I'm really proud of being able to do that as a mom and working full-time. Just being a mom and going back to school in my late 30s… you guys can do this! Just just put your head down and power through it.

The industry is changing quite a lot. Americans are becoming less religiously affiliated. Cremation is becoming a much more popular option than it used to be. How do you adapt to meet the changing needs for funeral care?

Ooh, good question! As funeral directors, now we can become creative. We can make services that much more personable and build them around what the family wants. I’ve been lucky enough to have a few families that didn’t want to go to church but still wanted a service.It might take a little longer to pull some of the information out of them, but once we do, we’re able to dig into our creative sides. I felt that I was able to do that with some of these families that wanted to choose their own service, and I got to know the decedent that much better. I got to know who I was serving.

I had a service for a Deadhead (Grateful Dead fan) a few months ago. The decedent’s brother told me that he liked the Dead, followed the band around for a long time. So everyone wore tie dye to the funeral, they shared stories about traveling around the U.S., and we played Grateful Dead music. The man’s nephew got up and sang a Grateful Dead song with his guitar. When they were leaving, the man’s brother said “this is exactly what he would have wanted. This is exactly how his friends saw him. This was the closure that we needed.

What are your favorite parts of the job?

Oh God, there’s so many! I like the initial arrangement with the family. I feel like the families come in so nervous. They don’t know what to expect. We just start to talk. I don’t jump into the arrangements right away. I’ll listen to someone share their stories and their memories for as long as it takes. I truly enjoy that aspect, getting to know them. I’ll ask them about their family member who’s passed, and they often will start sharing stories and memories right away .

And towards the end of the service, when the family will stop and take a moment to say “thank you, thank you for doing this.” I always tell them that they were doing the hard work. This is what I love to do, and it’s a gift.

Keohane does a lot of outreach in the community. What are a few of your favorite local community organizations?

It’s been awesome to see Dennis (Keohane), especially, have such a passion for the playground or the skate park. I’m most passionate about Quincy, since I’m born and raised here. I love seeing the Keohanes involved with the Quincy 400 and Interfaith Social Services and the annual coat drive. We’re a staple of the community.

You can contact Brigette Gibson via email: brigette@keohane.com or call 781.335.0045.

Meet the full Keohane team here .

Understanding Cremation: Myths, Facts, and Informed Decision-Making

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 16:02:14 GMT

Cremation has become an increasingly popular choice for end-of-life arrangements. Per the National Funeral Directors Association, 62% of people opt for cremation, nearly double the volume of people choosing a traditional burial.

Despite the rising volume of cremations in the U.S., misconceptions about the process persist. This blog post aims to dispel the most common myths, provide you with factual information, and help you in making informed decisions regarding cremation. Of course, you are always welcome to speak with a Keohane team member to answer specific questions or learn more in-depth what our process entails.

Myth 1: Cremation Is Environmentally Harmful

Fact: Traditional cremation involves high energy consumption and emissions. However, advancements have led to more eco-friendly alternatives. For instance, water cremation, also known as alkaline hydrolysis, is considered gentler and more sustainable than conventional methods. Additionally, you can choose a biodegradable urn or scatter ashes in meaningful locations to further reduce environmental impact. (We can help you arrange a scattering of ashes on land or sea; learn more here .)

Myth 2: Cremation Limits Memorialization Options

Fact: Cremation offers a variety of personalized memorialization choices. Beyond traditional urns, ashes can be incorporated into special jewelry , artwork, or even planted with a tree to create a living memorial. These options provide families like yours with meaningful ways to honor your loved ones.

Myth 3: Religious Beliefs Prohibit Cremation

Fact: While some religions have specific guidelines regarding body disposition, many have become more accepting of cremation. It's essential that you consult with your spiritual advisor to understand your faith's current stance, making sure that your choices align with your beliefs.

Myth 4: Cremation is Less Respectful Than Burial

Fact: Respect and dignity are paramount in both cremation and burial processes. Keohane Funeral and Cremation adheres to strict protocols to ensure that the deceased is handled with the utmost care, regardless of the chosen method. We hold sacred the tremendous responsibility you’ve given us in your time of need.

Making an Informed Decision

When considering cremation, take the following factors into account:

Personal Values: Consider your environmental concerns, spiritual beliefs, and personal preferences.
Family Wishes: Engage in open discussions with family members to ensure that the chosen method honors collective sentiments. This is another reason why advanced planning is such a worthwhile investment of your time.
Financial Considerations: Cremation can be more cost-effective than traditional burials, though your costs will vary based on the services you choose.
Legal Requirements: Familiarize yourself with local regulations and ensure all necessary documentation is in order.

At Keohane, we understand deeply that choosing between cremation and burial is an intensely personal decision. Our compassionate team is here to provide you with comprehensive information, answer all of your questions, and support you in making the best choices for you and your family’s values and wishes. Contact us today to learn more about our cremation services and how we may assist you in arriving at your best choices.

Meet The Pierce Brothers!

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 15:42:45 GMT

Community Spotlight:

Jonathan Pierce and David Pierce offer a unique service: officiating weddings, funerals, and memorial services. Their personalized approach reflects the life of the deceased in a way that resonates with loved ones. If religious rituals and/or spiritual language are important to you, Jonathan and David will include them in a meaningful way to you and your loved ones. If you prefer not to include spiritual or religious language, none will be added.

For this quarter’s Keohane newsletter, we spoke with the brothers in detail about their backgrounds and approach to delivering this essential service.

You are both graduates of divinity schools. It's interesting that as brothers, you both chose that path. Was it a calling that you felt early on? Or was there a circuitous route that led you to attending a divinity school?

David Pierce: My route, at least early on, was a pretty straight shot. I had a clear sense that I was going to end up eventually going to a seminary or divinity school. I've mostly worked in parish settings, church settings. Of course, as part of any church parish setting, you do a lot of funerals, you provide a lot of care to a lot of families in grief and in crisis. So funeral services and crafting services and working with funeral homes has always been part of my work, largely through my work in more church parish settings.

Jonathan Pierce: Not at all for me. I went to undergrad at the College of William & Mary.I thought I wanted to study languages and political science or government, and I took a religion course, and that kind of set me on a different path. I realized I love the study of religion. David and I grew up in a family where church and Christian faith were really important, and I took great pleasure in learning to think and look critically at these things that I'd already always only understood in a very personal way.

After undergrad, I realized that I had a lot more questions than answers, and Divinity School seemed like a great place to go ask those questions. And so, it was a very not well thought out, kind of a very selfish, navel-gazing kind of path. I wanted to go to study more, to ask more questions. I really had no career goals in mind. I knew I didn't want to work for a church, and I didn't.

And you graduate from Divinity School, you still have to get a job.

JP: You're not going to be in a church, you've got to pay the bills somehow. I ended up working in hospice chaplaincy, and it was not formally a calling. It literally was, what job am I going to do? And I think I might enjoy that.

If you think you enjoy hospice chaplaincy, it might be the right thing for you, because it's a weird thing to feel like you might be good at. But I enjoyed it, I was good at it, and in fact, I loved it. And I guess it became a kind of calling, it became what I felt like I should do.

And it was through doing that work that I, like David, but through a different means, found myself officiating hundreds of funerals and memorial services over my 15-year hospice career, certainly over 1,000 now. And it was through that work that I first met the Keohanes. My work supporting hospice people on the South Shore brought me into their orbit before David and I started this enterprise.

It must be so meaningful, knowing the impact you're having on a family and friends and the community and the person that's transitioning. That's got to be quite extraordinary to carry forth, although constantly being surrounded by death and dying must be tough after a while.

JP: I would say that as a practicing meditator, someone for whom meditation and mindfulness is really important, being close to death, again, this marks me as a weirdo in cultural terms, but it's a very helpful thing because it keeps me honest about the stakes of living and what matters and being around people at end of life and certainly in communal memorial services.

Yes, people are going through a very hard time, but they're also really trying to be at their best. And that's a very special thing to see. I mean, even when families aren't at their best, it's special to see the ways in which they're trying and succeeding despite failing. There's a beautiful quality. It's never not interesting.

You shared a bit about your background in our opening conversation. You mentioned growing up in a very Christian household.

DP: Faith was sort of central to your lives.

What was that like growing up? Was it church every week and living the faith?

DP: I would say for both of us growing up, the part of my faith that I really appreciated early on and have not stopped appreciating was a really strong sense of a caring community. It took me a long time before I started questioning the values that undergirded that community and started thinking more critically on my own terms about even what the word faith means and how I come to apply that and make space for that in my life. But none of that for me has ever changed the fact that growing up, I was pretty fortunate to be circled by a lot of caring people, people who genuinely wanted to look out for their neighbors. Genuinely, people that fit the cliche of, the people that showed up with casserole dishes on the front doorstep for every death. And I really came to see a certain hopefulness and came to appreciate what that stood for and that the place that it held in the lives of the people around me, came to hold that place for me as well.

And I think for me, a lot of my own sense of, whether you want to call it vocation or calling or just career choice, had to do with wanting to be in community. And I'm still doing in my approach to working with families now through Keohane. A lot of the families we work with are families that I don't meet until I get the call saying that there's a family looking to have a service and they want to find a way to honor their loved one and to tell their loved one's story.

That's usually the first time I meet them. And I still come at that thinking about, ‘what is it going to look like and what is it going to mean to be in community with this family and to care at the end of the day?’ To care enough to want to know their story, who was their loved one? What were the things that were important to their loved one? What were the things their loved one found great struggle in in their life? For me, those are all elements of community that really, I started figuring those parts out really early on. I think the parts that have more to do with how I now interpret and understand my own faith, and even how I think about what it means to call myself one particular thing, say, a Christian, I think of that a lot more critically now than I did in the community that I grew up in.

JP: Being a part of a religious community growing up, church was a big part of our youth. I mean, going to Sunday school, going to church, going to Bible camp in the summer. We grew up in a little evangelical church, which were outliers here in New England at the time. And as David underscored, the nice part about that, was learning how to be around people that were similar, but also different.

I'm even thinking of being around a lot of older people. Our grandparents, but also all of their friends. And I wouldn't have been a successful hospice chaplain or a funeral officiant if I hadn't learned how to engage intergenerationally. That's a huge plus. And a big part of my college and divinity school experience was getting critical distance from that world. And the end result for me was that world really ended up feeling much too small for a number of reasons.

I took a long time away from church and from spiritual community generally, because I wasn't sure there was one that was big enough to hold the multitudes that is me. I mean, I spent years in psychotherapy. I love psychoanalytic Freudian stuff. And I'm a Buddhist practitioner. I practice meditation in a Buddhist mindfulness way. I've added a lot of self-care community things to my well-being that are not Christian or even religious. They're just as important to who I am in the world as the Christian faith I grew up in.

I also never said no to the Christian faith I grew up in. I never rejected it, but I argued with it. I put it down and I turned away from it. And I just kind of held those things in tension until holding them in tension didn't feel like a complicated thing. I wouldn't say I resolved anything, but I resolved to be someone who, as Walt Whitman said, contains multitudes.

And if I contradict myself, well, all right. And that has been very helpful to me in the work I do, because being a hospice chaplain and doing funerals in the way David and I do them is about being present to anyone and everyone. I've done funerals for non-practicing Jewish people, and I've done a lot of funerals over the years for African-American families where I'm one of the only white people there. I mean, really supporting people across all manner of difference. It’s risky, crazy, scary in some ways--and it's also lovely and fun. I think I love that about being a person of faith, being open to all.

I'll say this now, I’ve organized and facilitated on the South Shore, for the people that might be reading this, a new non-religious spiritual practice and volunteer community. It's really a spiritual community for people that identify as “nones,” and non-practicing people. It's meant to be welcoming and inclusive of people that find traditional religious community a little too constricting.

At a time where religious affiliation is declining and yet there are people following the non-denominational Christian part, people are still seeking in some way. They're looking for answers, but they're also looking for some form of belonging and a sense of something larger than themselves, in whatever form that might take. Most major religions--Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism--effectively boil down to love thy neighbor. Yet we seem to stray so far away from that or to use commentaries as leverage to avoid having to love our neighbors without qualification. And so the group that you're talking about Jonathan, I think people want to be able to explore this in a safe environment to do so, is really valuable.

JP: I think it's worth noting. Culturally speaking, you don't have to be a sociologist to know that most of the people, even the non-practicing people on the South Shore, identify or grew up in some kind of Christian community and/or Catholic. I'm very happy to be both literate but authentically literate in the language those people speak because it's comforting and there's no need to say no to two things just because you are non-practicing or you found other things helpful. There's no need to say no to the things that you have found helpful before or that are part of your family system.

That's just as important to me as being available to people who don't identify with anything but need support at end of life.

DP: Being able for me to come alongside of a family, particularly in in time of death, when you're thinking about crafting a service, is that I'm not looking to interpret for a family what they should be thinking in that moment. I'm not even looking to help provide meaning to the moment for them. I really am stepping into the moment with just sheer curiosity, and curiosity is one of the things that was not part of our faith upbringing. In fact, if anything, I like to think that we were taught to not be curious.

And, I sort of am drawn to your comment about “love thy neighbor.” It’s pretty universal and bedrock. And it's just good human practice. But I think, right alongside of that, you have to be curious about your neighbor. I think for me, it's really also about just asking good questions. If I'm okay with what I don't know in a moment, I find that families are more inclined to also be okay with what they don't know. So, if anything, one of the things that I've tried to grow into is being very comfortable with what I don't know and not feeling like I have to reconcile that.

You know, if I'm trying to reconcile those things for myself, then the family I'm working with is going to feel like they're somehow or another supposed to be doing that as well. And that's not important. That's a pressure and expectation that doesn't have any necessary place in memorializing or celebrating a loved one..

Walt Whitman famously said, be curious, not judgmental. And it's a great approach to life is just to hold that curiosity without having an opinion about it. I'm curious in both of your careers prior to this endeavor that you launched, what led to creating the Pierce Brothers as a service offering, effectively for weddings, funerals and memorial services?

We should be clear that this is this is a part time enterprise for us that exists alongside other full-time work that we do. Thankfully, our full-time work has tremendous flexibility and bandwidth to be able to do this work also, which is economically helpful to us, but also practically what that's worth.

What are your full time jobs outside of this?

DP: I'm still in full-time parish work. I'm still working in a church, in a faith community full-time. And part of what led to this was, I have just found over the last five or six years especially, and I do attribute some of this to the pandemic and to the shifts that occurred in community life for a lot of people during the pandemic, I have just found that I am my own people, if you will, that are sharing space with me and holding space with me as part of my own parish.

They are wandering outside of the traditions and the customs and the practices of their own church when it comes to funeral services. I do very few services anymore inside of any kind of established church building. I find that even with my own congregants, they're not even coming.

They're working out of a funeral home. I was really getting a lot closer in working with funeral homes in the area and finding that they were calling more often. I was getting a lot more calls from funeral homes saying “there's a family and they've had a death. They would like to do something, but they don't know what.” And that's kind of the beginning of it. They would call and there was a sense for them that in calling me and in calling Jonathan, that we would be people that would come alongside of them and help them tease out whatever that what is, in a way that it's going to feel authentic and real for them. And in a way that is not going to feel like they're going to be given something canned or rehearsed.

JP: Yeah, there's absolutely nothing canned at all about what we do. I can honestly say of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of services I've done, I've never done two that are the same. And when I say they're not the same, I don't just mean I switch out the names.

DP: The sense of belonging and intimacy is different in every single service. And more often than not, I find that that's at the end of the day, if you get a family that comes back and they say, Wow, I had no idea that that was the experience we were going to have. And that, you know, that was healing. That was joyful, even. It was meaningful. It was sacred. It was clarifying. I think most often what I hear people say is, “I had no idea. I had no idea it could be that good.”

That's quite a compliment to you. It’s got to be so gratifying to hear that.

Well, I'm usually seeing the same thing about my own experience, quite honestly. I'm generally coming away from it and saying that was lovely.

JP: You know, every time I'm hearing stories I don't know, and am really amazed at people's abilities. On the one hand, I've seen more times than I can count someone who feels like they can't get up to speak getting up and doing it. That happens almost every time. But every time it happens, it's amazing to see that particular individual, who we spent a little bit of time getting to know, doing it.

And it's amazing to see the person who's being memorialized and celebrated, tokind of feel the way their spirit comes alive in the room. As a as a postmodern kind of believer…I don't necessarily believe in miracles because I've never seen one, because as a hospice chaplain, death operated with 100% certainty. Yet, when I'm at a memorial service, there is something that is a little super ordinary. I wouldn't I wouldn't call it magical. I wouldn't even call it sacred, but it's very special. The sense of something alive coming, the sense of love being bigger than death.

And that, wow, we can we can talk through what's hard and challenging. We can we can speak our truth about this person. And even if the person was a hard to love person, which happens. Life's complicated. We find the words to say what we need to say and it ends up being good. And that's the hidden secret. It’s amazing.

DP: People will say that. I think some of that is cultural around our own perceptions and experiences of death, you know, which feels about as powerful a force to be reckoned with as any in the human experience, I suppose. But I think there's a lot to be said for good practice, first off. But whenever someone says that to me, my first response is always to say, “well, what do you do?” You know, and I had a woman who said this the other day. She's like, “how do you do that?” And I said, “Well, what do you do?” And she said, “I teach kindergarten.” I said “well, how the hell do you do that? I couldn't do that.” You know, we assume that what other people are doing must be harder than what we do.

And oftentimes we discover that there's far more within us than we realized.

JP: Yeah, for sure. I don't know if this partially answers that question too but I've been organizing this new community on the South Shore called Mindfulness Plus. And that operates in association with a congregational church in Cohasset, where I'm also the minister.

Partly what I'm trying to do across the board is create new spaces alongside the old and familiar and offering this church I'm working for a chance to reconnect with new people in the community in new ways via mindfulness practice. One of the reasons I was drawn to spiritual organizing spiritual community and left hospice was, as David and I have done this work-and it's going to sound like a brag, I don’t mean it to—but people seeing a funeral or memorial that is done with care and that privilege is the language in the spirit and the sense of spirituality that they already bring. And it starts with, as David said, with curiosity, people would, after a service, ask, “do you have a church?” And I know these are people that don't go to church. They're like, “wow, I'd like to be a part of like this.” I don't know what they're noticing exactly. Maybe they're noticing that curiosity or that openness, or to compare it to what they knew growing up and what they left. There’s sort of a fixed image in their minds of what church is.

And when you are somewhat radically apart from that, it changes their entire perspective. “Oh, I didn't realize that it could be this. I didn't realize a funeral could look like this.” I remember one of the very first funerals David and I ever did was our grandfather's, a number of years ago. And one of our uncles, my aunt's husband, he grew up, Catholic in Fall River. And he saw David. I don't think he'd ever been in our Protestant church. I think his parents told me you should never go inside it. And, he ended up leaving his Catholic faith. But I remember that day when he saw David and I standing up front, praying out loud and he saw that and said, “I had no idea ministers could do that. I had no idea ministers could get up and walk up front without having to be scared of being struck by lightning!” People don’t know what they don’t know, and they’re amazed when they see freedom and curiosity.

Storytelling is at the core of what you do, whether it's a wedding, a funeral, memorial service. How do you develop the stories for each of these? David, at the beginning of the conversation you mentioned that every service is unique. Jonathan, you affirmed that as well. How do you develop the appropriate stories for these events?

DP: I think the best way to answer that is to give you an example. I did a service just a couple days ago on the South Shore and I spoke with the spouse, and sometimes when I make connection with a family, there's always one person that you come through the door to. But then after you meet that person, they'll connect you with a daughter or son or son in law or cousin. But in this case, it was just the wife of the deceased man. I was curious in all the ways that I'm curious and she just didn't offer much. She didn't have a lot to say and I got the sense that not having a lot to say was because she didn't want a lot to be said.

I came to find out after the fact that they had a couple children, but they'd been estranged and she didn't share that with me, but I started getting the sense as she was talking about him, but not mentioning them. I asked, what's the one thing that you would say if you knew that it was never going to be told? The story then became about how we all have a story with unpublished pages. Every life has got some unpublished pages to it.

All we were able to do with the service was for me to invite people to think within themselves quietly. It was a very small service, which allowed some space within the service for people to sit quietly and to think about their own page of this person's story. And we didn't speak it, which was very different for me.

In some ways, it's a counterintuitive thing for me, because you might assume that when people call us, they're looking for someone to do some talking, right? For me to then lead a service and just give them space to think about who this person was to us, and to particularly sit with the pieces that we would not want to ever say out loud…she told me afterwards that that was particularly powerful for her because no one had given her the permission to do that. And so that became the story--the story actually became the story we didn't tell.

It was an interesting twist. Now, this woman, interestingly enough, when I asked her about other pieces of the service, and whether she wanted to include any music, she said he was a huge Beach Boys fan and that he loved the original Beach Boys stuff, like “Fun, Fun, Fun” and “Little Deuce Coupe.” And she said that we're not going to play that at the funeral. We ended up playing a Beatles song instead, “I'll Follow the Sun.”

I asked her, why not? Why can't we play a Beach Boys song? And that too, with just that simple question, freed her to think about how we go about making these decisions. How do we sum up a life? Who tells us that you can't do that, or you have to do this? That's a big part of the work, creating the space where people can find a little bit of freedom.

And it's interesting that she said that no one had ever given her that permission before, when so often, this is more philosophical than anything else. But in life, so often, we wait for someone to give us permissions, as opposed to recognizing that we inherently have it and just need to grant it to ourselves to take whatever action step we want to take.

Jonathan, do you have anything you want to add?

JP: My role is to create welcoming, warm space and put people at ease so they can tell the story they're there to tell. I usually encourage families, in addition to having one or two people who are going to speak or give a eulogy, to open up the floor for other people to speak. And usually when you do that, there are special things shared. Part of the way I create that safe space is when I'm listening to a family before the service talk about their loved ones.

I’ll share a few things that I know in my words of welcome. I’ll share a few things that are told to me. And I'll also make it clear that I only know the person that we're celebrating through stories, that stories are the means by which at which I know this person, and it's important to tell these stories. I don't try to make more of the person than I'm able to make.

I don't try to hide my interest in it. If I've been told something that's special or fun, I make clear that I enjoyed hearing it. If the family told me the person’s death was hard, I make room for people to feel the heaviness of it because that's what they need to feel. And then I I encourage them. I invite them to tell their stories and model how to do that a little bit at the beginning.

You’ve both led a lot of celebrations in a variety of settings. What the most unique memorial service you participated in? And how do you help people in refining their ideas?

I did a memorial service in the clubhouse of a condominium community, and the only thing they had for me to place my papers upon that I had brought with me for the service was a keg. And it was totally clear that they thought that that was not only totally appropriate, but completely awesome! So I just played into it. We talked about what it was about that space and about the choices that were being made to have the service where we were having it and having a keg for a pulpit. This family was very specific that they did not want any prayers offered. It's not unusual to have a family say, because I'll always ask, “would you like me to offer any prayers in the service?” Sometimes they'll say no, so we, as part of the service, instead of offering prayer, we offer toasts.

JP: Like David, I've done on boats, I've done them in backyard barbecues…in the spirit of what David said about toasts, I did a service once at a Knights of Columbus. The guy was part of a biker club and died in the 60s. They had an open bar all throughout the service.

It was the kind of service where people were mostly sitting and listening to what was going on, but they had their drinks and were eating food. And, when I was sitting at the front, the guy's son played “Wish You Were Here” on the guitar as his tribute to his dad. It was amazing. As I'm up front looking out, there's this huge picture that had been blown up near the bar of the deceased, leaning against his bike. He was like holding up his favorite beer.

At the end of the service, when it came time to give a final blessing, after looking at this picture the whole time, I said, “if you've been to a funeral before, you'll see the priest, when they give the final blessing, they put their hands out like this.” And I picked up a Budweiser that was there too! I was like everyone else, when Rome. I picked up my Budweiser and said, “how about this?” And I held up my arms like a minister would, with the Budweiser in my hand, just like the picture of the guy. I gave my final blessings, trying to mirror back the words and the stories people shared. And that felt so right.

Of course, everyone was thought that was the funniest, coolest thing. But really, I was doing as everyone was doing and owning that in the moment. I'll never forget that ceremony.

That's the most spiritual use I've ever heard Budweiser!

DP: If I can just to add in, to go full circle on my own story…one of the things that I take as great compliment, and I use that word humbly, is if I've left a service that was in a condominium clubhouse with a keg for a pulpit and, someone says, “you really helped me today to find something very deeply meaningful that I can walk out of here carrying my heart has a fullness to it that didn't have before. To use religious language: if someone even says, “wow, I had no idea that God could be found in these types of places, doing these types of things,” to me, that's a great compliment. Because at the end of the day, we're trying to show that, particularly around funeral services, the ground beneath us is still there.

How did you end up coming to work with Keohane and be the go-to resource when people are looking for an officiant?

JP: I'm very grateful to Dennis in particular because it was through doing a service with him that the idea came to me to offer my services with David and then to formally make a business out of it.

It came from working with Dennis on a particular service. I had done services at Keohane over the years with hospice patients, but a colleague of mine in hospice, her daughter died. It was a very tragic death, and it was a very big deal that rocked the community of that colleague of mine. Her daughter was 18 years old, and it was going to be a very hard and challenging service for the mother and all the people that loved her.

It was one of those that's very hard, and my colleague asked me, because I worked with her, and she knew me as a chaplain, and there was a sense of safety and rapport with me, and, her grief, as we say in hospice words, was very complicated. She had a lot of anger and definitely a big giant middle finger poked up toward the skies, like why?

Which, in that case, that was the question. For me to try to answer that would have been a height of insensitivity. That was the question we had to ask, while also making room to celebrate this young woman's life, and all that was beautiful in it, and so I did that service, and there were hundreds of people crammed into the McDonald-Keohane home in South Weymouth. I can imagine that that was a challenging service for Dennis as the lead funeral director. A lot of people, a lot of energy, and a lot of emotion, and that service, I felt—and I don't mean it in a professional sense-- I felt good after, because I was able to give my friend and all those gathered the opportunity to do something they needed to do. A couple of weeks later I had coffee with Dennis, and I was said “maybe I should be more forward in offering this support, because many people need an unconventional kind of support, and I know how to do that, I've done it a lot. Why not be intentional in offering it?” That experience was powerful, and in that sense, there's something here worth being more forward in offering rather than waiting for it to come. John and Dennis and their team call us regularly, because we want to be able to help people with this.

The Pierce Brothers can be reached at https://www.piercebrothers.org/ .

Jonathan Pierce’s community organization is Mindfulness Plus , a non-religious spiritual practice and volunteer community supporting the South Shore. Of particular interest to people in the Keohane orbit is the Living With Loss Community Support Group , which happens weekly in Hingham, open to all at no cost.

Feature Profile: The Rev. Edward Thornley, 9th Rector, The Episcopal Parish of St. John's the Evangelist, Hingham

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Fri, 15 Nov 2024 18:22:02 GMT

Father Ed Thornley joined St. John the Evangelist in July 2024, Previously, he served as Day School Chaplain and Associate Rector at St. Patrick’s Episcopal Church and Day School in Washington, D.C. A native of the U.K. from Canterbury, he studied theology at the University of Exeter, Westcott House in Cambridge (England) and Yale Divinity School. He served in the Church of England for eight years, before beginning his ministry in the Episcopal Church in Fort Worth, TX when he served as Middle and Upper School Chaplain at All Saints’ Episcopal School.

Father Ed and his wife, Dr. Devon Abts—a Massachusetts native and theologian specializing in religion and the arts—reside in the rectory with their cats, Spyro and Duke, and enjoy a wide range of activities together outside of their pastoral duties, including hiking, cooking, enjoying music and the arts, and traveling.

You’re the 9 ^th Rector of the Episcopal Parish of St. John’s the Evangelist in Hingham. What do your responsibilities as rector include?

I'm the priest in charge of the parish, and Rector is a traditional title for that. I oversee the parish. I have responsibility for worship, for pastoral care, for preaching and teaching and and also helping the church to be a presence in the wider community. We're obviously a Christian community and an Episcopal Church specifically, but we also play a role in the wider community as well, connecting with different organizations and institutions, civic responsibilities, and so on. So in a way, my main role is to help lead the parish in being that Christian presence in the community. We have, on a typical Sunday, between 130 and 200 people, although we have around 4,000 members in our parish directory, and growing. It’s a big church.

Coming from the U.K. and the Church of England, how do the Church of England and the Episcopalian Church interact?

It’s a close relationship. There's what's called the Worldwide Anglican Communion, and it's a network of churches internationally that all historically trace their history back to the Church of England and to the Archbishop of Canterbury. So the Episcopal Church is one of those churches that was born out of that history and tradition. I was ordained in the Church of England. My wife, Devon, is American, and we met over here, and so when we were thinking about moving back to the U.S. after being in the U.K. together for some years, I could transfer quite comfortably to the Episcopal Church here.

Please share a bit about your background. What should readers of this newsletter know about you?

My wife, Devon, is an academic theologian, and we met at Yale Divinity School. I was on an exchange program over here; I was at Westcott House in Cambridge and I came to Yale for one semester. Devon was starting an academic course at the same time when I came over to do some of my ordination training, and we met in classes one day, and that's how we got together.

Devon and I have family on both sides of the pond. We like traveling a lot. We have family and friends all over so we enjoy traveling. We're very big on hiking and cycling and getting outside. We also love cooking. We're vegetarians, but we're not too fussy anyway (laughs). We've got two cats, and we like spending time with our friends and family and getting involved in the community, just getting out and getting to know people. We just love learning and being among people.

You’ve been Rector for just a few months, having been brought on this past summer. How’s the experience been so far? What’s been a bigger challenge than expected? What’s been a pleasant surprise?

Although we arrived here in July, my official institution is on November 19, when the Bishop of of the Episcopal Diocese of Massachusetts will come and officially install me. It's been a really joyful move overall. I've been in specifically education chaplaincy for some years, having served parishes before, and so my role at St. John’s is a happy return to pairsh life. Though this is actually the first time I've been a Rector of a parish. I've been an associate and I've done basically the same kind of job before, but this is the first time I've been in charge. There are lots of new things to get used to; as well as being a priest who has responsibility for worship, pastoral care and preaching and being out in the community, I also have to oversee all the technical things, like, the finances and buildings and grounds committees and all the different organizational administrative elements. I've done those things before, and I enjoy them, but there are a lot of things like that to get used to very quickly. It’s been both a joy and a challenge in that respect. But the community has been so welcoming; they’ve made it easy, frankly. It's a very vibrant community, very active, people who really care about each other and about Hingham as well as about the church. We've loved it. It's been great!

Were you amazed at how many Dunkin’ Donuts there are in the area?

(Laughs) I love it! It’s one of the things that brought us back to New England.

You’re working on a Ph.D. in Divinity. Please shed some light: how does this work inform your philosophy as a member of the clergy? What does Divinity mean to you?

Gosh, that's a really great question! So divinity is the same as theology. Those two terms are kind of interchangeable, really. Divinity or theology essentially means talking about God, studying God and faith and religious belief, generally speaking. And for me, that's within the Christian faith, obviously, but, my Ph.D. is, in a nutshell, about how Christianity relates to other religons as well. It originally began as a project about school chaplaincy, but I’m also looking at how school chaplaincy works in the wider life of the Church, and how the wider church and very specific roles, like chaplains, can inform one another. Because normally, when we think of chaplaincy, we think about working at a specific institution, like a school or university or hospital or the armed forces, and so on. And it's often seen as being quite an isolated form of ministry. Whereas I've always been interested in thinking about how, even if you're a chaplain, say, working in a school with a very specific community, how what you do in that community can be informed by the wider church and vice versa. For example, one of the things that a chaplain in an education institution spends a lot of time doing is working with people of all different faiths. All faiths and none, as it were. I'd actually spend most of my time leading worship and providing pastoral care for people who are not Christians. The wider Church community both cares about this and needs to understand how that works further given the diverse nature of our society.

Even though I’ve been in Episcopal and Church of England Schools, and so working in a church-based institution, they’re also profoundly multi-faith communities, and so interfaith dialogue is a real passion of mine. I love working with different faiths and again, connecting to that wider community piece. I'm a member of several different organizations that do a lot of interfaith work and also with humanism and other forms of belief and spirituality that are not necessarily tied to a specific faith community as well. And I love all of that and I engaged in a lot of this work when I worked in education chaplaincy. I was also a university chaplain for a while and did a similar thing. And so my Ph.D. is looking at questions like, what does it mean to be a Christian in a profoundly multi-faith, pluralistic world? How Christians be responsible with their faith, and how can they have a healthy, responsible faith, where you know what you believe but can learn alongside other faiths.

Remembering the importance of dialoguing with people who believe different things to you informs my ministry in parishes as well. This goes back to that civic responsibility piece and the wider community. And this includes doing funerals…I did a funeral recently for a family who didn't have any particularly strong ties to the church, but the person who died, in their wishes they left behind, said that having a funeral in a church and then a traditional burial was really important to them, and so it was a lovely opportunity to connect with the family who otherwise might not have set foot in the church. And so my Ph.D studies are about looking at different approaches to Christian theology, engaging with religious pluralism and then applying some of that theological thinking to ministry. For example, how can a chaplain in a school or university or a priest in a parish take those theological ideas about the relationship between Christianity and interfaith dialogue, and then apply them in ministry? For example, caring for someone who has different beliefs, preaching and teaching in a way which is compassionate, which is not forceful or coercive, trying to think about ways of being a healthy, responsible Christian in a multi-faith world. That's my general area.

The moment that we are in in America right now, where there's so much divide and polarization, these interfaith dialogs are essential in bridging some of those gaps through interfaith dialog, including the humanistic aspect, seems so critical.

Yeah, exactly. And that's also something that I've always believed to be really important. I've never been the sort of Christian who, to put it bluntly, goes going around telling people what they should or shouldn't do. I believe that God is love and that’s why I'm a Christian. I believe that God in Christ shows us a new way to live. And that's all about love and compassion and listening and also growing and learning from people who don't necessarily share the exact same beliefs as you. Without turning this into a sermon...but if God became a human being and spent time on Earth among people, then that kind of incarnational ministry, that’s what Christians like me are called to do. If we're serious about our faith, we don't just go out thinking we've got all the answers and tell people what to do. We're out there to meet God through other people, through our relationships and our communities and our encounters with other people who are very different to us. That's part of what it means to be human.

Father Ed, you first came to the United States in Fort Worth, and then went to D.C. Was it a big adjustment culturally to find yourself suddenly having gone from Cambridge, England to Fort Worth, Texas?

Without boring you with my whole life story, it was a big jump. I was at Cambridge for my ordination training, and then briefly Yale, and that's how I met Devon. And then when Devon finished up at Yale, and I was getting ordained, we got married in Boston, and then Devon got her visa and we were in the U.K. for 8 years. We were in Norwich first. I was in a six-parish team there, and then we moved to central London, and I was working in schools and universities as well as parishes. Devon was doing her Ph.D. at the time in London. Then we moved to Fort Worth, and then D.C., and then here. We both wanted to be back in the States, to be nearer Devon's family as well. And I wanted to be back in the Episcopal Church again--the Church of England's great, but I wanted to serve the Episcopal Church again.

So, to start, I got the opportunity to work at an Episcopal School as a chaplain in Fort Worth. It was an opportunity that opened up. But even though I'd been traveling to the U.S. for nearly 10 years, and particularly the Northeast, we knew Fort Worth was going to be a bit of a jump but it seemed like fun, you know. We met some wonderful people there and we ,oved it, but, yeah, it was a culture shock given everywhere else we’d lived prior.

You’re married to a theologian; your dinner table conversations must be fascinating!

We’re really nerdy. I mean, like, seriously, embarrassingly (laughs). Even though we've both been working in education for a long time, and as you may have seen in my on the bio on the website, Devon still works in academic theology, does conferences and works at different universities, but she's also working for a nonprofit now as Research and Operations Director for the Clemente Course in the Humanities. Devon really wanted to branch out as well and be involved in nonprofit work, wider education work, working with underserved communities. I wanted to be back in the parish again and be out in the wider community. And both of us as a couple wanted to find a nice new home church and a parish that we can both be involved with. And so this whole thing has been really important to us as a couple, as well as a church family. So everything from our dinnertime conversations through to how we generally kind of roll, really, as a couple…we're very, very nerdy, and faith and theology is at the center, but we just love this kind of thing.

The last question is, who do you root for in the Premier League?

That's a great question! So, back home, between my mother's family and my father's family, there was always a big rift with this; basically, half of the folks love Tottenham Hotspur, and the other half love Chelsea. I didn't follow football that closely, but when we used to live in Norwich, I used to go see Norwich City play quite a bit because we lived quite close to the stadium, and that was really good fun. So I kind of got into it more through that, but I always tried to avoid the Tottenham and Chelsea thing because I just didn't want a family feud! Norwich City, I generally follow them. I'm always quite curious to see what they're up to!

Learn more about Father Ed and The Episcopal Parish of St. John the Evangelist: https://bit.ly/4fVD9QL.

Community Spotlight: New England Burial at Sea

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Fri, 15 Nov 2024 17:39:16 GMT

Community Spotlight: New England Burial at Sea LLC

New England Burial at Sea , founded in 2006, is the largest coast-to-coast provider for customized ash scattering memorials and full body burials at sea in the United States. Based in Marshfield Hills, the company operates year-round from more than 87 ports and 86 different ships. Captain Brad White leads New England Burials at Sea LLC, and we spoke with him at length for this feature.

How long have you been a ship’s captain? How did you get into ash scattering and full-body burials at sea?

I’m from the South Shore originally, and earned degrees in management and marketing at Ithaca College. After 20 years traveling the world while working for Sharper Image in San Francisco, I left the product business for the ocean.

I earned my Master Captain’s license in 2005, though I’ve been boating since I was a young teenager. One day, a fellow that we were doing a fishing charter for said, “Hey, can you scatter my uncle’s ashes?” I said “sure,” and so one become 20, then 2,000, and we became a real business. Now, we operate from Maine to Miami, San Diego to Seattle ports. The business has evolved from scattering ashes at sea off of Scituate with passengers aboard, and then we got into air scatterings, where we use a Cessna 172 high-wing aircraft and geo-target cremated remains over a special area for the family. We typically do that in the Northeast, where we have a better complement of airplanes.

Burial at sea has a long maritime tradition for sailors that have passed away while at sea. How has this become a growing trend for consumers seeking a ceremeony for cremated remains or full body burials at sea?

Around 2009, we started getting calls about full-body burials at sea. Selfishly, I kept saying no because I didn’t want to scratch the teak in the back of my really nice boat. Finally I realized that we can’t say no anymore, so I went to the Boston Public Library and studied full-body burials at sea back to the Constitution days and just replicated it. Then, we buffed up a 300-year-old tradition to be something special for families that choose to do a full-body burial at sea, because they’re different from a scattering family.

How big is your team? With 80-something boats operating out of 80-something ports, it sounds like a large operation.

It’s kind of like a champagne taste on a beer budget, because our model is not to own boats, it’s to use boats, very much like a Zipcar model. We use a boat for 2-3 hours and we don’t have to pay for a full-time crew or the service or the maintenance. We have about half a dozen people, three or four captains, a pilot, a PR person, a web person, an inside accounting specialist, and we’re growing by leaps and bounds. When we first started in the full-body side of the business, the United States, as reported by the U.S. Navy, did two in the year 2009. They don’t do very many, and they refer a lot of business to us, because we’re able to assemble and get out to sea in 2 to 10 days, while the Navy, at no charge, can take 6 to 18 months, which is gut-wrenching for a family. We’re very mobile and quick to react when necessary. We work with about 28 different religions, so we are compassionate and as specific to that family’s religion as we can be.

How did people find out about your services?

We had a pretty strong advertising campaign with radio, television, and print, and people learned about us. They learned they could do a full-body burial at sea. People often say, “I did not know how to do this, where or how to fulfill my loved one’s last and final wish.” They are quite relieved when they learn that we can make it happen for their family. Every time we take somebody, and we’ve taken thousands of people to sea over the years, we’re the talk of the town that next Monday when people say “hey, you know what I did this weekend?” And so when people learn about the full-body burial at sea, they say “sign me up! I’m not going to die now, but in the future I’d like to commit my body back to the ocean and feed Mother Earth.” We have over 2,350 pre-need families right now, and we do take reservations when somebody has a finite period. For instance, they want to go out next June 15 because their person has passed for scattering (of their ashes).

You use old-fashioned cannonballs to weigh down the bodies. Where do you get the cannonballs from?

I was at the funeral director show in Boston in 2009 and developed this with the Navy. The sea burial shroud that we use is made of organic cotton and designed to degrade. People want to become part of the ocean. So the funeral director puts the body into the burial shroud and brings the shrouded body to the final committal—the boat. We then have our at-sea service, which can include some readings and some music, and then we raise a Burgee flag, which is a yacht flag that has 8 stars on it to indicate the eight bells and watch blessing. We fly that flag in a person’s honor and hen we ring the bell 8 times, and then we choreograph to their favorite song, the placement of the cannonballs. The family usually picks up the four 37.5 pound cannonballs, 150 pounds in total, into the burial shroud. The cannonballs are made at a secret factory here in Massachusetts. We have the mold. The typical cannonball for Old Ironsides is 8 to 8.5 pounds; ours are 37.5 pounds. They’re designed to be part of the burial shroud, the bottom part separate from the body. This is one of our patent-pending ideas and they work really well. When it’s choreographed to music, the family can gently slide he body overboard and it goes quickly. Then we mark the coordinates where we are and fire off the ship’s cannon as a finale farewell. We circle the area then we come in, and we have to deploy in at least 600 feet of ocean depth. That’s different from a scattering, which needs to be at least three miles offshore with no ocean depth requirement. The full-body burials need to be at least three miles offshore and at least 600 feet of water depth. Here in Massachusetts, we depart out of Newburyport or Plymouth or Hyannis, and the typical round trip on a full-body burial is about six hours. In New York, it’s 12 hours round trip because we have to go out 100 miles to get to 600 feet of ocean depth.

It’s a whole day, then.

You make a whole day out of it. We help with catering. On a 12-hour day, we suggest a hot breakfast, cold lunch, and a hot dinner. On the way back now in the Massachusetts area, we suggest a hot breakfast and some roll-ups or similar foods on the way back. People sometimes want a full bar. We encourage responsible beer and wine on the way back but we prefer people leave spirits at the dock. It’s not a booze cruise, it’s a memorial cruise. And we have all types of things—people can add bagpipers, caterers, musicians or whatever they can dream up as long as it’s legal.

Because the shroud is designed to decompose, what’s the impact on marine life? Are you feeding the ocean floor with the remains, in a manner of speaking?

When everything biodegrades, the only things left are the cannonballs, and they have great value because they form their own reef. Reefs are structure and are good! They’re good for lobsters and small fish to hide in. So there’s a lasting ocean-friendly effect from that.

Can family and friends attend services?

Yes, friends and family can absolutely attend. Out of every 100 events that we have, 85 are scatterings, 10 are full-body burials and 5 are airplane scatterings. Eighty percent of these are civilian and 20% are military and people can absolutely come out. We do a fair number of unattended scatterings because folks are located on the West Coast and can’t make it, or they’re on a business trip overseas. We photodocument everything, and then we send them pictures, and we also optionally offer a GoPro unedited event video that they can share. We now have StarLink, the first in the burial-at-sea business, which allows us to have internet access up to 100 miles out to sea, so we can now broadcast worldwide in real time to Aunt Mary in London and cousin Joe in South Korea so they can see and pe part of what we do from afar. We can also FaceTime a scattering event so that friends and family can witness this in real time virtually. Doing so allows these folks to offer a reading or two for those aboard to also be a a part of, which is very therapeutic for those who can’t make the ocean journey.

Tell us about the discounted Military Burials at Sea. What does that entail?

During the first phone call, people say things like “Grandpa never really talked about being in the Army and he was in WWII.” And my first response is, well, the grandchildren should see what he earned in his achievements in the Army.” They’ll say okay, and then we’ll get the decedent’s DD214 discharge paper showing honorable discharge and then we arrange with the military--there are 5 different branches of the military-- to come to the boat prior to departure. I read about the 13 folds to the flag; I read about the soldier or sailor, I read what Taps means, and then I talk about the service people that are there and what their experience has been. Then I kick it over to the Color Guard and they unfold, fold, and present the flag while sounding Taps, which is quite nice and there’s not a dry eye in the house. Then we board that family on the vessel, do a safety briefing, and head three miles out to sea. That’s very poignant for the family that had a military loved one that passed away. We handle it 100%, we don’t charge for it, and it’s quite meaningful to the family. We do give a discount via making a donation in the decedent’s name to Wounded Warriors or the U.S. Coast Guard Foundation. We do that quite regularly.

What’s the difference between scattering remains at sea and doing so over the ocean from a plane? What’s the benefit of scattering by a plane versus having the remains dropped from a boat?

We do more female pilot scatterings by airplane than males and what’s pretty cool about that is that Charles Lindbergh created a product that we buffed up with my Sharper Image experience and rebardned it as the “Air Glide,” which allows you to geo-target cremated remains over a certain area. For instance, between Groton, Connecticut and Montauk, N.Y. or up by the Isle of Shoals, because Dad always vacationed in Maine and he was an avid pilot. We don’t bring the family with us because of liability. We have a tarmac-side family service and then we load the plane and put the cremated remains in the Air Glide device, which resembles almost like a bread bag. It has a Velcro air valve on it, and when we’re up flying, I open the starboard port window and then release the valve. The Venturi Effect is the rushing of air that pushes the cremated remains out of the device and not into the airplane—and we are photo documenting this all the way.

When we take off, we scatter red rose petals on the first runway pass over the airfield and then we head out to sea, get about 400-1,000 feet of elevation and we try to find some whales, which are pretty cool, and then we circle the area, dip the wings, come back and meet the family and give them the exact coordinates with six burial certificate coordinate sheets showing date, time, latitude and longitude.

Are there specific scattering locations so that people can remember where their friends and family were scattered?

Yes. There are a gajillion lighthouses in the Northeast, all the way down to the Outer Banks. We tell folks, “when you look at the water, you’ll always see me.” So many times, they opt to go out near a lighthouse that they frequented growing up as a kid. Many times, there are harbors like in Scituate or Boston. There are three lighthouses, Boston Light, Graves Light, Minot Light, and of course Scituate Light. People like that a lot because rather than visiting a cemetery, people like to come back and see the lighthouse and say “that’s where dad started his next journey.”

What’s a ballpark fee structure for your services?

Scattering at sea unattended/photo documented is $975. For six passengers, it runs about $2,375. For up to 20 passengers, it runs about $3,875. For a full body burial, because we have a bigger fuel burn heading offshore, it runs $16,500 and that includes the boat, the burial shroud, the cannonballs, the crew, the admin fee, the vessel gratuity, and then on top of that are the funeral director fees like care and custody and paperwork. If they have an event in the funeral home and the body may have to be embalmed. We prefer unembalmed, refrigerated bodies. There's no law against it or for it. But the bottom line is, less is more, and it also helps them with their cost basis. So our cost is about $16,500 for full-body sea burials.

What should people reading this Keohane Newsletter know about New England Burials at Sea?

A number of things! One, we’re experienced, 21 years and counting. Two, we have white-glove customer service and we are a reflection of the funeral home. We strive to make everything as perfect as it can be, so that the funeral home hears “Hey, Dennis and John, that was an amazing event at sea” and it’s a reflection of them. Our goal is to cater to the people that are living, because we hear all the time, “Mary, Joe would have loved that” or “Bob, Mary really loved the ocean, and he did a really nice thing for her.” So we really cater to that part of the family dynamic group.

We are proud to be working with the Keohane Funeral home group for just over twn years now They are Sea Burial Certified™ by us meaning they have been trained on best methods and practices both in the class room and while at sea. Keohane is really professional, flexible and eager to please their client family with our unique sea burial offerings.

The other thing to know about us is that we’re properly licensed, we’re properly insured. People come from all over the world to use our services. We work with all of the militaries. We work with the FBI, the CIA, the Secret Service. They use us because we’re discreet and confidential and we do it right, we don’t cut any corners. The next piece is, we’re flexible, we’re reliable, we’re dependable, and we’re honest. We’re on the boats every day doing burials, not Joe on the lobster boat with flies and fish guts! Our people are well-attired, they’re experienced, and they’re compassionate.

Learn more about Captain Brad White and New England Burials at Sea here: https://www.newenglandburialsatsea.com/ . You can reach Captain Brad via email: OceanBurial@aol.com or by calling 781-834-0112.

Supporting Children Through Loss: Helping Young Minds Understand and Cope with Grief

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 24 Oct 2024 22:07:40 GMT

Losing a loved one is one of life’s most difficult experiences. For children, the loss of a family member, friend, or beloved pet can be especially challenging, because they’are still learning to understand much of the world around them. For adults like you, whether a parent, grandparent, or guardian—helping these kids navigate their grief can feel like a monumental task in the midst of your own grief. Children process death differently from adults, and so it’s critical to provide them with the right support that meets their specific needs in order to help them cope and heal.

How Children Understand Death at Different Ages

Children's ability to grasp what loss and death means varies depending on their stage of development. Tailoring your approach based on their age can help ensure they feel supported and understood. You know your kids best—you may have a precocious 4-year-old or a 10-year-old with developmental delays. Use the below as a suggested guide:

Preschoolers (Ages 3-5): At this stage, children may not be able to comprehend that death is permanent. They might see it as temporary or reversible and may ask many questions. Simple, concrete explanations are helpful for their understanding.
School-aged children (Ages 6-12): Kids in this age range begin to understand that death is forever. They may seem very curious and as such will probably ask lots of detailed questions. It's important to answer them honestly though gently, giving them a sense of comfort while you’re validating their feelings.
Teenagers (Ages 13-18): Teens are capable of understanding death as well as adults do, yet they can struggle to express their emotions. Encourage open conversations with them, offering a comfortable space to process feelings in their own way, whether by talking with you, writing about their loss, or engaging in creative activities like art and music.

How You Can Support a Grieving Child

Here are five ways that you can embrace to help kids process their grief in a healthy and constructive manner:

Create an Emotional Safe Space
Let children know that it's normal and okay to feel sad, angry, or confused when death hits home. Acknowledge their emotions and reassure them that all of these feelings they’re feeling are normal. Give them enough time and space to express their grief without feeling rushed or judged.
Use Simple, Honest Language
Skip euphemisms like "passed away" or "gone to sleep," which can be confusing to young children. Instead, explain death to them in straightforward terms, like "When someone dies, their body stops working and they can’t come back," for example. This helps children begin to accept and then process the reality of what has happened.
Encourage Questions!
Grieving children often have a ton of questions about death, and it’s important for you to answer them as clearly as possible. Sometimes, kids will ask the same question repeatedly. While this may be annoying to you, it’s their way of coming to terms with a powerful sense of loss.
Offer Reassurance
Children may begin to worry about their own mortality or that of others close to them after experiencing a traumatic loss. This is normal! Reassure them that although death is a natural part of life, most people live a long time, and you’re there to keep them safe.
Memorialize the Loved One
Creating personal tributes to the person who has passed away can help children cope with their grief. This could be drawing pictures, sharing stories, planting a tree, or lighting a candle in remembrance. Religious rituals may be helpful here too.

Resources for Supporting Grieving Children

Books and online resources can provide much-needed additional support and offer children deeper resources to help them better understand and cope with loss.

Books on Grief for Children

The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
A beautifully written book ideal for younger kids, this book explains the concept of an invisible string connecting us to our loved ones, even when they are gone.
When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
This book offers a gentle introduction to the concept of death for children ages 4-8, helping them understand what it means and how to cope.
The Goodbye Book by Todd Parr
This colorful, comforting book reassures children that grief is natural and provides simple ideas for expressing their emotions.
Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen
Although suitable for all ages, this book is particularly helpful for older children, offering a metaphorical approach to grief and its various emotions.

Online Resources for Families

Dougy Center
The Dougy Center is a national leader in supporting grieving children and families. Their website offers a wealth of resources, including articles and videos on how to help children process grief.
Sesame Street in Communities
Sesame Street in Communities offers engaging activities and videos to help young children understand and express their feelings about loss.
Child Mind Institute
The Child Mind Institute provides expert advice for parents and caregivers, offering tips on how to talk to children about death and grief at every developmental stage.

Conclusion

Helping children through grief requires patience, honesty, and compassion. By providing children with clear explanations, encouraging them to ask difficult questions, and offering them the space needed to express their feelings comfortably, you can help make this challenging experience more manageable for them. Remember, you don’t have to have all the answers; simply being there for them, acknowledging their feelings, and using helpful resources will go a long way in supporting them as they heal.

If you're facing a challenge like this and need additional support, the team at Keohane is here to help you. We can offer guidance, connect you with grief counselors, and provide resources that can help support your family through loss.

Keohane's Annual Coat Drive

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 26 Sep 2024 21:21:04 GMT

Please join Keohane and Dependable Cleaners as we collect gently-used adult and children's coats to help neighbors in need along the South Shore. Coats will be distributed through a pair of essential local organizations, Interfaith Social Services and Wellspring Multi-Service Center.

Pet Loss and Grief: Why Losing a Dog or Cat Can Be So Devastating

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 26 Sep 2024 21:08:12 GMT

After 82 years, we are keenly aware that loss takes many forms. Grief isn’t limited to the passing of a spouse, sibling, child, or friend, the pain that comes with the loss of cherished animal companion—be it a dog, cat, or anything else—can be just as profound. Our pets are family members and losing them often triggers an overwhelming sense of grief, leaving us with a deep emotional void. Dogs and cats can be sources of unconditional love, and the loss of that unconditional love is often devastating.

The Deep Bonds We Share with Our Animals

Dogs, cats, and other pets hold a special place in our hearts. They’re more than animals; they are companions, confidants, and providers of the boundless devotion that so many of us treasure. Whether it’s the excited welcome home after a long day at work or the comfort of your cat purring contentedly while curled up next you, pets offer an unwavering level of loyalty and affection.

Pets are also a source of great emotional support during difficult times. How many folks reading this adopted a dog or cat during the pandemic, for instance? Their presence can reduce loneliness, lower stress levels, and provide a sense of purpose. This bond is what makes their loss so painful. When a pet dies, we lose both their companionship and comfort they brought into our daily lives along with the routine rhythms of walks, playtime, feeding, and care they require each day.

Why the Grief is So Deep

Grieving the loss of a pet can be just as intense as grieving for a human loved one—and sometimes, it hurts even more. Here’s why:

1. Unconditional Love and Dependence

Pets offer us unconditional love. Unlike most human relationships and the complex emotions they often include, the bonds between us and our pets is often pure and simple. They depend on us for food, shelter, and care; in return, we rely on them for emotional connection and purpose. Losing that constant presence can feel like losing an anchor in your life.

2. Routine and Rituals

Pets are an integral part of our daily routines. From the morning walk to the evening feeding to the adventures we share with them and all of the quiet moments we spend together in between, our pets become woven into the fabric of our day-to-day lives. When they’re gone, those routines are disrupted, leaving us with a massive absence that can trigger feelings of deep sadness and disorientation.

3. A Silent Grief

One of the biggest challenges of pet loss is that it can feel isolating—after all, not everyone understands the depth of the bond you shared with your pet, and sometimes people will simply fail to grasp the significance of this loss. However it’s intended, when people say things like, "she was just a dog," or "you can get another cat," they can make you feel like your grief isn’t valid. At Keohane, we want to remind you that your feelings are completely valid! Grieving a pet is as natural and necessary as any other loss you’ll experience.

Coping with the Loss of a Pet

There is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a pet. Each person’s grief journey is unique, though there are a few steps you can take to help navigate this difficult period:

1. Allow Yourself to Mourn

It’s important to give yourself permission to grieve. Acknowledge your feelings and recognize that it’s okay to be deeply saddened by the loss of your pet. Don’t rush the process or compare your grief to anyone else’s. It’s your journey, and it’s personal. No one will understand the bond between you and your pet the way you do, after all.

2. Create a Memorial

Many people find solace in honoring their pet’s memory. You might create a special place in your home or garden where you can reflect on the joy they brought into your life. People will often choose to frame a favorite picture, plant a tree in their pet’s honor, or keep a memento that reminds them of their companion. Some folks will get their pet’s paws or face tattooed on their bodies or make a donation to an animal rescue organization. It’s entirely up to you.

3. Seek Support

You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk with people who understand the depth of your bond with your pet—friends, family members, or a counselor. There are also pet loss support groups, both online and in-person, where you can share your grief with others who have experienced similar losses.

4. Consider a Ritual

Some people find closure in holding a special ceremony or ritual for their pet. This could be as simple as lighting a candle in their memory or writing a letter expressing your feelings. There are people who opt to hold a memorial service for their pets. These rituals can give you a sense of peace and help you move through the stages of grief.

Keohane’s Commitment to Compassion

The Keohane team knows how important it is to provide compassionate support for all kinds of loss. Whether you’re mourning the loss of a pet or a human loved one, we’re here to support you in your time of grief. Pets are family, and we honor the deep connections you share with them.

Grief has no timeline, and the loss of a beloved pet can leave a lasting impact. Remember that it's okay to feel what you're feeling, and there is no "right" way to grieve. At Keohane, we are always available to offer guidance, empathy, and support during life’s most difficult moments.

How to Safely Clean a Headstone: A User Guide

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 29 Aug 2024 21:18:34 GMT

A headstone will stand at your loved one’s final resting place long after the funeral service and burial. Exposure to New England’s four seasons and unpredictable weather can take a toll on the physical beauty of these markers. The Keohane team understands the importance of maintaining these special monuments and want to help you to do so by sharing this detailed guide on how to clean a headstone properly—and respectfully.

Preparation: 7 Necessary Items:

A soft-bristled brush: A brush with natural fibers is ideal for a delicate cleaning job like this
Non-ionic soap: This will be gentle on the stone. Brands including Simple Green, Dr. Bronner’s Castile Soap, and Dawn Liquid Dish Soap are all solid recommendations for you.
Water: Use distilled water if possible. It’s safer, especially if you have hard water coming from your tap.
A plastic or wooden scraper: This will help you to safely removing any growths on the stone, such as moss or bird droppings.
Soft cloths: These will allow you to dry the stone without causing any abrasions.
A spray bottle: For the even application of water…and ease of portability.
A bucket: To mix your cleaning solution and an easy way to carry all of your cleaning materials back and forth.

Step-by-Step Cleaning Instructions:

1. Assess the Stone

Before you do any actual cleaning, take a close look at the headstone. If you see any damage to the stone, such as cracks or flaking, you’re advised to consult a professional before attempting to clean it. You don’t want to cause any further damage after all.

2. Wet the Stone

Start by spraying the headstone evenly with plenty of water. Doing so will keep the cleaning solution from getting absorbed too deeply into the stone and inadvertently causing damage.

3. Prepare the Cleaning Solution

Mix a small amount of the non-ionic soap with water, using the guidelines on the cleaning solution’s label or website.

4. Gently Clean the Stone

Take your soft-bristled brush and gently scrub the headstone with the soapy water. Working the brush in a circular motion, start at the bottom of the stone so that you avoid dripping over already cleaned areas, which may cause streaks.

5. Rinse Thoroughly

Regularly rinse the headstone with clean water to flush away the dirt and debris you’ve loosened and prevent soap buildup too.

6. Remove Moss and Lichen

If you see clumps of moss or lichen, remove them carefully with your scraper. It’s important to be as gentle as possible to avoid scratching the stone.

7. Final Rinse and Dry

Once you’ve cleaned the headstone thoroughly and are satisfied with the result, rinse it a final time and pat it dry gently with your soft cloth.

Additional Tips:

Don’t use harsh chemicals: Never use bleach or acidic cleaners. These can corrode or even cause permanent stains on the stone.
Test first: Always test your cleaning method on a small, less visible area of the headstone before proceeding, like the back or very bottom of the stone.
Consider the weather: Aim for a cool, cloudy day for this cleaning project. Too much sun can cause rapid drying that will leave residue and streaks.

Taking your time to clean a headstone can be a unique way to connect with and remember a loved one. By following these guidelines and cleaning regularly, you’ll honor their memory in a noble way. At a practical level, it’s also a way to protect what can be an expensive tribute. If you have any concerns or need professional assistance, don’t hesitate to contact a Keohane team member with your questions. We're here to help preserve the legacies of your loved ones.

The Living Funeral: Celebrating Life Before Goodbye

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Thu, 18 Jul 2024 20:22:26 GMT

A new trend has emerged in the last few years in which people choose to alter the approach to the end-of-life. The Living Funeral is a customized service that enables people to celebrate their lives with their family and friends while still here to enjoy this deeply meaningful experience. Living funerals offer a unique chance to embrace a full life, create more lasting memories, and spark open conversations about death.

Embracing Life and Creating Special Memories

More than a simple gathering, a living funeral is a celebration of one’s life. It’s a chance for you to look back on your journey through life, share your stories, and bask in love and appreciation from family and friends alike. Celebrations like these may include your favorite foods, music, and hobbies that hold special meaning for you. Rather than the typical somber funeral service, a living funeral is an opportunity to create an environment that’s filled with joy and warm nostalgia.

The impact of a living funeral like this is profound—and profoundly positive. It allows your family and circle of friends to express their gratitude, heal old wounds in relationships, and find closure where it’s needed, while the opportunity still exists. If you’re the honoree, it’s an affirmation of your life and legacy, giving you a sense of comfort and peace during a time that may otherwise be filled with uncertainty. For your loved ones, it’s a cherished opportunity to say “thank you” and “I love you,” knowing that their words will be heard and felt.

The Benefits of Speaking Openly About Death

One of the key benefits of a living funeral is the chance it affords you to speak openly about death. Death is a taboo subject in many cultures and often avoided in conversation. Yet discussing death in plain terms can lead to a deeper understanding and acceptance of life’s natural cycle.

Embracing this kind of open dialogue allows you to share your wishes for end-of-life care, funeral arrangements and charitable beneficiaries you’d like to acknowledge, and how you wish to be remembered. This transparency can alleviate the burden on your loved ones who might otherwise struggle having to make these decisions during a time of intense grief. In a way, it’s one more gift to your loved ones before you pass.

Plus, speaking openly about death may reduce your fear and anxiety about it. It may encourage you to live more fully and appreciate the present moment and inspire the people attending to live their lives in a similar fashion.

Creating a Legacy of Love and Acceptance

A living funeral can be a beautiful way to create a legacy of love and acceptance. It’s often a testament to a life well-lived and a special reminder of the impact you may have had on the lives of people in your family and network of friends. It allows you to leave these folks more than just memories; you’re also giving a sense of closure and peace.

This growing trend of living funerals offers a transformative approach to the end of life. It celebrates your journey, cements meaningful connections, and encourages open conversations about death. At Keohane, we believe in honoring life in all of its stages. If you’re considering a living funeral or are curious to learn more, please contact us. We’re here to support you and your loved ones and help you create a celebration that reflects the beauty and significance of your life.

Inclusive Memorial Services: How to Incorporate Diverse Family Structures

john@keohane.com (John Keohane) — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 16:20:19 GMT

Family structures are more diverse than ever these days. As our society evolves, our traditions and practices need to evolve with them, including the ways in which we honor our loved ones when they pass on. We believe that memorial services ought to be inclusive, respectful, and reflective of the unique relationships that make up every family we serve. In this blog, we'll share with you how to incorporate these varied family structures into funeral ceremonies, enabling you to acknowledge and honor each of these special relationships.

Recognizing the Diversity of Modern Families

Modern families exist in many forms, such as blended families, single-parent families, LGBTQ+ families, families with adopted children, and more. Perhaps you recognize your family structure here? It's essential that we recognize and validate these diverse structures during memorial services so that everyone feels included and respected.

Open Communication

One of the most important steps when you’re planning an inclusive memorial service is open communication. Engaging each family member early in the planning process creates an opportunity to understand their individual desires and perspectives. Doing so can help you make sure that no one feels they’ve been excluded during an already difficult time emotionally. Encouraging your family members to share stories, memories, and special traditions that can be incorporated into the service helps to create a sense of inclusivity that can lift everyone’s spirits during an otherwise challenging period.

Personalize the Ceremony

Having gathered anecdotes and cherished memories from your family members, personalizing the ceremony to reflect the unique life and relationships of the deceased leads to deeply meaningful ways to honor their memory. Here are three such examples for you to consider:

1. Custom Eulogies: Invite multiple family members and close friends to share their own memories, or offer a eulogy. This allows for a richer, more diverse representation of the deceased's life and relationships.

2. Photo Displays: Create a photo collage or video that includes pictures from all stages of their life (if available), celebrating friendships, family events, special moments, and highlighting the connections among these various relationships that made a significant impact on the deceased's life.

3. Symbolic Gestures: Incorporate symbolic gestures that hold special meaning for different family members, like lighting candles, releasing balloons, creating a fundraising event, or planting a tree or garden in memory of the loved one.

Inclusive Rituals and Traditions

Weaving diverse rituals and traditions into the memorial service can help provide another way to respect and honor any cultural and religious backgrounds within your family. A few ways to do this include:

1. Multicultural Elements: If the deceased or your family members come from different cultural backgrounds, consider including some elements from these cultures in the ceremony. This could include representative music, readings from treasured books, or traditional rituals.

2. Interfaith Considerations: If your family includes members of various faiths, find ways to incorporate interfaith prayers or rituals, or readings that honor the beliefs of all family members.

3. Non-Religious Options: Some families prefer a non-religious service that focuses on celebrating the life and values of the deceased through personal anecdots, music, and meaningful activities. For instance, was the decedent a Deadhead? Including music from a favorite show could be a lovely way to celebrate this aspect of them.

Respecting Unique Relationships

Every relationship is a unique relationship, with its own dynamics. It’s important to acknowledge and honor these connections during the memorial service. Consider these:

1. Acknowledging All Relationships: Make sure that the service acknowledges and honors all significant relationships in the deceased's life, regardless of their structure (biological, adopted, chosen, or otherwise).

2. Inclusive Language: Use inclusive language that respects the dynamics of your family structure and relationships. Avoid assumptions about roles or titles, and be mindful of how different family members may identify. It’s okay to ask family members or close friends how they’d prefer to be addressed!

3. Special Roles: Is it possible to give different family members and friends special roles, such as reading a poem, performing a song, or leading an aspect of the service? This can to a long way in ensuring that everyone feels involved and recognized.

Creating a Welcoming Atmosphere

Creating a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere is a vital key for a successful and respectful memorial service:

1. Venue Considerations: Choose a venue that’s accessible and welcoming to all of your family members and friends, including those with disabilities or special needs. Consider that some attendees may need to bring a care provider with them.

2. Hospitality: It’s important that all guests feel welcome and comfortable attending the memorial. Hospitality may include offering refreshments, having a sign-in book, or offering grief support for those who may need it.

3. Sensitivity and Empathy: Approach the planning and execution of the service with sensitivity and empathy. This is a very emotional time for everyone involved, after all. Kindness matters here more than ever.

The Keohane team is committed to helping families like yours to create inclusive, respectful, and meaningful memorial services that will honor the unique lives and relationships of your loved ones. In embracing diverse family structures, we can be certain that every service is a true reflection of the individual being celebrated.

Honoring First Responders: Special Considerations for Funerals and Memorials

Tue, 21 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Honoring First Responders: Special Considerations for Funerals and Memorials

First responders hold a special place of honor in South Shore communities. The courage, selflessness, and dedication our police officers, firefighters, paramedics, and EMTs show every day in protecting and serving others defines heroism. The Keohane team understands the importance of honoring these remarkable people when they make the ultimate sacrifice in their service. Planning funerals and memorials for our first responders involves a number of special considerations to ensure tribute is paid appropriately to their service and secure their legacy with the utmost respect.

Understanding the Unique Needs of First Responder Funerals

First responders carry with them a sense of duty that demands a deeply personal approach to their funerals and memorials. These ceremonies are meant to commemorate both their lives and their commitment to our communities, as so many generations have before them.

3 Key Considerations When Planning First Responder Funerals

One critical aspect of a first responder funeral is the inclusion of traditional honors and ceremonial elements. These can vary, depending on the branch of service, and often include the following:

Every person is unique, and their service should honor their personal and professional legacy. This may include:

First responders very often create deep bonds within their communities. Including community members in the funeral or memorial can be a heartfelt way to show collective gratitude and respect. For example, this can include:

Supporting Their Families

The families of first responders tend to suffer tremendously, and these folks deserve special consideration and support during this harrowing period. Offering comprehensive services that recognize their needs is crucial:

Creating a Lasting Legacy

Honoring a fallen first responder isn’t limited to the immediate period following their loss. Creating a lasting legacy makes sure that their life’s work is remembered and celebrated for many years to come. This can include:

Conclusion

At Keohane, we’re committed to honoring the lives and legacies of our first responders with all of the dignity and respect that they deserve. Our team is here to support every family through each step of the process, helping you to be sure that every detail reflects the heroism and sacrifice of your loved ones. In blending meaningful traditions, personal touches, and community involvement, we can craft ceremonies that are not only a loving farewell but a powerful tribute to their lasting impact on our lives.

If you have any questions or need assistance in planning a first responder funeral or memorial, reach out to us right away. We’re here to help, always.

Preserving Memories: Transforming Heirlooms into Tangible Memories

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Preserving Memories: Transforming Heirlooms into Tangible Memories

At Keohane, we understand the importance of these family heirlooms. We know that they’re more than simply objects; they are repositories of memories, stories, and emotions. Whether a vintage locket worn by your great-grandmother or a baby blanket passed down through the generations, each heirloom holds a piece of your family’s narrative. They serve as tangible connections to our ancestry, reminding us of who we are and who they were.

Yet preserving these treasures isn’t only about protecting them from wear and tear; it’s about breathing new life into them, ensuring that they will be cherished and appreciated by the generations yet to come. Like you, we believe in the powerful beauty of these heirlooms and offer you guidance on how to honor their legacy in ways that are meaningful to you.

One way to preserve family heirlooms is by incorporating them into your everyday life. Rather than storing them in dusty attics or a rarely used closet, display them proudly in your main living areas. A vintage China tea set can become a conversation-starting centerpiece for your dining table, while a set of family photos can be framed and hung on your walls as a collage, serving as a reminder of your family’s rich history.

Another option is to repurpose these heirlooms into new and functional items. That old wedding dress tucked away in the attic could be transformed into a beautiful quilt or a set of decorative throw pillows. A collection of vintage buttons could be turned into unique pieces of jewelry, each one carrying its own story and significance. In our social media age, DIY how-to guides proliferate on YouTube and Pinterest, making these craft projects relatively easy.

Of course, not every heirloom is a tangible object. Sometimes, the most precious legacies are handed down in the form of stories, traditions, and values. Take the time to record these oral histories, either through written documentation, audio recordings, or video interviews. The smartphone in your pocket can make these tasks as simple as pressing a button! By documenting these memories, you not only preserve them for future generations but also strengthen the bonds that connect your family across time and space.

We understand that the preservation of family heirlooms is about more than just preserving objects; it’s about preserving memories, traditions, and the very essence of who we are. Whether you’re looking to restore a cherished heirloom to its initial glory or seeking inspiration for new ways to honor your family’s legacy, the team at Keohane is here to help you every step of the way.

When we preserve our family heirlooms, we’re not just preserving things; we’re preserving the stories, the love, and the memories that make us who we are. If you have any questions or would like to explore ways to preserve your family heirlooms, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We’re here to support you in this journey however we can.

The Art of the Eulogy: Crafting The Words To Capture a Life

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

The Art of the Eulogy: Crafting The Words To Capture a Life

Losing someone you love, whether a family member or friend, is one of life’s most complex challenges. As the swirl of emotions envelops you, there often comes a moment in which you’ll find yourself standing before a crowd of family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances, tasked with delivering a eulogy that captures the essence of who the departed was in a relatively brief tribute. The weight of this responsibility can be immense, yet it is also an opportunity for you to honor and celebrate a life well-lived; in doing so, you’re creating a shared moment for the community of mourners to remember the deceased in a sharply defined way. Crafting a eulogy is an art form—a form that requires deep reflection, an awareness of the audience, and a profound understanding of the person you’re honoring.

Memorializing our loved ones is a delicate endeavor. First and foremost, it is essential to recognize the power of words to shape memories, stir emotions, and immortalize key moments in their life. In the context of a modern eulogy, blending story craft with a chronological narrative, the words you choose will serve as a vehicle through which you’re able to paint a vivid portrait of a singular life. In effect, you’re creating a final definition of your loved one for the benefit of those commemorating their life with you.

The first step is to reflect on the unique qualities and experiences that define your loved one. What drove them? Where did their passions lie? What were their values and how did they live them? What was their impact on family, friends, and community? Did they have quirky aspects to their personality? For example, it could be an unwavering kindness, an infectious laugh, or their relentless drive to achieve their goals. Were they a friend to every dog in the neighborhood? Did they volunteer their time quietly? Was their house the home where all the kids hung out? Allow these defining traits to serve as the cornerstone of the eulogy.

When you’re crafting a eulogy, authenticity is essential. Speak from your heart, sharing personal anecdotes, memories, funny stories (appropriate for the setting), and moments that highlight the quintessential nature of the person you’re eulogizing. Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability too—expressing the raw emotions you’re feeling can forge a genuine connection with the audience, deepening a shared sense of loss and remembrance.

Striking a balance between humor and solemnity can help you to write a eulogy that truly captures the multifaceted nature of life and develops a bond between you and the audience. Yes, it’s essential to recognize the gravity of the moment; incorporating moments of levity can provide a release for those in attendance. After all, laughter can be just as healing as tears and the stories we tell about our departed loved ones can keep their memories alive within us.

If you’ve been asked—or chosen–to deliver a eulogy, the biggest key to success is preparation. Take some time to organize your thoughts and jot down the essential details, even if it’s just a handful of bullet points. Then, develop a narrative that allows you to provide as full a picture of your loved one’s life as possible. Too often, when a family member or friend has been ill and in decline for some time, we forget what they were like before. Spending some time looking through photos and talking with other family members and friends can trigger a flood of memories that you can then use to flesh out your eulogy. Next, practice delivering your speech out loud. Aside from calming your nerves, rehearsing can help ensure that your words flow well during the actual funeral, and prepare you to speak while experiencing a deeply emotional time.

Additionally, don’t hesitate to seek support from your circle during this process. Whether it’s family members, friends, or clergy, drawing on the strength and wisdom of your support network can give you invaluable guidance and encouragement.

Finally, remember that a eulogy isn’t merely a recitation of facts—it’s a tribute to a complete life. It’s an opportunity to celebrate your loved one’s legacy and honor the impact they had on their family, friends, and community. Embrace this as a privilege, that by sharing their story, your words will serve as a beacon of light amidst the darkness of sudden grief.

Crafting a eulogy is an art unto itself, balancing words and emotions. Approaching this honored task with authenticity, reverence, and preparation, you can create a fitting tribute to the life of your loved one. In doing so, you will honor not just the memory of the deceased but also the love and connections that remain. And if you need more help writing a eulogy, don’t hesitate to reach out to the Keohane team for help. We are here to help you and your family through this experience in any way we can.

On Healing: Navigating Grief and Closure for Estranged Relationships

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 04:00:00 GMT

On Healing: Navigating Grief and Closure for Estranged Relationships

Let’s face it, losing a loved one is never easy. When that loved one was estranged at the time of their passing, the feelings of grief you experience can be overwhelming, complicated by the distance between you. At Keohane, our decades of experience have helped us to understand the unique challenges that arise when mourning a family member or friend from whom you were estranged, whether emotionally or physically distant—and how to process them at an already difficult time.

Our goal is to help you by offering some guidance and support if you’re in the unfortunate circumstance of navigating the journey of grief in the wake of an estranged relationship. This is a more common experience than you may have thought.

To be sure, navigating the grief triggered by an estranged relationship can be challenging, yet it’s also an opportunity for growth, healing, and reconciliation within yourself. Remember that you are not alone, and that support and guidance are available locally and online to help you through this difficult period. At Keohane Funeral & Cremation, we’re here to support you throughout your journey toward healing and closure. Please don’t hesitate to ask us for help when you need it.

The Symbolism of Funeral Flowers: A Guide to Meaningful Floral Arrangements

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

The Symbolism of Funeral Flowers: A Guide to Meaningful Floral Arrangements

Losing a loved one is one of life’s deepest emotional experiences. Sharing your expressions of sympathy and support can provide the grieving with a sense of comfort and community . Funeral flowers have long been embraced as a means of adding beauty to a somber atmosphere as well as often providing a profound symbolic meaning to the family and close friends of the departed.

Understanding the significance of different varieties of funeral flowers can help you to select arrangements that convey your heartfelt sentiments while honoring the memory of the decedent in a meaningful way. In this blog post, we’ll highlight 7 of the most common flowers used in funeral arrangements.

In choosing funeral flowers, it’s essential to consider not only their various symbolic meanings but also the personal preferences and cultural traditions of the deceased and their family. Whether choosing a single type of flower or a diverse arrangement, the intention behind the gesture is what truly matters—to offer solace, express sympathy, and honor the memory of a life well-lived.

At Keohane, we understand the importance of meaningful gestures during times of grief. Our experienced team can assist you in selecting the ideal flower arrangements to honor your loved one’s memory and offer some comfort to those in mourning. Together, we will create floral tributes that speak volumes of love, respect, and remembrance.

Remembering Together: Finding Strength in Community During Times of Loss

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

Remembering Together: Finding Strength in Community During Times of Loss

For many of us, grief can feel like a journey that we are navigating alone. But within sorrow, we’re often able to find solace in the power of community. By uniting during times of loss, communities can become a source of comfort, understanding, and strength for those traveling the path of mourning.

There are countless ways that communities can come together in mourning. Whether it’s through organizing memorial services, holding vigils, or creating spaces for open conversations about grief, these collective actions contribute to a shared experience that goes beyond the individual by actively embracing the shared journey, communities build a sense of empathy and connection, but also help to alleviate the burden of individual grief.

In some instances, community grief is expressed through collective mourning ceremonies, with candlelight vigils being a popular example. Often referred to as a healing ritual, these types of ceremonies serve as powerful, communal expressions of mourning. Their purpose extends beyond simply paying respects to the departed; they also hold a place to acknowledge and collectively share in grief. These ceremonies are often laden with symbolism and become a therapeutic avenue for many to find solace and strength.

Communities not only serve as agents of healing, but they are also invaluable spaces for preserving legacies of the departed. When a community comes together to collectively share memories and stories of a departed loved one, it serves as a living memorial, tying together stories and memories that keep the spirit of the departed alive.

In today’s digital age, finding a community to aid in the grieving process is easier than ever, as communities extend beyond physical boundaries to exist in virtual spaces. The digital landscape has become a vital platform, fostering connections, and providing essential support for individuals navigating the complexities of grief. In virtual spaces, individuals seeking connection are able to transcend geographical constraints to find community, ensuring that no one has to navigate grief alone.

From shared experiences to collective mourning, communities emerge as a guiding light during times of loss. By remembering departed loved ones together, we are able to move out of the solitary path of grief.

Saying Goodbye with Grace: Navigating Modern Funeral Etiquette

Fri, 29 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Saying Goodbye with Grace: Navigating Modern Funeral Etiquette

Honoring Loved Ones and Providing Comfort in Times of Grief

Funerals are poignant moments that honor and remember the loved ones who have departed, offering solace for grieving families and friends. However, navigating modern funeral etiquette can be a daunting task. We’re often asked how to properly express sympathy, dress appropriately, and behave respectfully. At Keohane Funeral Home, we understand deeply how important it is to say goodbye with grace, and we’re here to guide you through the nuances of contemporary funeral etiquette.

Appropriate Behavior at Funerals:

Choosing Appropriate Attire:

Expressions of Sympathy:

Honoring Loved Ones with Thoughtfulness

At Keohane, we believe that saying goodbye with grace involves a blend of tradition and consideration for contemporary sensitivities. By following these guidelines on modern funeral etiquette, you contribute to establishing a supportive, respectful environment for grieving families.

If you have any questions or need further guidance on funeral etiquette, please don’t hesitate to reach out to our compassionate team here at Keohane. We are here to assist you in navigating this delicate and important aspect of honoring and remembering your loved ones.

Keohane Funeral Homes: Where Tradition Meets Compassion in Times of Grief.

Healing Hearts: A Guide to Grief Processing and Support

Sat, 25 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Healing Hearts: A Guide to Grief Processing and Support

Navigating the Complex Journey of Healing After Loss

Grief: A deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement (Merriam-Webster)

Grief is an inevitable part of our human experience. It’s a profound and complex emotion that accompanies the loss of a loved one. At Keohane Funeral Home, we understand deeply that processing grief can be a life-altering journey, and we are here to offer insights into healthy grieving, coping strategies, and the local support systems available to help guide you through this challenging emotional process.

Understanding Grief: A Natural and Personal Journey

Grieving is a deeply personal experience, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It’s crucial to understand that grief is a natural response to loss, whether it’s the passing of a family member, a friend, a family pet, the end of a relationship, or a significant life change. The journey through grief is unique to each of us, shaped by our relationship with the departed and the circumstances of the loss.

Insights into Healthy Grieving:

Coping Strategies for Healing:

Local Support Systems:

Conclusion: You Are Not Alone in Your Grief Journey

At Keohane, we recognize that healing after a loss is a gradual process that requires time, patience, and support. By embracing healthy grieving processes and utilizing available local resources, you can navigate this journey with resilience and compassion. Remember, you are not alone, and healing hearts is a collective journey toward renewed strength and hope.

If you have any questions or need assistance in your grief journey, please don’t hesitate to reach out to our caring team at Keohane Funeral Home. We are here for you every step of the way.

Nature’s Final Embrace: Green Burial Options

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Nature’s Final Embrace: Green Burial Options

A Sustainable and Meaningful Choice for the Environmentally Conscious

At a time when environmental consciousness has become a part of our daily lives, an increasing number of people are seeking burial options that harmonize with nature even in this most solemn moment of life. Green burials, an eco-friendly and meaningful choice, are gaining momentum as people warm to the idea of returning to the earth in a sustainable way. At Keohane Funeral Home, we’re proud to offer these green burial options, providing a compassionate, environmentally gentle alternative to traditional funeral practices.

What Is a Green Burial?

Keohane is a leading provider of green burials in New England. We formed the New England Green Burial Society for the express purpose of providing an environmentally conscious burial option free from the carbon emissions produced through the cremation process or the land commitment of traditional cemeteries.

A green burial occurs in a green cemetery or natural burial ground. These specially designated spaces are chosen for their commitment to preserving the natural landscape. The funeral process avoids the use of burial vaults and embalming chemicals, which can have adverse effects on the environment over the long term.

The Green Burial Process

Keohane will guide you and your family through the entire green burial process, making it as easy as possible for you and your loved ones during this difficult time. We understand that choosing a green burial is not just a statement of environmental responsibility; it’s a deeply personal decision.

One of the most distinctive features of a green burial is the use of fully biodegradable caskets. These caskets are made from sustainable materials, such as bamboo, willow, or pine, which are carefully chosen to have minimal impact on the environment. The biodegradable casket is placed directly into the earth, where it naturally decomposes. In this natural process, nature is allowed to take its course, fostering the growth of new life.

Three Positive Impacts of Green Burials

Conclusion:

We believe that the final goodbyes for a loved one should be a reflection of the values that mattered to them most in life. Opting for a green burial honors the memory of your loved one while also taking action to create a more sustainable and eco-friendly world. At Keohane, we are committed to guiding you and your family through this process with warmth and support, ensuring a meaningful, ecologically responsible farewell for your loved one.

If you have any questions about our green burial options or need assistance with funeral arrangements, please don’t hesitate to reach out to our caring and knowledgeable team.

Navigating The Journey: The 5 Benefits of Advance Funeral Planning

Sun, 01 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Navigating The Journey: The 5 Benefits of Advance Funeral Planning

Life is beautiful–and often unpredictable. Though we can’t control every aspect of our lives, we can certainly plan for one inevitable event – our passing. Pre-planning your funeral arrangements with Keohane Funeral Home offers you and your loved ones the peace of mind that comes from knowing your final wishes will be honored while removing the added burden of decision-making for your loved ones during one of life’s most challenging moments.

In this blog post, we’ll explore the five significant benefits that come from advance funeral planning and how it may reduce stress for your family and friends.

Help Your Loved Ones by Relieving The Stress of Funeral Planning While Mourning

Losing a loved one is an emotionally fraught experience, and when in shock and grieving, the last thing anyone wants to face is making complex (and potentially expensive) decisions about your funeral arrangements. By pre-planning your funeral, you can protect your family and friends from having to make tough choices at a time of substantial grief.

With Keohane, you can work with our compassionate and experienced staff to select everything, from the style of casket or cremation urn to the type of service, including music and readings that are most meaningful to you. In this way, you’re able to create a personalized farewell that truly reflects your life, your values, and creates a final lasting memory for your loved ones.

Financial Peace of Mind

Funerals can be costly, and the expense can create a significant financial burden on your loved ones at a time when they’re especially vulnerable. Advance funeral planning enables you to lock in current prices, protecting your family from the rising costs of funeral services in the future. By pre-funding your funeral, you ensure that the financial aspect is taken care of, easing your family’s stress during an already stressful time. And as many people purchase insurance policies to cover funeral costs, you can match your coverage to your pre-planned funeral expense, leaving your loved ones with added peace of mind.

Emotional Peace of Mind

Each of us is unique, and so are our preferences for our funerals. Advance funeral planning enables you to specify your wishes in precise detail. Whether you prefer a traditional burial, cremation, or a green burial, you select your preferences, along with the location, style, and individual flourishes that will make your service a distinct reflection of your life.

Peace of Mind for You

Advance funeral planning isn’t just about protecting and helping your loved ones; it’s also about your peace of mind. Knowing that your end-of-life affairs are in order and your desires for your funeral will be carried out as you’d chosen offers you a substantial measure of peace and comfort. You’ll be able to focus on the present, living your life as you see fit without the gnawing worry of what could happen after you’re gone.

Avoid Family Disputes

Funeral planning can sometimes reopen old wounds among family members with competing ideas about how to commemorate your life. By clearly documenting your preferences in advance, you help prevent these potential conflicts and help your family to remain united while grieving your loss.

Conclusion

Pre-planning your funeral with Keohane is a smart, considerate way to care for your family, friends, and yourself. Your family is relieved of making difficult decisions, offers financial and emotional peace of mind, and gives you an added measure of peace.

Take the opportunity to navigate life’s final chapter a little bit easier for everyone involved—yourself included. Contact us today to start the process and discover the comfort that comes with knowing you’ve taken care of your loved ones while you’re still here with them.

Personal Touches to Make a Funeral Unique

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

What to Wear to a Funeral: Your Guide to Respectful Attire

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

What to Wear to a Funeral: Your Guide to Respectful Attire

Funerals are occasions that call for respect and decorum, and what you choose to wear should reflect that. While the specific dress codes can vary based on culture, religion, and the wishes of the deceased’s family, there are some general principles that can guide you in choosing appropriate attire for a funeral.

Don’t

By following these simple guidelines, you can ensure that your outfit is both respectful and appropriate for the occasion. Remember, funerals are a time to honor the deceased, not an opportunity to stand out, so keep it simple!

It’s also important to remember that everyone’s grieving process is different, and no one should judge someone for their choice of clothing. If you’re attending a funeral, the most important thing is that you show up and pay your respects in whatever way feels right for you.

Funerals are often difficult and sad occasions, but honoring the memory of the deceased can be a great source of comfort. So, when attending one, make sure you take the time to dress appropriately and pay your respects with compassion and sensitivity.

If you are worried about having limited choices and resources, remember that the goal is to honor the deceased and show respect for their memory. If you do the best you can, you can’t go wrong.

In conclusion, attending a funeral requires showing respect and compassion through both our presence and appearance. Opt for conservative, understated attire in darker colors, and ensure that you are comfortable enough to stand or sit for extended periods. By following those guidelines, you’ll always be dressed appropriately for the occasion.

Resources:

What To Wear To A Funeral: A Complete Guide For Women And Men

Proper Funeral Attire for Men, Women, and Kids

We hope you find this brief guide on funeral attire helpful. Please feel free to visit our etiquette page for answers to other common questions. Or, you can contact us at Keohane.com .

How to Choose a Photo for a Funeral or Memorial Service

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share. An Opportunity to Share Your Fresh Produce

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

The Value of Journaling While Grieving

Sat, 15 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

5 Benefits of Volunteering

Sat, 01 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 04:00:00 GMT

How to Retire a Flag

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 04:00:00 GMT

How to Retire a Flag

There is hardly a sight so breathtaking to an American as our flag. The symbolism is rich with honor and dignity, and the flag represents the freedom purchased with the blood of patriotic Americans and the untold sacrifices of their families. Over time, the flags we proudly wave begin to show wear, faded and shredded by wind and weather. You may wonder what to do with your old flag when you replace it with a crisp, new flag.

Cutting your flag is an approved option for retirement. This is acceptable because once it is cut into pieces, it is no longer considered a flag. The U.S. Scouts Procedure for cutting a flag indicates that you must:

Some people like to donate used flags to Stars for Our Troops or other groups that cut the stars out of flags and give them to veterans with a note thanking them for their service.

3. Burying a Flag

If you are unable to respectfully burn a retired flag you may conduct a ceremonial burial. Again, this is to be done with a reverent atmosphere and should be buried in a respectful way in a respectful place. For example, you would not want to bury it in a barnyard, but rather a peaceful hill or shady spot under a tree. Carefully fold your flag, place it in a wooden box, and bury it before conducting a short funeral or prayer.

Above all, flags need to be retired in a reverent, patriotic, and respectful way. Our American flag represents so much that we have to be grateful for. If you have any questions about how to retire a flag, feel free to contact us at Keohane Funeral Homes: 617-773-3551. You can also find un online at https://keohane.com.

What Does Memorializing a Facebook Page Mean?

Mon, 15 May 2023 04:00:00 GMT

What Does a Funeral Director Do?

Mon, 01 May 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Free Plant. Grow. Share. Gardening Workshops

Sat, 15 Apr 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Free Plant. Grow. Share. Gardening Workshops

We are thrilled to announce our 2023 free Plant.Grow.Share. Gardening Workshops. Since 2010, Plant.Grow.Share has positively impacted individuals, and our community, with the joys and benefits of gardening.

“With about 18 percent of Massachusetts residents considered food insecure, we are proud to be able to continue this community tradition,” said John Keohane, Co-President of Keohane Funeral Home. “Plant.Grow.Share. is for everyone—from backyard gardeners wanting to increase yields to grocery store shoppers willing to share with the local food pantry. We appreciate everyone’s participation.”

Free Gardening Workshops

Free gardening workshops will be offered on May 23, 24 and 25 in Hingham, Weymouth and Quincy. This collaboration, with the Keohane Funeral Home, Interfaith Social Services, and Weymouth Food Pantry, encourages local gardeners to donate produce to food pantries. This community outreach program includes gardening workshops and opportunities to help neighbors in need by donating fresh produce.

This year’s three free 60-minute workshops, led by local organic farmer Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset, will focus on home gardening techniques. Each attendee will receive a vegetable seedling from Holly Hill Farm, donated by Keohane Funeral Home. Workshops will take place on the following dates and locations. Please RSVP to [email protected] or 1-800-KEOHANE with the location where you would like to attend.

“Those who attend the workshops will definitely benefit from the expertise of Farmer Jon Belber. We are grateful to have his extensive knowledge and teaching abilities to help our community grow more produce and share it with others in need,” said Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services.

Everyone Can Contribute

Doane noted that produce donations are very important to local food pantries due to increased requests for fresh produce. The Plant.Grow.Share. program encourages people to develop their gardening skills through free workshops. However, if you are unable to garden, you can still contribute by donating store-bought produce, money, or time volunteering at local food pantries.

“Small donations of produce or money add up. If ten people make small donations, we have quite a bit to share! Every donation brings our community together to help feed those in need,” said Pam Denholm, Executive Director of Weymouth Food Pantry.

Learn more about donating fresh produce to local food pantries:

For questions or to donate to the Plant.Grow.Share. program, please contact:

Veterans Who Struggle with PTSD

Sat, 01 Apr 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Protect Yourself from Scams

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Grieving the Loss of a Pet

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Thoughts on Choosing Music for a Funeral

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Ensuring that Your Finances are in Order in 7 Steps

Wed, 01 Feb 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Navigating Sibling Disagreement when Planning a Funeral for a Parent

Sun, 15 Jan 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Navigating Sibling Disagreement when Planning a Funeral for a Parent

Ideally, every family faced with planning their parent’s funeral will completely agree about every detail in perfect unity. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world, and every family has quirks and differences. The best cure for sibling disagreements is if the parent has pre-planned or is still able to have a say in their funeral preferences. However, if this is not the case, there are ways to help make the situation better. We have some ideas for children who are caught in the unfortunate situation of conflicting with their siblings regarding their parent’s funeral.

If your parents are still alive, encourage them to talk to one another and to you and your siblings about their wishes. When your parents, or one living parent, talk about their end-of-life wishes, send an email detailing the conversation to your parent(s) and sibling(s). However, if your parent is unable to communicate or has passed and you are faced with a mountain of decisions, it will help to make a list of those things you definitely know that your parent wanted for their funeral. Then you can consider the other details. A parent is honored best when their children seek unity and lovingkindness in their conversations and decisions.

When grief and raw and tensions are high, it can be difficult to think clearly. If your parents left you and your siblings with few or no preferences, it may help to bring in a third party such as a pastor or counselor. If you can bring your mediator with you to the funeral home, when the family meets with the funeral director, they can help everyone navigate planning by adding an anchor to the conversation. They may recommend rules such as each sibling being given an equal amount of time to speak, uninterrupted. Imagine the mediator as something like a referee in a football game or a moderator at a presidential debate. Brief your pastor or counselor with the facts beforehand, avoiding bias. And afterwards, send your mediator a generous gift of money or a substantial gift card to show your appreciation.

Some details obviously hold more weight than others. For example, the decision of burial or cremation vs. what food should be served at the reception are choices of varying levels of importance. We’ve all heard the sage advice, “Choose your battles,” which may be good to remember in this situation.

You may ask, “What if I have a sibling who thinks every decision is equally important and wants to take complete control?” Take a deep breath and pause for several moments to consider. If there were just one decision you would fight for, what would it be? Maybe you know your parent greatly wanted their service to take place at a certain church. If your siblings want to have it at a park, but you know your Mom would not have wanted that, you could possibly approach this in the following way.

You could calmly but firmly say, “You guys can do whatever you want for the casket, flowers, and reception, but please consider that Mom really wanted her service at the church. I stand for Mom on this one.” Once your siblings see that you are firm about only one thing, and that you are open to their decisions on other matters, they may be less likely to fight about the church.

Above all we want to encourage you to nurture the relationships you have with your siblings. They are grieving, too, and may not be thinking clearly. Your parent doesn’t care about the color of napkins for the reception. What they probably wanted more than anything was for you and your siblings to love and support each other, now and in the coming days.

As always, we are here to answer your questions and help you make decisions that will best honor your loved one. Please feel free to check out our website [https://keohane.com] for more information or call 617-773-3551 to set up an appointment today.

Transferring Pre-Need Funeral Plans

Sun, 01 Jan 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Honoring Veterans with Wreaths Across America

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 05:00:00 GMT

Honoring Veterans with Wreaths Across America

Quincy and Hingham are two of the communities included in Wreaths Across America, an organization that lays wreaths at veterans’ graves.

In Hingham, there are 3,600 veteran graves in six cemeteries, three of which will be included in the wreath event. Keohane Funeral Home and Pyne Keohane Funeral Home are proud to help honor the fallen men and women who have served our country.

With this year’s wreath laying on Saturday, December 17, you still have time to volunteer or donate to Wreaths Across America.

Follow the links to learn more.

Mt. Wollaston Cemetery (MAMWCQ)

Pine Hills Cemetery (MAPHQM)

Hingham Cemeteries (MAHIGH)

Pictured here is John Keohane, Co-President of Keohane Funeral Home and Christine Cugini, Veteran coordinator for the City of Quincy and for the city’s Wreaths Across America event. Christine is accepting Keohane Funeral Home’s donation on behalf of the veterans who passed during the past year.

Grieving During the Holidays

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 05:00:00 GMT

Grieving During the Holidays

Grief looks different for everyone, especially during the holidays. This year it may be a deeply grieving holiday season for you. You don’t feel like going anywhere and there is nothing that anyone can say or do to lift your burden. You may desire happiness, but that possibility seems as distant as the moon. Or perhaps your grief comes and goes in waves, crashing at unpredictable moments. From peaceful sea to powerful storm, whatever your situation, you are not alone.

There are people who care about you who struggle for words and not know what you need. There are also fellow grievers needing comfort. We want to share five ideas that we hope will help get you through this holiday season with a real sense of peace and joy in your heart.

Things to Remember This Holiday Season:

1. You need people.

2. Grief does not have a timetable.

You may feel pressured by well-meaning loved ones to wrap up grief in a package and be done with it. Grief is a funny thing; it comes with a different timetable for each person. Try not to take their pressure personally and communicate that you appreciate their intentions. But calmly communicate that you are not ready to be what they want you to be. However, you must choose to not allow yourself to be overwhelmed by your grief. It’s okay to have moments, but you are alive, so you need to live! If you need help, there are counselors and ministers available to help you. Admitting you need help is a sign of ownership and strength.

3. People need you.

Hey, wait – this sounds a lot like #1? You’re right. Just as you need people … people need you. Family, friends, neighbors, and some people you have not even met yet, need you! It usually helps us while we are grieving to think about how we could minister to someone else who is also grieving. You understand what they are going through unlike most people they know, and that can be extremely comforting. Your empathy can be a refreshing, safe place to go to for friendship and a listening ear. Try to think of how you can minister to someone who is going through a hard time, and you will likely find yourself encouraged and refreshed in the process.

4. Do something special to remember your loved one.

A good question to ask might be, “How would they want me to remember them this year?” Maybe they would want you to visit a place where you made a sweet memory together. Or perhaps they would want you to donate toys to needy children in their honor. You knew them best, so trust your instinct to know how they would want you to make it through this holiday season. Honoring their memory will probably be painful, but it will probably surprise you how much comfort it can also bring to your heart.

5. Just take the next step.

It could be that last year at this time you were a bundle of tears and swathed in the depths of grief. Or maybe that is where you find yourself this year. It is okay and grieving is important. If that was where you were last year and you find yourself teary occasionally but not as weighed down by grief, don’t feel guilty about it. It doesn’t mean that your love for your family member or friend is waning. It is very likely that they would be happy to see that you are taking steps to build a life without them. And they would not want you to feel guilty about it. Take one step at a time, and don’t worry if you take a step back. The important thing is that you are moving!

We hope that these tips will help you this holiday season. You are important and you are loved!

The Biggest Misconceptions About Cremation

Fri, 15 Apr 2022 04:00:00 GMT

The Biggest Misconceptions About Cremation

Cremation has not only become a lot more common since the turn of the millennium. It is well on its way to becoming the norm. In 2021, nearly 60 percent of families opted for cremation, according to the National Funeral Directors Association.

But while there is a clear appeal to cremation—it is faster and less expensive that a traditional burial, for example—there are still large gaps in the public understanding of what cremation means for families, and what services are available to those who choose it. The fact is, contrary to what many believe, cremation isn’t the end of the process. It’s part of a broader and more meaningful package that brings families and friends together, and helps them cope with their loss and honor the memory of their loved one.

For instance, many families who opt for cremation also want something permanent to memorialize the person they have lost. They may want to place the ashes in a location where family members can go to remember them—such as a plot or an above-ground burial niche at a cemetery. Others may want to keep the ashes, or even a small portion of them, in a keepsake, such as an urn or a small piece of jewelry. Others still may be interested in scattering the remains in a place of significance to the individual. Some may want to do all three. Whatever the preference, Keohane’s can work with your family to make it a reality.

There’s also the matter of a ceremony. Ina previous blog post, we talked about the importance of holding some kind of ceremony—anything from a religious service to simply gathering to light a candle—to help people cope with a loss. Ceremonies and rituals have been around for millennia for a reason: they help us process grief in the company of others. They give us closure and catharsis. Unfortunately, many people who opt for cremation assume that they are not able to have a service of some kind, or they say they’re going to have some kind of gathering later on, and never do. Or perhaps they believe that because they are not religious, that a service is simply off the table.

That’s not true. Whether a family is religious or not, Keohane’s can work closely with those who have chosen cremation to create a beautiful, memorable, customized service to suit their needs and help properly honor the memory of the person they have lost.

How to Cope with the Anniversary of a Loss

Fri, 01 Apr 2022 04:00:00 GMT

How to Cope with the Anniversary of a Loss

The anniversary of the death of a loved one can be hard. But what many people don’t expect, as they head toward the date, is that for some the run-up to the anniversary can be even harder.

In the event that the death was sudden, or tragic, survivors might obsessively revisit the specific events that led up to that day. “It’s kind of a traumatic reliving of whatever happened,” says Luterman. “Like, on October 11th, Dad and I were playing bridge with some friends. And then there was the trip to the hospital, and the day the biopsy results came back.” This happens naturally to people who are struggling to process or understand a particularly painful loss. We go back in time, and relive the experience to try to make sense of it. And in doing so, we feel all the things we felt that first time. “That takes people by surprise,” says Luterman. “All of that stuff comes rushing back.”

That said, the experience leading up to an anniversary of a death that was less traumatic—a person who lived a full life and died at a ripe age—will likely lead to less obsessive reliving of the days leading up to the loss. That’s not to say people won’t mourn the absence of that loved one, or won’t still feel sad. It’s just that because the loss is more comprehensible, the anniversary might be less painful and disorienting.

In either case, Luterman says, the key to getting through anniversaries is the same as the key to grieving. Mark the day by lighting a candle, or cooking the deceased’s favorite meal, or gathering family and friends for a dinner, or to pray together, or any comforting ritual that allows you to face the loss with people you love. And take it easy on yourself, Luterman says—which is easier said than done.

“People always say to me, “How do I push through?” The lever is always push . And what I suggest is really that the lever isn’t “push” at all. It’s be kind to yourself, ease up on things, up the self-care regimen, spend time with people that are comforting,” she says. “If you can, lighten your workload some. Make sure that you’re getting your water, you’re eating, you’re sleeping, getting a little bit of exercise, you know, that you’re, that you’re caring for yourself pretty attentively. And, but really the biggest piece of advice. Be gentle with yourself.”

Why Rituals Are Important, Pt. 3.

Sat, 15 Jan 2022 05:00:00 GMT

Why Rituals Are Important, Pt. 3.

The Case for a Ceremony, Part 3.

What do you think of when you think of a memorial service? A lot of people think of a traditional funeral: with a wake, some kind of religious service, and then a commitment ceremony at the cemetery. This was the way it was for a long time. But it is not the way it is now.

It’s funny to think of it this way, but many funeral services today are more like weddings than they are like traditional funeral services. Today they are more customized, more a reflection of the person they are honoring. These services can happen in funeral homes, or backyards, function halls, pretty much anywhere. They can feature whatever music or readings the family finds meaningful. They can take pretty much any form the family wants. For some, this might be an explicitly religious ritual. For others, it’s still ritual, just designed for secular people.

Of course, planning such a ceremony is a lot of work, especially at a time when families are already struggling with the emotional, and legal, and logistical difficulties that come in the wake of the loss of a loved one. In fact, one person told us, in the midst of planning a service, “You know what? This is, this is just like my daughter’s wedding.”

The good news is Keohane’s can plan it for you—handling everything from introducing families to a celebrant, helping to find the right venue, hiring musicians, recommending poems or prayers to read or songs to sing, renting audio-visual equipment for speeches or video presentations, creating printed materials, and even organizing balloon releases or dove releases. In short: anything families need to create a beautiful, memorable service at which to gather with friends and family to honor the memory of a loved one.

Why Rituals Are Important, Pt. 2

Sat, 01 Jan 2022 05:00:00 GMT

COVID-19 FUNERAL HOME UPDATE & INFORMATION

Sat, 01 Jan 2022 05:00:00 GMT

COVID-19 FUNERAL HOME UPDATE & INFORMATION

“Show me the manner in which a nation cares for its dead and I will measure with mathematical exactness the tender mercies of its people, their respect for the laws of the land, and their loyalty to high ideals.”

–William Gladstone

“The pandemic is an unprecedented situation which has caused additional stress and concerns for families facing a loss”, said firm Co-President John E. Keohane. “We hope that through these initiatives we may allay many of these concerns so that families may focus on the emotional healing they need.”

In response to the most recent public health directives given by local, state and federal governments, Keohane has updated its protocols:

“In addition to these safeguards, our team has also developed several initiatives that we hope will provide our community with opportunities to connect and share despite the threat of COVID-19”, added firm Co-President Dennis W. Keohane. “Social isolation is a concern for all of us but most especially for those like the grieving and our seniors who need connection most. We hope that these initiatives will help people feel less isolated.”

Keohane is offering the following initiatives to help families heal and to aid in the reduction of virus transmission and social isolation.

The entire Keohane team has worked diligently over the past two years to ensure that every family had the ability to honor their loved ones in a meaningful way, even during very difficult circumstances. We have always known that people need to come together, in person, to properly begin the grieving process. There is no electronic substitute for a warm embrace, outstretched hands, or a kiss on the cheek.

We offer our heartfelt condolences for every family that was affected by Covid-19 and pray you will receive the strength and emotional support needed over the coming months.

Those seeking additional information may visit www.keohane.com . Those with urgent needs or questions should call 1-800-KEOHANE.

Why Rituals Are Important, Pt 1.

Wed, 15 Dec 2021 05:00:00 GMT

Why Rituals Are Important, Pt 1.

Of all the common misconceptions people have about working with a funeral home upon the loss of a loved one, one of the most common ones has to do with the purpose of ritual.

In the past, funerals were simple. You’d have a wake at a funeral home, a service at a house of worship, and a graveside ceremony, followed by a more informal gathering of family and friends. When a death occurred, this was what many families did. It brought people together for a stated purpose, it had a beginning, middle, and end, and it allowed people to come to grips with a loss in the supportive presence of their families and communities.

There are still a lot of families that follow these sorts of rituals, but as times changed and people became more secular, many families have come to view funeral rituals as a strictly religious phenomenon. As a result, many families have opted to skip them—from the wake, to the funeral, to services of any kind. In doing so, however, they may have denied themselves the essential psychological benefits that come with performing a ritual upon the death of a loved one.

The fact is, rituals are not necessarily religious—humans have celebrated rituals for thousands of years, and they take countless forms. “As far back as humans go, so does ritual,” says Sairey Luterman, a Lexington-based grief counsellor. “It’s how we’re built to mark time, and to mark seasons, and to mark our lives.”

Rituals have existed for so long because they work. But today even scientific researchers are finding that rituals can be extraordinarily helpful to people who have experienced a loss. “Even simple rituals can be extremely effective,” noted the publication Scientific American in 2013. “Rituals performed after experiencing losses do alleviate grief… What’s more, rituals appear to benefit even people who claim not to believe that rituals work.”

Luterman saw the power of rituals firsthand during the Covid-19 crisis. Out of necessity, many families who lost loved ones were not able to gather to mark their passing. Today, Luterman says she sees “a visible difference” between the people who did ultimately hold a service or a gathering of some sort, versus they people who didn’t. “It’s really, really important,” she says. “Does it make you like jump out of bed and you’re happy? No. But it helps you begin to integrate the loss. It helps us accept that something really important has changed in our lives.”

“We need community and ritual to grieve,” she continues. “We need to hear and see other people’s experience of the loss. It is a community-based experience. Do I think everyone needs to cry to grieve? Absolutely not. But I think that it’s a good idea for people to be shoulder to shoulder at some kind of an event, talking about the person and remembering them.”

We’ll discuss some options even secular families have for performing or even creating rituals in a future post. But they don’t need to be elaborate, says Luterman. “We can be talking about something as simple as lighting a candle and standing by it for a few minutes and letting it burn.” she says. “It’s lovely, and comforting, and helps us mark the passing of the person.”

The Messy Art of Coping with Holidays After Experiencing a Loss

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 05:00:00 GMT

The Messy Art of Coping with Holidays After Experiencing a Loss

There are many parts of the grieving process that catch people off guard. But one thing that doesn’t is the expectation that holidays will be difficult after the loss of a loved one. And while it may seem like cold comfort, this can actually a positive thing, because people won’t be blindsided. And that means they can prepare.

How can they. Luterman has worked with countless families over the years, and she suggests that families start by discussing in advance what the plan for celebrating the holiday should be. “Open the dialogue,” she says. This means talking in advance about what might be hard, and what might bring comfort, and what the day will involve, what the activities will be, and who will do what, and bring what. Plus, you’ll want to talk about the ways you can celebrate the person who is not there. Maybe you’ll sing his favorite holiday song, or make her favorite food. Maybe you’ll just light a candle and tell some stories. Small things can be very powerful.

That said, while it’s good to have a plan for the day, it’s also critical to build in a great deal of flexibility, because no one can really predict how the day will go, or what they will be feeling, or what they might struggle with. “Sometimes people will say, ‘Well, should we stick to exactly what we used to do?’” says Luterman. And that might be just the thing for that particular family. But sometimes recreating past holiday traditions starts to feel too hard, or forced, or family members feel that they’re just gritting their teeth and soldiering through.

“Have a Plan A, and a Plan B,” says Luterman. And even a Plan C. “That way, if you are going down, the road of ‘Christmas is exactly the same way it’s been for 30 years,’ and suddenly it’s Christmas Day, and everyone’s kind of limping along, and weepy, and miserable, you can just say, ‘Let’s all load into the car and go for a walk on the beach.’” You won’t be bound to a set plan that isn’t working.

Of course, neither planning nor flexibility can happen without a shared expectation that the holidays will be difficult. “Setting expectations is so important. Know that it’s going to be hard, that it’s going to be something to get through as best you can, and know to not have romantic ideas that it’ll be like it was,” Luterman says. Still, she adds, “I always try to open up the possibility that there will be glimmers of something lovely, that there might be flickers of joy. And that that’s okay, too.”

Why Choose a Family-Owned Funeral Home?

Tue, 15 Jun 2021 04:00:00 GMT

Why Choose a Family-Owned Funeral Home?

There are important differences between a funeral home owned by a local family and one run by a large corporation. A Family-Owned funeral home has roots in the community and can focus on the quality of care of the family in need and not the profits of the shareholders.

Benefits of a Family-Owned Funeral Home

Some of the advantages of using a Family-Owned business, such as Keohane Funeral Home, include:

A family-owned funeral home gives you and your family the personal attention and compassionate care that you deserve in a time of need as well as additional support, even after the funeral is over. At Keohane, we provide an annual holiday memorial service for families who have lost someone over the past year to remember their loved ones during the holidays, which can be an especially challenging time for those grieving a loss.

Funeral homes that are family-owned don’t have the pressure to perform for shareholders or keep up quotas to meet bottom line profits. We take the time to personalize funeral services to honor each individual person at Keohane Funeral Home. We cater only to our local families and not to corporate headquarters, which can be located out of the state, or their shareholders focused on profitability.

“To me, working for a family owned and operated funeral home is important, as it allows us to truly focus on providing the highest quality of care to the family. Additionally, I’m proud to be part of a team that places such an emphasis on community commitment,” said Maureen Aronson who oversees bookkeeping at Keohane.

A locally owned and operated business is part of the fabric of the community and cares about the health and wellbeing of the residents. Keohane Funeral Home sponsors many community-oriented events, such as our annual Plant.Grow.Share. program which encourages backyard gardeners to donate their home-grown produce to local food pantries during the growing season and our annual coat drive for neighbors in need during the holiday season.

Even national corporations know that people feel more comfortable dealing with someone they can trust and who has connections to their own community. When a funeral home is bought by a corporation, the sign often stays the same, so it can be hard to know if a funeral home is actually family-owned or not. To make sure a funeral home is family-owned or corporate-owned, ask if they are owned by a national chain of funeral homes or if they are a publicly held company.

For more information about the benefits of a Family-Owned funeral home or to speak with one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Celebrating Grandfathers on Father’s Day

Tue, 01 Jun 2021 04:00:00 GMT

Celebrating Grandfathers on Father’s Day

June is the month to celebrate fathers on Father’s Day. But what about grandfathers? They play a special role in our lives and the lives of our children as well. What better way to show your appreciation than to celebrate Grandpa on Father’s Day!

Father’s Day can be a great way for you and your children to bond with Grandpa, whether it’s joining him for a nice meal, sharing a special hobby or spending an afternoon reading together. Regardless of how your children spend time with their grandpa, the most important part of the day is creating wonderful memories.

Plant.Grow.Share Annual Seedling Giveaway Encourages Donations of Fresh Produce to Area Food Pantries

Sat, 15 May 2021 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share Annual Seedling Giveaway Encourages Donations of Fresh Produce to Area Food Pantries

We depend on the generosity of the community and our local gardeners to bring fresh produce to our food pantries to make the Plant.Grow.Share. program successful. To encourage participation, Keohane Funeral Home is once again offering their annual seedling giveaway and free gardening workshops. Sign up today!

Plant.Grow.Share. is a fresh food initiative for our local food pantries, co-sponsored by Keohane Funeral Home, Interfaith Social Services, the Weymouth Food Pantry, and the Milton Community Food Pantry.

Annual Seedling Giveaway

The Keohane Funeral Home annual seedling giveaway is coming this June. Anyone interested may pick up a FREE plant seedling during the following dates, times, and locations:

Interfaith Social Services: Tuesday, June 8 from 4-7 PM; seedling pick up will be via drive-up at 105 Adams St., Quincy – (617) 773-6203

Weymouth Food Pantry: Saturday, June 5 from 9-11 AM and Saturday, June 12 from 9-11 AM at Old South Union Church, 25 Columbian St., South Weymouth

All community members – from green thumb to first time gardeners – are invited to participate by growing, then donating a portion of their harvest, to one of our area food pantries: Interfaith Social Services, Weymouth Food Pantry, or Milton Community Food Pantry.

FREE Herb Container Gardening Workshops

Join our free workshops designed to give you the tools to create your own free-standing herb container garden – no garden plot needed! Participants will walk away with free plant seedlings, a bucket container, and the knowledge to grow their herbs. Organic plant seedlings from Holly Hill farm are being donated by Keohane Funeral Home.

Workshops require pre-registration and have a participation limit. For the Tufts Library workshop in Weymouth, registration is through the library and for the St. Mary Church workshop in Quincy, registration is through the Keohane Funeral Home website .

June 2 at St. Mary Church in Quincy

June 9 at Tufts Library back parking lot from 1 to 2 PM in Weymouth

How You Can Help

Monetary donations can be made through Interfaith Social Service’s website: https://in terfaithsocialservices.org/donate/ ; Weymouth Food Pantry’s website: https://www.weymouthfoodpantry.org/donation-page ; or the Milton Community Food Pantry website: https://www.miltonfoodpantryma.org/donate

Store bought produce and other food items are also always welcomed at Interfaith Social Services and Weymouth Food Pantry.

“People often want to help out in their community but aren’t always sure how. Growing vegetables in their backyard and donating a portion of the harvest to a food pantry is a simple and enjoyable way to help out,” says Joe Reardon, V.P. for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane Funeral Home.

For questions, or to volunteer or donate to the Plant.Grow.Share. program, please contact: Rick Doane Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services, (617) 773-6203 Ext. 17; Joe Reardon, V.P. for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane Funeral Home, 1-800-KEOHANE; or Pam Denholm, Executive Director of Weymouth Food Pantry, (781) 635-7783.

Exploring Funeral Costs: 5 Ways to Plan

Sat, 01 May 2021 04:00:00 GMT

Exploring Funeral Costs: 5 Ways to Plan

Funeral costs can vary depending on where you live and what goods and services are selected. However, most people do not want funeral costs to become a financial burden for their surviving loved ones, especially during an emotional and difficult time. Funeral planning can help ease this burden and provide peace of mind.

Here are five ways to plan for funeral costs in advance:

1. Plan ahead : The best way to save money and prevent emotional and financial burdens on your family is to plan ahead. Pre-planning a funeral also guarantees that you will receive the kind of funeral you wish to have. Most funeral homes offer free advance funeral planning services, so be sure to ask to speak with a funeral prearrangement specialist. Taking advantage of this opportunity will help you understand your options, provide a written record of your wishes, and give you the option to take care of funeral costs in advance.

2. Know Your Rights : To help consumers understand the costs of funerals, the Federal Trade Commission enacted the Funeral Rule which allows patrons to choose and pay for only the goods and services they want when making funeral arrangements. The Rule also requires funeral homes to give a written price list of items and services, and it allows for comparing prices among funeral homes. The Rule does not apply to third-party sellers, such as casket and monument dealers, or to cemeteries without an on-site funeral home.

3. Pay in advance : While advance funeral planning does not require pre-payment, paying ahead of time offers financial benefits such as cost protection and assistance with public health benefit eligibility. “Many people find it helpful to get an idea of costs in advance at a time when they are not overwhelmed by emotion and can think clearly,” said Reardon. “If you choose, you can pre-pay the funeral home to be held in trust.” And, if your income and assets exceed allowable Medicaid levels, you may begin the process to become eligible under Medicaid spend down rules which allows you to subtract your medical and funeral expenses from your income in order to become eligible for Medicaid. An irrevocable funeral trust is allowed to put aside funds to pay for funeral and burial expenses which are exempt assets toward Medicaid eligibility.

4. Government benefits : Your family may be eligible to receive funeral benefits from the Unite States government. If your loved one was a veteran, they may be entitled to certain burial benefits, including monetary assistance and a free burial space in a state or national cemetery and a grave marker. This benefit also includes internment, or the opening and closing of the grave, and the perpetual care and maintenance of the state or national cemetery grounds. Spouses and dependents may be buried in a national cemetery with the Veteran. If your family chooses a private cemetery, the VA provides a headstone, marker or medallion, burial flag, and a Presidential certificate. Also, the Social Security Administration pays out a small, one-time survivor’s benefit at the time of death.

5. Consider affordable options : Cremation is becoming an increasingly popular option for final dispensation in the U.S. Because there is no need for a burial plot, casket and opening and closing of the grave, cremation can be an affordable alternative to traditional burial. However, many families who choose cremation are still choosing to have a complete funeral service, including a viewing. Another affordable option is through whole body donation, which is also a generous gift. Whole body donation goes toward aiding medical research as well as a teaching tool for medical students and surgeons. In most cases, donating your body to science can be at no cost or low cost. Most of the whole-body donation agencies cover the entire cost, including transportation of the body; permits and death certificates; embalming; cremation and return of the cremated remains.

For more information on planning for a funeral or to request a copy of our free funeral planning guide, please contact Joe Reardon at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

10 Special Things to do for Mom on Mother’s Day

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 04:00:00 GMT

10 Special Things to do for Mom on Mother’s Day

It has been a difficult year, especially for moms – whether it has been doing their work from home, helping with remote learning for their kids, or not being able to hug their grandkids during the coronavirus pandemic. Show your mom, wife, or grandma how much you appreciate everything she’s done to make a tough year a little bit brighter. Here are ten ideas beyond the classic flowers to help celebrate your mom this year.

Photo gifts: Shutterfly offers gifts from the heart that utilize family photos. The Tilted Heart Collage Art Print prints 19 photos in the shape of a heart and comes framed. The To The Moon Collage Fleece Photo Blanket prints 18 photos in the shape of a crescent moon on a cozy fleece blanket. Mom will love wrapping herself in special family memories.

3D Selfie: Have a 3D mini sculpture made of yourself or your kids so mom can always have you nearby. With the help of your photos, the figurines are printed in three dimensions by a special 3D printer, often in full color. There are several artisans on Etsy who offer Custom 3d Figurines & Statues , busts or even custom Bobbleheads made from your photos.

Make a slideshow : Mother’s Day is a great time to reminisce about the good times together, special family vacations, or how quickly the kids and grandkids grow up. Send your mom a slideshow of some of your favorite family photos or videos. There are free online services including, Adobe Spark which helps you make custom slide shows with music and graphics in minutes!

Socially distanced celebration: If you can’t gather in person, make it a virtual celebration and gather the whole family by video conference. To spice things up, hold a virtual bake-off. Agree on a recipe ahead of time and be sure to have all the ingredients on hand. Cook or bake simultaneously and see whose dish comes out best. If the weather is nice, you can meet outdoors and see each other from a safe distance. A garden, a park, a picnic, or a hike can do wonders to lift the spirit and promote family bonding.

Holiday meal delivery: Even if you can’t gather in a restaurant, there are so many options for food delivery these days – from Mother’s Day brunch from Harry and David , to Goldbelly gourmet dinner and desserts to Sendameal prepared Mother’s Day meals, you can send your mom her favorite meal!

Send her preferred beverage: Raise a glass to mom and get her favorite alcoholic drink delivered directly to her. Top Shelf ships a wide variety of spirits and wine straight to her front door. Drizly partners with retailers in the area, so you can support local businesses and the order can be delivered within sixty minutes. Or you could sign mom up for a wine or spirit subscription. Some monthly wine subscriptions include Winc, Bright Cellars and Wine Insiders.

Clear her Honey-do list: Whatever your mom needs done around the house, whether it’s fixing the leaky kitchen sink or painting the bathroom, she will appreciate getting that chore completed. For younger kids, they can help plant flowers in the garden or wash mom’s car with the garden hose. If you need to keep a safe distance, choose an outdoor task or wear a mask indoors to be safe.

Clean her house: Keeping the house clean is the never-ending chore. If you can’t take on the task yourself, you can give her a gift card to a cleaning service, and she can schedule it on her own time. Younger kids can pitch in and clean up their own rooms!

Pamper Her: Whether it’s a day at the spa or a weekend getaway, let mom get pampered with special treatment and schedule a massage, a facial, or a manicure and pedicure for her. Kids can come up with a pamper-mommy-calendar. Write down a few things on a calendar that make mom happy, such as giving her a hug, painting her nails, drawing her a picture, or doing the dishes. It’s a fun way to plan to pamper mommy!

Regardless of the gift you choose to give your mom, the most important thing to do on Mother’s Day is to tell your mom how much you love her and appreciate all she’s done, especially in these taxing times.

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Featured FAQ: What Should be in a Funeral Planning Checklist?

Mon, 01 Mar 2021 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What Should be in a Funeral Planning Checklist?

Pre-planning a funeral is a safe way to protect your family from the emotional and financial burden of having to make funeral arrangements after your death and ensures that you receive the kind of funeral you wish to have. While it might seem overwhelming or challenging to think about all the details, there are five essential areas everyone should consider when planning a funeral in advance.

Funeral Planning Checklist

Disposition : The choice of disposition method is a deeply personal decision, and more options are available than you may realize. You can be buried, cremated or donate your body to science. But within each of those choices there are many options. For instance, those who choose cremation may also include embalming with a traditional viewing prior to cremation as part of their funeral plans.

Funeral Service : Let your family know what you would like for your funeral service. Decide if you would like the body to be present at the service or not. And if you want the body to be present, let them know if you would prefer the casket to be open or closed. Think about where you would like the service to be held and who would you like to officiate the service.

Internment : For burial, you’ll need to purchase a burial plot or space in a mausoleum at a cemetery. For cremation, you can decide what you want done with the remains following cremation. There are many options, including burial, scattering, or dividing the remains between friends and family members.

Products : If you decide to be buried, you can choose the type of casket and burial vault ahead of time. If you decide to be cremated, a cremation casket, urn or other memorial vessel is needed.

Finances : While it is not necessary to pre-pay when pre-planning a funeral, there are several advantages. Setting aside financial resources can relieve family members of the burden of paying for funeral expenses and protect assets for Medicaid eligibility. At Keohane, advance planning can save money through our cost protection program and through the irrevocability option protecting the funds from the high costs of long-term healthcare.

“Whenever I meet with a family considering advance planning, I always lay out all of the options and benefits of pre-payment. Since Massachusetts has very strict regulations about paying for funerals in advance, any funds used for advance planning must be deposited in trust with a third party which provides a huge level of comfort for families knowing that if they moved or if the funeral home went out of business, they could transfer their money to another funeral home,” said Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning.

Our hope is to be able to provide as much information as people need to make the best decisions for their families. Discussing funeral arrangements may be difficult, but we believe that those who do are helping themselves and their families.

For more information on pre-planning a funeral or to request a copy of our free funeral planning guide, please contact Joe Reardon at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

How A Funeral Celebrant Helps Create a Meaningful Tribute for A Loved One

Mon, 15 Feb 2021 05:00:00 GMT

How A Funeral Celebrant Helps Create a Meaningful Tribute for A Loved One

Funeral Celebrants, also called Life Celebrants, are specially trained professionals who provide meaningful and personalized funerals that celebrate the life of an individual regardless of religious affiliation. At Keohane Funeral Home, we offer Celebrant services to serve our families in the way that is most meaningful to them.

There is no denying that everyone grieves differently; there is simply no one way to grieve. Funeral Celebrants have the freedom and honor to support the bereaved by advising, co-creating, coordinating, providing resources, facilitating, and leading services that respect the uniqueness and healing needs of different families and friends.

The Celebrant designs and conducts personalized funeral services that celebrate the life of the loved one through a unique tribute. Many personalized elements can be included, such as personal stories; favorite music; video tributes; photos or memory boards; poems and readings; as well as prayers and rituals.

You Have Choices

When choosing an officiant for a loved one’s funeral, many families are not aware that they have choices available. At Keohane Funeral Home, we not only offer Celebrant services, we have certified Funeral Celebrants on our staff to serve our families in the way that is most meaningful for them. A Life Celebration service offers an alternative to a service officiated by clergy, especially for those families who are not affiliated with a church, do not wish to have a traditional religious service, or do not want to hold services in a church setting.

While Celebrants often fulfill the role of clergy in a funeral service, they are not affiliated with any particular religion and can include as much or as little religious content or ritual as the family wishes – the choice is in the hands of the family. Celebrants work with family members to create a service intended to be a uniquely personalized, deep and loving remembrance of their loved one. This tribute exemplifies the spirit, uniqueness and significance of the life of the loved one. Above all, a Life Celebration service reflects the wishes of the deceased and the family. The Life Celebrant’s task is to create a ceremony that reflects the wishes, beliefs, values and culture – whether religious or non-religious – of both the loved one and the entire family.

Life Stories

A Celebrant is a trained and certified facilitator who is able to take the time to sit down and listen to the needs of loved ones in order to fully honor the individual who has passed. During the meeting with family and friends, which can be through teleconferencing for safety during the pandemic, the Celebrant collects stories and memories to be able to express the life story of the individual who has departed. After meeting with family and friends, the Celebrant helps express the life story of the individual who has departed through a unique service that celebrates life.

“Recently, after meeting with the family of a 90-year-old woman, listening to stories filled with love and laughter, one word kept repeating in my thoughts: joy. That one word became the theme and the tone for her graveside service, bringing much comfort to her family. This dear woman had told her family for years that she wanted them to play ‘Jeremiah Was a Bullfrog’ at her funeral service… why? Because the refrain is this: Joy to the World, All the Boys and Girls, Joy to the Fishes in the Deep Blue Sea, Joy to you and Me. It was a song that she had loved dancing to at her daughter’s wedding and she wanted the joy she felt then and throughout her life to be remembered in her death. And so, they joined hands and bounced to the music as they laid their mother to rest,” said Mary Gallagher, Certified Funeral Celebrant.

Funeral Celebrants can lead these personalized services in a variety of locations: the funeral home, the graveside, or a hall, depending on a variety of factors surrounding family desires. It’s also certainly possible to hold a Funeral Celebrant service in addition to a traditional religious service or to combine some aspects of a faith tradition within the Funeral Celebrant service, including the presence of clergy alongside the Funeral Celebrant.

“What I have discovered in eight years of work as a Funeral Celebrant is the beauty and depth of life and love of all kinds planted in all sorts of situations. I have been enriched each and every time I sit with a family to hear the stories of a cherished one and witness how much joy memories shared can bring to people even as they carry deep sorrow. I walk away from the family meetings in awe of how much healing happens there and how much I learn from each person’s life and legacy,” said Mary.

To learn more about Life Celebrant services or to make an appointment with one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Supporting Mental Wellbeing through Virtual Counseling

Mon, 01 Feb 2021 05:00:00 GMT

Supporting Mental Wellbeing through Virtual Counseling

The past year has been a stressful time, leading to an increase in anxiety, depression and isolation. While social distancing has meant that mental health resources are harder to achieve in person, telehealth and online therapy have become even easier to access.

Virtual counseling has become more widely available than ever before as telehealth therapy platforms have expanded, support groups have become available online, and insurance restrictions have been lifted during the pandemic. Supporting mental wellbeing might be risky through in-person visits for the foreseeable future but can now be achieved remotely through smart devices and computers. Even after the pandemic has subsided, many people will choose to continue with virtual counseling which offers the convenience of connecting to a therapist from the comfort of your own home or office. It is also a boon to rural areas that might have limited access to in-person resources – as long as those areas have reliable internet coverage.

People who have been considering therapy but had resistance to meeting with someone in person or had trouble finding a local therapist have more options than ever. They don’t have to travel from office to office or be limited to clinicians licensed to practice in their home state. Therapy is more affordable, too. Some co-pays have been eliminated or lowered and mental health apps offer affordable options as well.

In light of social distancing, many therapists who hadn’t provided telehealth services before the pandemic are offering the option now. Many therapists are using platforms like Zoom, Doxy, or thera-LINK, which have the advantage of being HIPAA-compliant, so you can be sure your medical data and private information is secure.

Support groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), have also moved online. The OIAA Directory features over 1,000 online AA meetings worldwide.

Virtual Counseling Coverage

For Medicare patients, new legislation has waived the long-standing restrictions on the use of telehealth services, at least for the duration of the current Covid-19 public health emergency. And Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) restrictions on the use of phones for telehealth visits have been lifted, which means patients can have virtual appointments with apps like FaceTime and Skype.

For those with private health insurance, a number of providers such as Aetna and Blue Cross Blue Shield have waived copays for telehealth visits, including those not related to Covid-19 symptoms. Some states have directed all insurers to cover telehealth services. Massachusetts passed a telehealth bill that requires payers to cover all such services delivered via telehealth that are also offered in-person, and to reimburse providers at the same rate for the next two years. Massachusetts Governor Charlie Baker wants a long-term plan to make telehealth a standard of care and pay providers for its use. The two-year provision provides time for the state and payers to negotiate a long-term agreement on telehealth coverage.

If You Don’t Have Insurance

Even without health insurance, there are resources available at little or no cost. Federally Qualified Health Centers (FQHC) are community-based centers that offer care including mental health and substance use services. The FQHC website has a health center locator tool which is searchable by address, state, or county. Contact your local center to find out about virtual counseling services.

The national crisis text line provides free crisis counseling by texting CRISIS to 741741. Help is available 24/7 and the crisis line is staffed by volunteer social workers and clinicians who reply within minutes. They can also be reached through Facebook Messenger .

Mental health support can also be found through “fast therapy” apps like TalkSpace , which provide affordable out-of-pocket subscriptions. The apps connect users to a licensed therapist through video chat and texting. Onlinetherapists.com provides a ranked list of the best virtual counseling sites.

Finding a Therapist Online

More people than ever are feeling the need to speak to a mental health professional in order to deal with the increased anxiety, uncertainty, isolation and grief brought on by the coronavirus pandemic or other life issues. But how do you find the right mental health care provider for you?

For those with health care insurance, the insurer’s website is one of the best ways to find covered telehealth therapy providers. Otherwise, some of the most popular websites to search for mental health professionals include Teladoc , Amwell , MDLive , and Doctor on Demand . The thera-LINK Directory showcases providers who use thera-LINK for online services. Psychology Today has a “Find a Therapist” directory which includes teletherapy.

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Are you a family caregiver? Here’s where you can find help and support.

Sun, 15 Nov 2020 05:00:00 GMT

Are you a family caregiver? Here’s where you can find help and support.

With longer life expectancies and advancements in medical treatment, an increasing number of adults are becoming caregivers for an aging parent, a spouse with chronic illness, or a child with special needs. Being a caregiver is an important role, but it can be challenging. With the right support, you can provide care for a family member or loved one in a way that is rewarding and fulfilling for both of you.

Resources for Family Caregivers

There are many organizations and resources available to help caregivers find the training, support and help that they need to stay centered and healthy while providing compassionate care:

AARP provides “Resources Caregivers Should Know” including where to find services and support for family caregiving. They offer links for Information, services and support; Alzheimer’s and dementia; Cancer; Hospice and palliative care; In-home care; Legal and financial help; Long-term care; Military caregivers; and Respite care.

They also developed a free downloadable guide called Prepare to Care: A Resource Guide for Families to help make the job more manageable. It includes information on how to have vital conversations with older family members, organize important documents, assess your loved one’s needs and locate important resources. To request a free hardcopy of the guide, call 1-877-333-5885, select option 1 and request the Prepare to Care: A Planning Guide for Families, item number D20152. Additional AARP Care Guides provide help for first time caregivers and long-distance caregivers, caring for a loved one with dementia or cancer and providing care at home. For additional information on caregiving, the AARP online community has many helpful tips and articles.

In Massachusetts, Mass.gov offers the Family Caregiver Support Program , a free program to help you care for a member of your family wherever your loved one lives. A Caregiver Specialist will create a plan and give you tips and support. The government website also provides caregiver help and information on topics such as, technology for caregivers, caring for someone with dementia, hiring in-home help, you are not alone in caregiving, and more.

MIT offers The Family Caregiver Handbook , including a section on Caregiver Support . It provides information on finding resources and training for caregivers; respite services; support groups and self-care; flexible work arrangements and leave options; support from faith-based organizations; support based on specific illness or conditions; as well as Massachusetts and national organizations with caregiver support.

Comfort Keepers , a provider of quality in-home senior care in locations across the country, provides a research study on the effects of caregiving, and they’ve developed a practical guide for facing family caregiver challenges. The guide can be download for free and provides information about compassion fatigue, preparing for care, taking care of yourself as a caregiver, ways to pay for care, and how to prepare for extended time away from your loved one.

The research study, conducted by the Stanford Center on Longevity and the Stanford University Psychology Department, shows that family caregivers need to take care of themselves in order to provide proper care for aging seniors and other loved ones.

HelpGuide , a nonprofit provider of quality health information, offers helpful information on Family Caregiving , including tips, resources, community services and more.

The Family Caregiver Alliance offers online caregiver support groups to provide a safe place to discuss the stresses, challenges, and rewards of providing care for a loved one.

Whatever your level of experience as a caregiver, it’s important to ask for help from family, friends, and faith-based groups, take care of your own wellbeing, educate yourself about your loved one’s condition, and find proper training. We hope these tips and resources will be helpful on your caregiving journey.

The Rough Patch by Brian Lies Helps Children Understand Death and Grief

Sun, 01 Nov 2020 04:00:00 GMT

The Rough Patch by Brian Lies Helps Children Understand Death and Grief

Join us in conversation with author-illustrator Brian Lies about his Caldecott Honor Award winning picture book, The Rough Patch , a beautiful and powerful story of grief following the loss of a beloved pet. Brian’s book gently teaches children about loss and love and takes readers on a journey of grief through the rough patches and into healing and hope.

Brian spends part of the school year traveling throughout the United States to work with students and encourage them in their goals. He lives with his family in Duxbury, Massachusetts. Brian recently took the time to answer some questions about The Rough Patch :

What was your inspiration for this book ?

The book actually grew out of my own experience with gardening. I was weeding my vegetable garden—again—when I wondered if I was doing it all wrong. I was pulling weeds, but that was all the garden seemed to want to give me. What if I tried to trick it—TEND to the weeds, rather than pulling them? Would the garden, confused, decide to give me what it now thought I DIDN’T want—the carrots, peas and beans I’d actually planted?

I started imagining a character who was angrily, stubbornly taking care of a garden full of noxious plants, and it suddenly turned out that he was reacting in grief to a terrible loss.

How can this book be used to help children understand death and grief?

I think many adults are afraid of having conversations about hard subjects with their kids. “They don’t know anything about death yet, why should I upset them?” “I’m tired, it’s a lot of work, and I’m not a psychologist.” “They’re not old enough.” But then they suffer a loss, whether it’s the actual death of a family member or a pet, or the symbolic death that comes from the end of a friendship, moving to a different house, or losing a prized possession—and they’re not equipped to handle the feelings. But a book can be a safe way for a child—or an adult!—to approach some of these difficult feelings. If it gets too intense, they can put the book down, and come back to it when they’re ready. And books, like other art forms, connect with our emotions and can release blockages that we don’t even know exist. Anyone who has cried while looking at a painting, hearing a piece of music or watching a film knows this.

How have children responded to this book when you do a school visit or book reading?

At the beginning, I was hesitant to read The Rough Patch to groups in schools I was going to visit. But a media specialist told me, “Why don’t you let them choose?” And that’s been my modus operandi in schools since. If I give a group the choice between “a book that has a very sad part in the middle but ends with hope” and however I describe another option they almost universally select the “difficult book.” They WANT to deal with difficult things, because though safety is important, they KNOW that life is going to throw some very hard things at them. And it’s scarier to have difficult subjects be taboo—”if Mom and Dad won’t talk about it, it must be REALLY bad!” I’ve been shocked and inspired by how young people have reacted to this book. Ask them what the pumpkin vine that sneaks in under his fence has given to Evan, and more than half the time, the first answer isn’t “…a pumpkin.” It’s just as likely to be “hope.” “Good feelings about the memory of his dog.” Or “Love.” Young people have much greater emotional intelligence than many of us give them credit for.

What do you hope readers will take away from this book?

I hope that readers will feel some form of catharsis, an emotional reaction based on some loss that they’ve experienced—but leave the last page feeling hopeful. We are almost never handed something that we can’t manage.

What was your approach to illustrating this story?

When I first wrote The Rough Patch , it appeared in a sketchbook as a rush of words and thumbnail sketches (tiny, loose drawings). Many of those original sketches actually appeared in the book, though reworked many times. But at first, I imagined them all as pictures that filled every inch of the pages. It felt much heavier than the final book does. Some years later, I had a wonderful afternoon in which I reimagined all of the artwork with lots of white space, and it felt so much airier and more open. In two or three hours, I’d sketched out the whole book, roughly as it appears now. That was when I knew that I really had to pursue this project. It seemed quick—but was actually the result of years of subconscious reworking.

Is there anything else you want us to know about this book?

First of all, for me this is not a book about “pet loss.” The loss of Evan’s dog is representative of all of the different kinds of loss that we suffer in life, and the dog is merely the “meditative object” that lets us feel and explore the emotions of loss.

Second, I’ve been delighted to learn that it’s “not just a children’s book,” which I’d felt from the beginning. An acquaintance from high school is now a hospice nurse, and she told me of visiting an elderly woman, with two twenty-something relatives who were sitting in the kitchen, and either didn’t want to or couldn’t talk with her about their relative’s situation. She told me she left The Rough Patch on the kitchen table as she went in to consult with the hospice patient, and when she came out, the two young men had read the book and now were ready to talk—they were full of questions for her. What could be more fulfilling for an author to know that one’s work has helped people break through some of their most difficult barriers?

What does it mean to you to be awarded a Caldecott Honor for this book?

Being awarded a Caldecott Honor was a staggering surprise (you can read elsewhere about how I didn’t learn about it until it was announced publicly, rather than getting an early-morning phone call). And it was—and still is—incredibly validating. This story wasn’t an easy one to create, or to get published. But it was one that simply wouldn’t let me go, and that makes the award that much more meaningful.

Did you have a beloved pet as a child and/or adult?

My older sister was allergic to fur, so we never had cats or dogs as pets—we had odd things like newts, gerbils and rabbits. Not as cuddly! But as adults, my wife and I have been lucky enough to have the best cats in the world as companions. And yes, we’ve suffered the heartbreak that comes from sharing your space with a creature who has a shorter natural life span than we do. It’s terrible.

Do you have any new books coming out?

Yes— in 2021, I’ve got two picture books featuring a little bat wearing yellow floaties who appeared as a kind of “Easter egg” in my four previous bat books ( Bats at the Beach, Bats at the Library , etc.). The first is LITTLE BAT in NIGHT SCHOOL and the second is LITTLE BAT is UP ALL DAY (a flip on most kids’ desire to try to stay up all night). I’ve also just signed on to illustrate a book by a writer whom I love, but that hasn’t been announced yet, so I can’t say anything more!

For more information, visit Brian’s website at www.brianlies.com . You can follow him @BrianLiesbooks on Twitter or at BrianLies on Instagram. His books can be purchased at any independent bookseller, as well as online merchants such as Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

Meaningful Ways to Honor the Service Men and Women in Your Life

Thu, 15 Oct 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Meaningful Ways to Honor the Service Men and Women in Your Life

With Veteran’s Day coming up, you may want to honor someone in your life who is actively serving; someone you know who has served in the past; or any of the brave men and women servicemembers of our armed forces. With many parades and other public celebrations curtailed due to the coronavirus pandemic, you may be wondering what’s the best way to honor those brave service men and women this year.

Here are some meaningful ways you can honor a soldier, past or present, for Veterans’ Day – or any day of the year!

There are many ways of showing appreciation to members of our military, past and present, even with social distancing and pandemic precautions. The brave men and women who have served in the U.S. military deserve our recognition, respect, and gratitude more than ever.

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Plant.Grow.Share.: The Importance of Food Pantries All Year Long

Tue, 15 Sep 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share.: The Importance of Food Pantries All Year Long

Hunger is a community issue all year long and that’s why food pantries are so important any time of the year. The focus of the Plant.Grow.Share. program season has remained on helping those in need to have access to fresh produce. While there’s still time to make donations from your own garden, you can donate farmer’s market produce, store-bought produce, or make monetary donations to your local food pantry throughout the year.

The Plant.Grow.Share. program is a collaborative effort between Keohane Funeral Home , Interfaith Social Services , the Weymouth Food Pantry and the Milton Community Food Pantry to encourage backyard growers to donate produce to local food pantry clients.

“Our alleyway garden was fantastic this season and the Girl Scouts who planted and maintained it continue to harvest tomatoes, greens, herbs and peppers. We received many, many garden donations from individuals, as well as the Quincy Police Department, area church gardens and community gardens,” said Jennifer Sammons, Interfaith Social Services Communications Manager. “With the ongoing pandemic, the number of people in need in the community continues to rise and rise. We want to be able to give them fresh, healthy foods and the Plant.Grow.Share. program really helps meet that need.”

Food Pantries Help All Year Long

Food insecurity continues to grow as the pandemic persists and local food pantries become a lifeline for those in need. The need for food, both fresh and shelf-stable, will only continue to increase into the fall and winter as more and more families are affected.

“We are seeing record numbers of people requesting food from us. We anticipate the need will continue through the winter. We’re ordering thousands of pounds of food weekly from the food bank, in addition to our food rescue efforts. We’ve been supplementing by purchasing additional fresh produce to ensure that our clients are getting a healthy mix of shelf-stable foods and fresh produce, meat and dairy,” said Sammons.

Our local food pantries are hungry for healthy produce. As we continue into the harvest season, you can find fresh produce at your local farmer’s markets. Bring some home for yourself and then bring some over to your local food pantry!

Once the cold weather sets in, consider picking up some extra produce at your local supermarket to donate to those in need.

How You Can Help

For those who would like to help, the food pantries are happy to receive donations of both home-grown produce and fresh store-bought produce.

“As we come into the season of giving, we will see an increase in the number of food drives. We hope that people will remember that hunger is a year-round issue and will perpetuate their generosity throughout the year. Food and monetary donations are always welcome. Interfaith has incredible spending power – with a $5 donation we can purchase 25 meals,” said Sammons.

Donations of fresh produce from your garden or supermarket for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at 105 Adams Street in Quincy from 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., Monday to Friday, and until 7 p.m. on Tuesdays.

Donations of fresh produce for the Weymouth Food Pantry are accepted at all three Pop Up Pantry locations or at their warehouse:

Tuesdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at The First Church at 17 Church Street, Weymouth
Thursdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at Crossroads Worship Center at 241 Broad Street, Weymouth
Saturdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at Old South Union Church at 25 Columbian Street, S. Weymouth
Tuesday to Friday, 10:00 AM to 1:00 PM at 40B Reservoir Park Drive, Rockland

Monetary donations can be made by visiting the following websites:
Interfaith Social Services http://interfaithsocialservices.org/donate/
Weymouth Food Pantry https://www.weymouthfoodpantry.org/donation-page
Milton Community Food Pantry http://miltonfoodpantry.org/donations/

For questions or to volunteer for the Plant.Grow.Share. program, please contact:
Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane Funeral Homes, (617) 773-3551
Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services, (617) 773-6203
Pam Denholm, Executive Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry, (781) 331-7682
Pat Brawley-Morise, Director of the Milton Community Food Pantry, (617) 696-0221

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Inspirational Quotes for Coping with Grief

Sat, 01 Aug 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Inspirational Quotes for Coping with Grief

Coping with grief is never easy; it can be difficult to find the right words. The quotes on this blog post are some of the most inspirational quotes for coping with grief, and they will help you get through your time of mourning.

Grief and loss are as much a part of living as joy and hope, but sometimes it can be difficult to navigate through our feelings during such a difficult journey. It’s important to know that you aren’t alone in the experience of grief and loss, so here is a collection of inspirational quotes for coping with grief!

Our lives tend to revolve around those we love. When they pass away, it’s natural for us not only to grieve their death but also lose a purpose or meaning in our lives. The impact they made on us often makes it hard for us to heal from the deep emotional wounds caused by their absence from our life now and forevermore. Providing inspirational quotes for grief, our team takes pride in our professional integrity. Aso, we offer funeral home and cremation services in Weymouth, Quincy , and Hingham, MA . Contact us today!

Coping with grief doesn’t mean you are giving up on your loved one or letting go of their memory, but rather accepting the fact that they will no longer be with us in this world.

The inspirational quotes below provide comfort in knowing you aren’t alone in coping with grief and loss and can make it easier to find hope during times of struggle. May these inspirational quotes help guide you through your journey towards healing.

Inspirational Funeral Quotes

Loss and grief are as much a part of our lives as joy and hope. When we lose someone we love, it’s often challenging to navigate our feelings during such a difficult journey. It’s important to know that you aren’t alone in the experience of loss and grief. Whatever stage of the grieving process you’re in, all come before you and offered their own words of wisdom to help you feel less alone, understand the process, and provide comfort.

What are Inspirational quotes for funerals?

Inspirational quotes serve many purposes. It can give us words when our own words fail us; it gives us a sense of community by understanding that we are not alone in our experiences and feelings, and it helps put our thoughts and feelings into perspective by understanding the human condition. We hope these inspirational quotes – by famous literary figures and unknown authors – help you or a loved one along the path of grieving.

Inspirational Quotes for Coping with Grief:

“Even though I walk through the valley of death, I fear no evil because You are with me; Your rod and Your staff comfort me.” – Psalm 23

“I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.” – Sarah Williams

“My dearest friend, my dearest foe. I love you more than words can show. My grief loves your memories because it makes them mine.” – Charlie Drake

“No one who has lost a loved one ever forgets that pain or can imagine that they can ‘let go’ entirely. But with time (and good support), we learn to live in new ways with our loss.” – Joyce Marter, LCPC

“On our last day together on earth, I will tell you this: You are beautiful; don’t be afraid; hold out your hand; I will help you; don’t be afraid.” – Jonathan Safran Foer

“We can’t stop the waves but we can learn to surf.” – Mark Twain

“I realized one day that I was two, and it was time for me to go home. What made me realize this is what makes most people realize they need to go home. Life had died, or at least their life had died, which sometimes happens too.” – Kenneth Millar (a.k.a. Ross Macdonald)

“You are not obligated to be happy…you are obligated to live your life with integrity.”- Joseph Campbell

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”- The Dalai Lama

“Stay close to people who feel like sunshine. Forget about those who only show you their shadow.” – C. JoyBell C.

“When someone we love dies a part of us goes with them, apart we’ll never get back again no matter how much we want to. We have lost some of our innocence and some of the trust in goodness that was ours.” – Richard M Nixon

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.” – Isaac Asimov

“The best way to get over a man is to turn him into literature.” – Brenda Woolf

Literary Quotes

From our great literary traditions, we find many inspirational ideas about love, loss, and grieving. Here are some words of wisdom from literary figures and prominent works of literature:

“Tears water our growth.” – William Shakespeare

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it breaks.” – William Shakespeare, Macbeth

“Grief is a most peculiar thing; we’re so helpless in the face of it. It’s like a window that will simply open of its own accord. The room grows cold, and we can do nothing but shiver. But it opens a little less each time, and a little less; and one day we wonder what has become of it.” – Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

“We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world—the company of those who have known to suffer.” – Helen Keller, We Bereaved

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.” – Leo Tolstoy

“The darker the night, the brighter the stars, – The deeper the grief, the closer is God!” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Crime and Punishment

“In the garden of memory, in the palace of dreams…that is where you and I shall meet.” – Alice Through the Looking Glass

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” – Winnie the Pooh

Biblical and Religious Quotes

We often turn to our religious traditions when faced with loss and grief. Here are some inspirational quotes from the Bible.

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” – Psalms 23:4

“Weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning.” – Psalms 30:5

“God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalms 34:18

“Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4

“For no one is cast off by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.” – Lamentations 3:31-33

Anonymous Quotes

From cultural traditions around the world to unknown sources, here are some quotes to inspire and heal:

“What soap is for the body; tears are for the soul.” – Jewish proverb

“Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” – Eskimo legend

“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” – Author unknown

“Why does it take a minute to say hello and forever to say goodbye?” – Author unknown

“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day…unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed, and very dear.” – Unknown

“There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains.”
– Unknown

More Quotes

Here are some additional quotes to provide comfort.

“Grief is the price we pay for love.” – Queen Elizabeth II

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.” – Helen Keller

“Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever.” – Rabbi Harold Kushner

For even more inspirational quotes, visit MyGriefAssist.com .

Keohane Funeral Home in Phase III of the Governor’s Plan during COVID-19

Wed, 15 Jul 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Keohane Funeral Home in Phase III of the Governor’s Plan during COVID-19

The entire Keohane Funeral Home team has worked persistently to both care for families and protect the public health in the face of the challenges posed by the COVID-19 pandemic. As we have implemented the guidelines of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and created our own adaptations and initiatives, we remain steadfast in our commitment to providing safe and meaningful rituals for the families we serve.

Technology Brings Families Together

Technology has become the foundation upon which we have been able to build our strategy for caring for families during the pandemic. By livestreaming ceremonies, offering videoconferencing and electronic document signing we have been able to offer families safe opportunities for them to navigate the entire process and invite others to join with them even though they could not be present in person.

Keohane is pleased to offer the following initiatives to help families fully participate while
aiding in the reduction of virus transmission and social isolation:

Keohane Funeral Home started the South Shore COVID-19 Neighbor Network as a way to connect people during the pandemic. “Our goal was to try to overcome the loneliness and isolation of the quarantine by creating a forum where people could share COVID-19 information, ways to stay busy while in quarantine and a vehicle through which people could ask for help if needed,” said Reardon.

Keeping You Safe

Since the early days of the pandemic, we have maintained strict standards and protocols for the cleanliness of our facilities and for safety practices such as the use of masks, hand sanitizer and social distancing markers. We will continue to do so as long as COVID-19 remains a threat to our community. Currently, the use of our facilities is limited to one ceremony at a time at no more than 40% of capacity with strict observance of proper social distancing measures. Our team remains diligent in the intense monitoring needed to ensure the safety of families and guests.

In response to the most recent public health directives given by local, state and federal governments, Keohane has instituted the following safeguards:

As we implement Phase III of the governor’s plan, our team remains committed to caring for those who have died and, just as importantly, those who survive them. If you need additional information or wish to leave condolence messages, visit www.keohane.com . For more urgent needs or questions, call 1-800-KEOHANE.

Plant.Grow.Share. Continues to Feed Those in Need during COVID-19

Wed, 01 Jul 2020 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share. Continues to Feed Those in Need during COVID-19

While many aspects of our daily lives have changed during the coronavirus pandemic, one thing has not changed and that is the need for fresh food, especially for our neighbors in need. Plant.Grow.Share. continues to donate seedlings, offer gardening advice and encourage donation of fresh produce to our local food pantries.

Plant.Grow.Share. Video Series

Because we aren’t able to come together in person for our free tomato container garden workshops, we are excited to share this helpful video by Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset. Jon shares his knowledge about planting and growing tomato plants. Jon is also a wonderful partner of the Plant.Grow.Share. program!

We will bring you follow up videos as the growing season progresses. You’ll be able to see how our plants are growing and get more tips on how to keep your plants healthy and happy.

Grow a Row to Share

The partners of Plant.Grow.Share. encourage you to PLANT a row of veggie seedlings at your home or business, GROW fresh food, and SHARE some of your harvest with our food local food pantries.

To make that possible, Keohane donated tomato plants to backyard gardeners and food pantry patrons on June 13. The tomato plants were available free of charge at Interfaith Social Services and the Weymouth Food Pantry Pop-up locations. Safe, social distancing measures were followed during distribution at the food pantries. Patrons who drove up in cars waited in their cars while a volunteer brought the plants to them. Volunteers also showed clients on foot where to pick up a plant.

“More than ever, coming together as a community is so important,” shares John Keohane, Co-President of Keohane Funeral Home. “Many families are struggling because of the pandemic and our hope is that the Plant.Grow.Share. program can help. Not only can gardening be stress-relieving but donating produce back to local food pantries brings people together to help feed those in need.”

How You Can Help

For those who would like to help, the food pantries are happy to receive donations of both home-grown produce and fresh store-bought produce.

Donations of fresh produce for the Weymouth Food Pantry are accepted at all three Pop Up Pantry locations or at their warehouse:

Tuesdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at The First Church at 17 Church Street, Weymouth

Thursdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at Crossroads Worship Center at 241 Broad Street, Weymouth

Saturdays, 10:00 to 11:00 AM at Old South Union Church at 25 Columbian Street, S. Weymouth

Tuesday to Friday, 10:00 AM to 1:00 PM at 40B Reservoir Park Drive, Rockland

For questions or to volunteer for the Plant.Grow.Share. program, please contact:

Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane Funeral Homes, (617) 773-3551

Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services, (617) 773-6203

Pam Denholm, Executive Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry, (781) 331-7682

Pat Brawley-Morise, Director of the Milton Community Food Pantry, (617) 696-0221

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5 Ways to Stay Connected with Family and Friends When Staying at Home

Wed, 01 Apr 2020 04:00:00 GMT

5 Ways to Stay Connected with Family and Friends When Staying at Home

Like most of the people around the country, you may be stuck inside due to social distancing measures during the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s difficult to cope when we can’t be with others, especially during holidays and special occasions, and it gets lonely when we haven’t seen our friends and family in many weeks. But there are creative ways to stay connected with family and friends, even if you can’t meet face to face.

In this digital age, there are plenty of options to stay connected while at home. From virtual happy hours to online viewing parties here are five ways to stay connected while staying home.

If you’re feeling isolated, lonely or just overwhelmed with cabin fever, try one of the suggestions above to connect to others and lift your spirits.

5 Tips for What to Do with a Loved One’s Belongings After the Funeral

Sat, 15 Feb 2020 05:00:00 GMT

How Can I Help My Child Express Feelings About Grief?

Sat, 01 Feb 2020 05:00:00 GMT

How Can I Help My Child Express Feelings About Grief?

After the death of a loved one or someone important, children may feel many different emotions and will need adult support to cope with the grief experience. Caring adults can make a big impact during these times in helping children make sense of what happened.

“One of the pitfalls we often run into as adults is that we try to protect kids, but sometimes in trying to protect them, we’re shielding them from information that will actually help them understand what’s happened,” said Maureen Patterson-Fede, Mental Health Clinician, The Good Grief Program at Boston Medical Center.

Talking honestly and directly to children about the death of a loved one lets them know that it’s acceptable to express their feelings, to ask questions about their experience, or to invoke the memory of their loved one. If you avoid speaking about death or talking about the person who has died, chances are the children in your life will avoid it as well.

Tips for Talking to Children About Grief

Adults should avoid using euphemistic language around death when speaking to children. Don’t use terms such as, “passed on” or “grandpa is in a better place.” Instead, use concrete, simple language. You can say, “Grandpa died. That means that grandpa’s body totally stopped working. He doesn’t feel pain. He can’t breathe, talk, or jump up and down.”

Remember, these conversations don’t have to happen at one time. Children may need multiple chances to process information, so check in regularly to see how they’re doing and note their understanding. Some children may not be ready for this kind of discussion. Let them know that you will be available for them when they are ready.

Model appropriate behavior by talking about your own feelings around the loss. It’s okay to cry or admit that it’s hard for you to talk about what happened. Let children know that just because you’re sad, does not mean that they cannot talk to you about their own feelings.

Helping Your Child Express Feelings About Grief

Grieving children may feel angry, sad, confused, guilty, or embarrassed—and all of these emotions are a normal part of the grieving process. One helpful tool in providing a safe space for children to express their emotions is the Moon Balloon Project , which utilizes the children’s book, A Journey in The Moon Balloon by author and illustrator Joan Drescher.

If you notice worries, fears, or misconceptions, try to correct the misconceptions and reassure the child that he or she is not at fault. If their worries or fears don’t go away or you notice extreme changes in behavior, seek out additional supports.

Find ways to remember their special person and encourage children to share their favorite memories. Children can use creative projects to express their emotions such writing letters, making a memory box, or drawing pictures. Younger children may express their feelings and fears through play, so pay attention to the child’s play activities.

It’s important to maintain consistent and regular routines. Keeping consistent routines helps children feel that their world is still under control and maintaining a regular schedule can help children adapt to the changes while still moving forward.

Most importantly, it’s okay if you don’t know all the answers. There are resources and support systems that can help you and your family during this difficult time. Grief support groups, mental health professionals, hospice organizations, and grief hot lines can provide the support and information you may need to consider how a loss is impacting your child and the best ways to support that child. Please use this link to the National Alliance for Grieving Children to find support in your area.

For more information, visit The Good Grief Program website or download their program brochure .

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Keeping Seniors Connected Combats the Harmful Effects of Senior Isolation

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Keeping Seniors Connected Combats the Harmful Effects of Senior Isolation

Senior isolation is a serious health risk for seniors in America, and its devastating effects can evolve into loneliness, depression, heart disease, diabetes and other serious health conditions. However, identifying signs of isolation and early intervention may be key to preventing both the isolation and associated health risks.

While loneliness can lead to isolation, senior isolation is more than just being alone. According to AARP Foundation Connect2Affect , “It’s the result of feeling detached physically or psychologically, or being disconnected from support groups of family, friends and community.” There are quantifiable measurements for objective isolation, such as the size and frequency of someone’s social network, availability of transportation, and the ability to access resources and information.

If you think you or someone you know is isolated, Connect2Affect provides a self-assessment to not only determine if someone is isolated, but also to provide resources and suggestions targeted for that individual. For more information on available resources, call your local senior center to find out what programs and services are available for you or a loved one to get connected. Many social welfare agencies will conduct well-being visits or care calls and your senior center may be able to connect you to those services.

Some of the most prevalent causes of senior isolation are death of a spouse or close friend, lack of transportation options, untreated hearing or vision loss, frail health and mobility issues, becoming a caregiver, and poverty or belonging to marginalized groups, among other issues.

Some common preventions can include, affordable and accessible transportation options, support groups, senior centers, continuing education, volunteer opportunities, and home-sharing.

How To Identify Signs Of Isolation

There’s no one cause of isolation in older adults, so it may be difficult to recognize the signs. Some signs of isolation can be seen as the normal processes of aging, such as changing physical and mental health, hearing or vision loss, difficulty walking, living alone, and challenging life-style changes such as the loss of loved ones or retirement.

Although there is no one cause of isolation, there are signals to watch for. According to Connect2Affect statements like, “I don’t talk to many people” or “It’s too hard to get anywhere, so I’d rather stay home” are possible signs of loneliness and isolation. Also, an isolated older adult may appear bored, disinterested or withdrawn. Their personal hygiene may drop, or you may notice changes in appetite or poor eating habits. There may even be clear home disrepair, clutter or hoarding.

Family members and neighbors are often the first to notice signs of isolation, but not all seniors have loved ones who live nearby to check on their well-being. Therefore, many seniors must rely on public health professionals to be on the lookout for signs of social isolation problems in clients and patients so that appropriate interventions and referrals can be made.

How to Help Seniors Avoid Isolation

Considering the health risks and the increasing commonness of this issue, it’s helpful to find out how to promote social networking among our senior loved ones, or even ourselves. Here are some ways to combat senior isolation:

More than 8 million adults age fifty and older are affected by isolation. If you or someone you love is feeling the effects of isolation, use some of these resources – both online and in-person – to break the cycle and prevent prolonged isolation that can reduce longevity and decrease personal well-being.

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What Do I Need to Know in Choosing the Final Resting Place for My Loved One?

Sun, 01 Sep 2019 04:00:00 GMT

What Do I Need to Know in Choosing the Final Resting Place for My Loved One?

Selecting a final resting place for a loved one is an important decision. You want to choose a peaceful location with some connection or significance to your loved one’s life. There are many factors to consider, such as religious customs, personal preferences, and family traditions as well as whether the person wishes to be traditionally buried or cremated.

Your funeral director can help you make any of these important decisions and give you guidance about what is available in your area, visit local cemeteries with you, and help make all the arrangements necessary for confirming the final resting place for your loved one.

Burial Options for a Casket or Cremation Urn

Whether your loved one prefers to be buried in a casket or cremated, burial options in a cemetery are available, and include both above-ground and in-ground possibilities. When choosing a cemetery, the most important considerations are location, type, rules and requirements, and cost.

For location, you want a setting that is beautiful and well-cared for. This is where your family and future generations will come to pay respect to your loved one’s memory, so you may take into consideration proximity to family and friends. It should be a place that you want to visit, where you can be comforted, and where you will feel a sense of connection with your loved one.

Types of cemeteries include public cemeteries, religious cemeteries, municipal cemeteries and veterans’ cemeteries. Public cemeteries are the most common, and they are for-profit cemeteries that are owned either independently or corporately. Religious cemeteries are non-profit cemeteries which are owned by a religious institution or organization. Municipal or district cemeteries are non-profit cemeteries owned by the city or county. Veterans cemeteries are government-run cemeteries for the burial of veterans and their families.

Cemetery costs are often in addition to any funeral home costs you may incur. These costs can include the burial plot, opening and closing of the grave, perpetual care, and a headstone or other marker. Cemetery costs can vary from location to location, so it’s best to inquire before making any final decision.

Every cemetery has their own set of rules and requirements. For instance, some cemeteries require a burial or urn vault which are concrete containers to protect the ground from collapsing. Some cemeteries have requirements about the types and sizes of headstones or grave markers or the types of decorations that can be placed on the graves. Be sure to ask about the rules and requirements at any cemetery that you are considering.

In-ground Burials

For in-ground burials, the type of plot is important. A single plot is intended for the burial of one person or one urn. A double plot may be two single plots side-by-side or one that is double in depth in which a second deceased person is buried on top of the first. A family plot has space that is large enough for several family members. And an urn plot is a smaller space designed for burial of a cremation urn.

Above-ground Burials

Some families prefer the option of having their remains entombed above ground level. There are several options for above-ground burial. A mausoleum is a building designed to house the casket, and there are several kinds.

A private mausoleum is a standalone building that is reserved just for you or your family, whereas a community mausoleum is a larger structure that houses the remains of those who purchase space inside. A lawn crypt is a structure that is built above ground with grass planted over the structure so that it blends into the environment. A columbarium is a building or wall structure that is designed as a series of niches to hold cremation urns.

Additional Burial Options

There are a few less traditional options for burial when choosing a final resting place.

Green burials are designed to create less impact on the environment by using eco-friendly materials and by excluding harsh chemicals for embalming, among other environmentally friendly practices. Green cemeteries are categorized by the degree to which they conserve natural resources and preserve the environment. You can learn more from the Green Burial Council .

While not as widely available as conventional burial, it is still possible to choose burial at sea for both full-body burial or cremation. For burial at sea on the Atlantic coast, visit New England Burial At Sea.

Some families choose to be buried at home or in a family cemetery. Your funeral director or local city hall can help you determine if your community permits home burial.

Further Choices for Cremation

In addition to traditional burial in a cemetery or columbarium, there are a number of other options for a final resting place following cremation. Some families choose more than one option as your loved one can be shared amongst family members or find multiple resting places after cremation.

For those that prefer scattering, some cemeteries offer scattering gardens which are landscaped areas where your loved one may be scattered to return to the earth. Or you may decide to choose a special location that was meaningful to your loved one and hold a scattering ceremony there. Other options include a memorial urn or place parts of your loved one in special cremation jewelry to be worn close to the heart. The options are only limited by your imagination. At Keohane, we will help you find the solution that works best for you and your family.

The final resting place you choose is a deeply personal decision. There is no right or wrong choice, only the one that is best for you and your loved one. If you have further questions or would like to talk to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Planning a Post Funeral Reception

Thu, 01 Aug 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Planning a Post Funeral Reception

A reception following a funeral is an opportunity for friends and family to support one another, share stories and memories of someone they cared about, connect with others who are grieving, and continue to celebrate the life of their loved one. If you are planning a post-funeral reception, here are some ideas that you can use to help with the process.

Don’t Do It Alone

One of the most important things to keep in mind when organizing a post-funeral reception is that you may also be grieving. Planning an event can be stressful even in the best of times, and when you’re also in mourning it can become overwhelming. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Your funeral director is an expert in the field and can guide you through the process. At Keohane Funeral Home, we are here to help. We can set up a reception at one of our funeral homes, or we can help you make plans for an event at a different location in the area.

Keep in mind that friends and family want to be there for you and would welcome the opportunity to pitch in. If someone offers to help or make food, take them up on it. Lean on your community, and they will be happy to have a way to support you in your time of need.

To keep stress to a minimum, consider pre-planning your own funeral reception. By pre-planning, you can ensure that people celebrate your life in the way that you want and avoid putting the burden on your loved ones.

Where to Hold the Post-Funeral Reception

The most common locations for a post-funeral reception are at the funeral home, at the home of a friend or family member, at a church banquet hall, or at a local restaurant. You might want to consider a park or other outdoor venue, depending on the time of year. When considering a venue, decide how many people might attend, the type of atmosphere that is important to you or to the deceased, as well as what costs might be involved.

Most often, the reception is held either immediately following the funeral service or within a few days, but that is not a fast and hard rule. If you decide to hold the reception at a later time and date, consider the travel schedules of friends and family who might have to travel from a distance to attend the funeral.

Make it Personal

With the trend toward funerals becoming more personalized, post-funeral receptions have become more personal as well. The event can help create a tribute to the personality of the deceased and honor the things that the deceased loved to do in life. There are creative ways to add meaning to the event as a loving way to honor the life of a loved one. You can put together a memory board of photos and memorabilia or create a video tribute that can be played at the event. If your loved one had a special hobby, career or interest, you can make centerpieces or create a display table with special items, such as fishing lures for the fishing enthusiast or medals and uniforms for a veteran. If your loved one liked to cook or enjoyed a special dish, include that on the menu for the event.

One of the purposes of the funeral reception is to give those attending a chance to share memories and reflect on the life of the deceased. You can help promote interaction by providing notecards for those who attend to write down their memories of the loved one. You can build a memory tree by creating small ornaments with messages for the loved one or you can simply ask if people would like to share a memory.

Remember, if you are planning a post-funeral reception it’s important to ask for help, find a venue that works best for you and your family, and make the reception more personal by including touches that bring your loved one to mind.

For any questions regarding post-funeral receptions, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Why Do I Need a Death Certificate and How Do I Get One?

Mon, 15 Jul 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Why Do I Need a Death Certificate and How Do I Get One?

When a loved one dies, the death must be registered with the state within a few days. The vital records office then issues copies of the death certificate – an official, government-issued document that states the vital information about the person who died. You will need the death certificate to handle the deceased person’s affairs and for your own personal records.

At Keohane Funeral Home, we take the worry out of filing all the necessary paperwork to request a death certificate. We gather personal information from family members and obtain the signature of a doctor, medical examiner, or coroner. The process must be completed quickly, usually within three to ten days, depending on state law.

Why is a death certificate necessary?

The death certificate is the legal proof of a death and there are several reasons why it is necessary. Death certificates are essential documentation needed to close out a person’s affairs, to claim benefits and insurance for relatives and spouses, to claim social security benefits, and to complete the legal requirement that the person’s death is registered. It may even be necessary to get married if a widow or widower must prove that his or her previous spouse has passed.

Public health officials also use death certificates to compile death indexes on cause of death, age of death, and other data. Public health policies depend heavily on the mortality data from death certificates as they provide information about the causes of death and illnesses preceding death. Other government officials may need the death certificate during investigations to determine if foul-play occurred.

It can take anywhere from one day to several weeks to get a death certificate after someone dies, depending on the state, organization, and cause of death. Many states require that you have a certified copy of the death certificate within 72 hours, unless an investigation is ongoing.

In order to complete a burial or cremation, most local authorities, cemeteries, and crematories require a death record signed by a local physician or coroner. This certification ensures that the disposition of remains is correct and that the person being buried or cremated is the one who died. In most cases, your coroner will issue a Certificate of Disposition of Remains at the same time as the Death Certificate. This is essential when forwarding remains to another country for burial. Many consulates will require an original copy of the death certificate.

In the case of cremation, state laws require a certificate from the medical examiner stating that he or she has viewed the body and that no further examination or judicial inquiry is necessary. Your funeral home or crematory will arrange for the medical examiner to view the body and provide certification for the cremation.

How Do I Order a Death Certificate?

Your funeral home will issue a certified death certificate at the time of death. It is a service that we are more than happy to provide for our families at Keohane to take some of the stress away at a difficult time in their lives.

But remember, in order to handle a person’s estate and close out their finances, you may need ten to twenty copies of the death certificate. If you find that you need additional copies, your funeral home will again be a helpful resource for you. If ordering additional copies through the funeral home is not convenient for you, you can also order them through the state or county in which the person died, or order copies online through a third-party company such as Vital Records Online .

If you order certified copies of the death certificate through the original funeral home or through the state where the person died, you will have to visit the funeral home or the local Health Records Office in person to begin the application. The online option can be done from the ease of your own home or office.

The cost of a death certificate depends on your state, but you can expect to pay $10 or $15 for the first copy. If you need additional copies, they may be less expensive if ordered at the same time as the original. If you’re serving as the executor of the deceased person’s estate and you pay for the death certificates yourself, you can reimburse yourself from the estate later on.

If you have additional questions about the death certificate or how to obtain one, please call us at 1-800-KEOHANE to speak to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors.

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Can I Still Be Cremated If I Want to Be an Organ Donor?

Wed, 15 May 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Can I Still Be Cremated If I Want to Be an Organ Donor?

Yes – in fact, organ or tissue donation will not affect ceremony or disposition options in any way. The donation process almost never impacts funeral plans. Funeral services for organ donors may be held either before or after cremation occurs and most even include open casket ceremonies. Like anyone choosing cremation, your options are only limited by your imagination. Our funeral directors are cremation experts who can guide you through all of the options and help you find the right solution for your family.

Organs that may be donated include, kidneys, heart, lungs, liver, pancreas, and intestines. However, these vital organs need blood flow to be viable for transplant, so donation is only possible when the donor dies in a hospital. While these organs are the ones that come to mind when we think of organ donation, there are less restrictions on many other donations such as corneas, skin, heart valves, bone, cartilage, veins, tendons and ligaments and they have many valuable uses. Donation of these tissues alone can make a huge difference in the life and health of someone else.

Becoming an organ donor is easy and is appropriate for people of any age. While the heart of an octogenarian may not be suitable for donation, we have cared for donors whose skin and other tissues have been used to help others. Our funeral directors encourage everyone to consider registering as a donor.

Many people register at Registry of Motor Vehicles when they renew their licenses and are listed in the donor registry. You do not need to have a confirmation letter or a sticker on your driver’s license for organ donation to occur. However, it is wise to tell your family, your Health Care Proxy , and your doctor that you’re a registered organ donor, so that they can support your wish to help others. You can also make your wishes known through an Advanced Directive , through pre-planning your funeral arrangements with your funeral director or directly through an organ procurement organization.

Our funeral directors are very experienced with caring for those who choose organ donation and work closely with New England Donor Services and its New England Organ Bank. The New England Organ Bank is the oldest independent organ procurement organization in the United States and treats every donor with great dignity and respect. For more information or to register as a donor, please visit www.neds.org

If you have questions and concerns about cremation or organ donation, the cremation experts at Keohane can help. Please call us at 1-800-KEOHANE to find out which of the many options available are right for your family.

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Are There Rules in Massachusetts Regarding Cremation?

Fri, 15 Mar 2019 04:00:00 GMT

Are There Rules in Massachusetts Regarding Cremation?

Cremation is an increasingly popular disposition option. As your trusted cremation provider in Hingham, MA , and South Shore’s cremation experts, our team is carefully trained to guide you through the process and adhere to all laws and regulations in Massachusetts so that you and your family can concentrate on creating the most meaningful ceremony for your unique situation.

Due to the finality of the decision, Massachusetts has state laws regarding the timing of cremation, the authorization for cremation , the facilities in which cremation may take place, and the final disposition of the person who has been cremated.

Timing of Cremation

Like many states, Massachusetts law requires 48 hour waiting period between the time of death and cremation. This is done to ensure that there are no questions of criminal or civil liability arising from the person’s death. During this time, the deceased is typically cared for by a funeral home. As the only funeral home on the South Shore to offer a dedicated temperature-controlled room to care for the deceased, we offer every family the comfort of knowing that a loved one is protected and treated with dignity at all times.

During this waiting period, the Massachusetts Office of the Chief Medical Examiner is also notified of the death. Prior to cremation taking place, a forensic investigator will conduct an examination to officially rule out liability and authorize the cremation. Cremation may not occur without this being done.

Authorization for Cremation

The law requires written authorization to proceed with cremation. Since the care of the deceased is the responsibility of his or her legal next of kin, the surviving spouse would typically be the one to authorize the cremation. If unmarried, this responsibility would then fall to children, grandchildren, parents, siblings, and others as necessary by degrees of kinship. We take this very seriously. Since all children, for example, have equal right to determine the disposition of a parent who has died, the Keohane team does everything we can to make sure that all next of kin are in agreement prior to approval.

If someone has no family or wants to be sure that cremation is carried out, one may complete a self-authorization form to be kept on file at the funeral home. This is a good way to ensure one’s wishes regarding cremation are fulfilled but it should never be used in place of having a meaningful conversation with family and friends. One’s final wishes will never affect the person who has died but it will affect those who ate left behind!

Crematories

Massachusetts is one of a few states that separates the role of the funeral director from those who operate cemeteries and crematories. All crematories in Massachusetts are operated by and located in cemeteries, which creates a two-step process for families. Although Massachusetts law does allow for families to care for a loved one independently, almost all families engage the professional services of a funeral director to assist them not only with disposition but in creating a personal and meaningful experience. The Keohane team greatly appreciates this trust and assists the family in all aspects of planning including making arrangements with a highly professional crematory.

Final Disposition

Cremation is a method of immediate disposition that offers tremendous flexibility both in terms of ceremony options and with final disposition. Unfortunately, once a person who has been cremated is transferred back to the care of the family, the sheer number of options may become overwhelming which is why our cremation experts take the time to work with families to select the method of final disposition that best serves their needs.

Most families find it important to create a lasting memorial and, for that reason, they often choose a cemetery for final disposition. Some families choose earth burial in an existing grave or in a grave that was newly purchased and may be designed for cremation only. Other families choose placement above ground in a columbarium niche. Still, others may select a cemetery with a scattering garden where a person may be placed in a beautifully landscaped natural area.

Some families choose ash scattering. Perhaps it is held in a location that was meaningful to the deceased where the family may conduct a scattering ceremony. While this can be a moving experience for the family, it is important to know that there may be certain rules governing scattering.

When scattering someone on land, it is important to note that scattering is not allowed everywhere. While Fenway Park, Gillette Stadium, and Walt Disney World may hold significant meaning to families, scattering is prohibited in these and most other similar venues. Most cemeteries and golf courses also have prohibitions or restrictions on scattering. While one may, of course, scatter a person on his or her own land, scattering on another’s property is only allowed with permission.

Scattering on the water either in the ocean or in fresh water may be another option. This too may have its set of regulations. State agencies regulate scattering on freshwater ponds and lakes while Environment Protection Agency governs ocean scattering. In fact, the EPA requires that a person scattered at least three nautical miles from land. If the urn or other container is metal, stone, or plastic and will not easily decompose, you must dispose of it separately. The EPA does not permit scattering at beaches or in wading pools by the sea.

The final disposition is not limited to just scattering or burial. Cremated persons can be shared among family members, turned into jewelry, and memorialized in keepsakes. Some people even choose multiple options like burial scattering and keepsake jewelry. The only limitations are the regulations discussed here and the imagination of the family.

All of those options are available under Massachusetts state law. Whatever option works best for you and your family, the skilled professionals at Keohane will help you find the solution that provides healing for your family and honors the life of the deceased.

If you have questions or concerns about cremation in Massachusetts, our highly trained and dedicated team is here to answer your questions and concerns. Please call us at 1-800-KEOHANE to find out which of the many options available are right for your family.

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How to Help a Grieving Friend or Relative

Fri, 01 Feb 2019 05:00:00 GMT

How to Help a Grieving Friend or Relative

When someone close to you experiences a loss, you naturally want to support that person and let him or her know that you care, but it can be difficult to know what to say or what to do. The most important thing you can do is acknowledge the loss and be there for your friend without judgement and without trying to fix the pain – be willing to listen and be a caring presence.

A tip sheet on helping a friend in grief from The Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children & Families, says: “Put down the toolbox. Your friend doesn’t need you to fix them or their grief, which is good because grief can’t be fixed! What they do need is for you to show up, stick around, act normal, and listen.”

Megan Devine, the author of It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand and founder of Refuge In Grief posted a short animated video on “How Do You Help a Grieving Friend.” On the video, Devine says, “You can’t heal somebody’s pain by trying to take it away from them…Being heard helps. But acknowledgement can be the best medicine that we have. It makes things better even when they can’t be made right.”

What to Say and What Not to Say

It can be difficult to find the right words to comfort someone who is grieving a loss. Some people might even wonder if it is best to say nothing at all for fear of upsetting the person who has lost a loved one, but not acknowledging the loss can be just as painful.

“It’s important to acknowledge the death of a loved one,” said Co-president John Keohane. “Even though expressing your condolences to someone who has experienced a loss is not easy, it should not be avoided all together.”

Because it is understandably challenging to find the right words to comfort someone, it is best to keep things short and from the heart. A simple expression such as, “I’m sorry for your loss” can be all that is needed to express your sympathy in a way that tactfully acknowledges the loss.

While there are no set rules to saying the right thing to someone who has lost a loved one, there are some phrases that people often convey during a loss that should be avoided in order not to offend the mourner.

You might be tempted to show support by telling the grieving person that you have experienced grief, too, but everyone experiences grief differently. So, rather than telling someone, “I know how you feel,” you might start with an acknowledgment that loss is painful, and that you know what he or she is experiencing is difficult. And while the acute pain of a loss usually diminishes over time, avoid saying things like “time will heal” or “at least he’s not suffering” which can appear to minimize the mourner’s pain. Instead, say something that relates to the difficulty of the loss such as, “I realize that this is must be a very difficult time for you.”

It’s okay to admit that you just don’t have the words to express your feelings, especially in the case of a sudden loss or accidental death in which the mourner may be in shock and disbelief. You can confess to the griever, “I’m so sorry. I just don’t know what to say.”

Physical gestures can also convey your sympathy when words just aren’t enough. A warm hug, a squeeze of the hand or a kiss on the cheek can express your feelings non-verbally.

Hang in There

The journey through grief is a long and winding path that lasts much longer than the initial mourning period when friends and family drop off food and send condolence cards. It’s important to check in with your friend or relative after the first few weeks or even months. Ask how they are doing and make concrete offers to help, such as doing yard work; babysitting the children or inviting them for a walk. Mark your calendar for important dates that might bring up feelings of grief – a birthday, a holiday, or the anniversary of the death.

And remember that a person who is grieving has ups and downs. It’s okay to laugh and have fun; to reminisce about the person who has died; or celebrate a special event. Just be sure to check in with your friend and find out what he or she is feeling or needing in the moment.

For more ideas and tips, Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro provides a guide on “Beyond the Casserole” with information from April Herring, Risa Hanau and Marcia Vanard.

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Annual Coat Drive Has Begun: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth For the Winter!

Mon, 01 Oct 2018 04:00:00 GMT

Annual Coat Drive Has Begun: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth For the Winter!

Help us provide warmth to the needy during our seventh annual coat drive, underway now through the end of November. Help us meet our goal to collect 250 COATS THIS WINTER!

It’s a great opportunity to clean out your closet and help others in need at the same time! So take a look – you may have gently worn coats in your closets that are outgrown or no longer needed that will be appreciated by those less fortunate.

Most of us take for granted the ability to pull on our warm coats when the winds start to blow and the temperatures drop, but others in our community are not so lucky. Please take a look through your closets and consider donating gently used fall and winter coats to our Quincy, Weymouth, and Hingham locations now through November 30.

Donations will be distributed to those in need throughout the South Shore by Interfaith Social Services in Quincy, Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth, and Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull.

Each year we are amazed by the generosity of those in our community who help us make our annual Coat Drive such a huge success. Watching our community bringing in their gently used coats during such a busy time reminds us of the true spirit of giving during the holiday season.

“Many of us have gently worn coats that take up space in our closets and can be better utilized by those less fortunate than ourselves. We want to thank all of those in our community who bring in their donations for our coat collection,” said Co-President John Keohane.

Supporters wishing to donate are asked to bring gently-used adult or children’s coats to the lobby of these Keohane locations:

Keohane Funeral Home at 785 Hancock Street in Quincy

McDonald Keohane Funeral Home at 809 Main Street in South Weymouth

Pyne Keohane Funeral Home at 21 Emerald Street in Hingham

Slow Down When Planning a Funeral

Sat, 15 Sep 2018 04:00:00 GMT

Slow Down When Planning a Funeral

The death of a close friend or family member can be a very stressful time, and there are many decisions to face, especially when making funeral arrangements for a loved one. In today’s society, we have been programmed to do everything faster and faster as the years progress. But taking your time when faced with the task of making funeral arrangements for someone you care about creates a memorial that will honor your loved one and be a healing experience for all those who attend.

Whether or not you’ve experienced a loss before, nothing truly prepares you for how you will feel at the time of death. It is always best to slow things down and truly make the time significant. “Our later grief recovery progresses much smoother if we begin with a strong foundation surrounded by family and friends centered around a shared ceremony,” said John.

Unless you are observing religious traditions for a quick burial, such as in Judaism or Islam, you don’t need to make every decision right away. Many funerals can be held several days to several weeks from the time of death. In the case of cremation, a memorial service can be held at any point in the future that suits your family’s needs, especially if family members are traveling from long distances.

While today’s technology can often bring us together in ways we’ve been unable to do in the past, it can also get in the way of processing our grief and connecting with others in a meaningful way, while pressuring us to make decisions that would be better served to take time to consider.

“Try returning to traditions of the past. Sit and talk with one another, share stories, be present with one another. Try limiting the use of cell phones, social media and the internet. These modern devices tend to get in the way of our human need to say good-bye in a meaningful way,” said John.

Some of the decisions you will need to make include whether your family prefers burial or cremation; where and when to hold funeral services; who will officiate; whether there will be a viewing and if the viewing will include an open casket or a closed casket; writing the obituary; determining the final resting place; and how to personalize the services to befit your loved one. Your funeral director will guide you through the process, bringing to bear his or her wealth of experience and expertise.

“Slowing down can be a matter of a few days, but it could be longer if planning a memorial service after cremation has taken place. It’s more the process of disconnecting from technology and our crazy pace of life to really savor the relationships with people while planning a meaningful celebration of life,” said John.

Slowing down is not about the amount of time, but rather a process to allow thoughtful decisions to be made and the time to discuss the multitude of options available.

For more information on planning a funeral, please contact one of our knowledgeable funeral directors at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Two American Icons Memorialized with Deeply Personal Tributes

Sat, 01 Sep 2018 04:00:00 GMT

Two American Icons Memorialized with Deeply Personal Tributes

Over the Labor Day weekend, two extraordinary Americans were laid to rest with outsized memorials to match their larger-than-life personalities, talents and accomplishments – Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul; and Senator John McCain, the maverick congressman from Arizona. The country will seem lesser for their loss.

On Friday, Aretha Franklin, the 76-year-old soul singer and civil rights activist, was buried in a golden casket in Detroit after a traditional “home going” that lasted eight hours. Her memorial featured astonishing musical performances that honored the Queen of Soul with eulogies by luminaries such as President Bill Clinton and the Reverend Jesse Jackson.

Arizona Sen. John McCain, the 81-year-old war hero and Republican maverick, was buried at the US Naval Academy in Annapolis, Maryland, on Sunday after a service in Washington on Saturday that was attended by thousands, involving statesmen, colleagues, past rivals, family and friends – including McCain’s 106-year-old mother Roberta. The four-day celebration of his life was thoroughly choreographed by the senator himself prior to his death.

Both events were preceded by several days of memorials in various locations in order for the multitudes of admirers to pay their respects. The occasions were designed to pay tribute to McCain’s and Franklin’s extraordinary lives in ways that reflected their unique contributions and personalities. Franklin’s glamourous ceremonies were intended to be fit for a queen, while McCain’s dignified memorials were proper for a decorated war hero and elder statesman. McCain was one of only 31 people to lie in state in the Capitol Rotunda in Washington, an honor bestowed by leaders of Congress.

Befitting the Queen

Aretha was born in 1942, the daughter of one of the country’s most famous African American preachers, the Rev. C.L. Franklin. She sang Gospel songs at an young age at her father’s church in Detroit, which was visited by famous singers and civil rights leaders such as Martin Luther King, Jr.

Aretha released her first album, Songs of Faith, by the time she was fourteen-years-old. But it was only after she signed with Atlantic Records years later that she found the musical voice that catapulted her to fame.

Her eight-hour “homecoming” funeral was preceded the evening before with a concert called “A People’s Tribute to the Queen” at Chene Park, including local performers and gospel choirs as well as legends such as Grammy winner Patti LaBelle. The 6,000 free tickets were gone within minutes online. The concert stretched to nearly five hours and became a rollicking, interactive event for Franklin’s fans.

Prior to the tribute concert, thousands waited for hours outside the Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History for a viewing of Franklin’s body. A second viewing was held on Thursday at the New Bethel Baptist Church, which is where Franklin had performed as a young girl in her father’s congregation. Known for her sense of style, Franklin’s outfits changed for each of the viewings and the funeral service. On Friday, Franklin was dressed in a gold-sequined gown and matching sequined Christian Louboutin high-heels.

For her funeral on Friday morning, invited guests and members of the public packed the Greater Grace Temple megachurch. According to NBC News , the street outside Greater Grace was lined with more than 100 pink Cadillacs, a tribute to Franklin’s song from the 1980’s, “Freeway of Love,” in which the car was featured in the lyrics and video.

“Her song, the pink Cadillac song, meant so much to us, we use it at every event,” said Joy Bailey Greff, in a New York Times article . Greff is a Mary Kay cosmetics saleswoman who drove her pink Cadillac S.U.V. for 14 hours from Alabama to be part of the procession. “She’s just an icon, a legend, and it’s an honor to just be part of something like this and to be able to give back after she’s given so much to people.”

Franklin’s golden casket was carried by a 1940 Cadillac LaSalle hearse that also took her father, legendary minister C.L. Franklin, and civil rights pioneer Rosa Parks to their final resting places at Woodlawn Cemetery, where the singer was interred in a mausoleum that evening.

The funeral service was overflowing with music, preaching, and moving eulogies. There were speeches from former president Bill Clinton, Rev. Al Sharpton, Cicely Tyson, Smokey Robinson, Clive Davis, and Tyler Perry, among others. And there were musical performances from pop-stars Stevie Wonder, Gladys Knight, Chaka Khan, Ariana Grande, Jennifer Hudson and gospel singers Shirley Caesar and the Clark Sisters. A block away from the church, several hundred fans watched the funeral service on a giant outdoor screen in the parking area of a gas station.

Both Franklin’s tribute and funeral were live-streamed so that fans and admirers around the world could view the memorial events.

Dignity and Patriotism

McCain lay in state at the Arizona State Capitol with a private ceremony in the rotunda to honor his lifelong dedication to public service. Following the ceremony, family and members of the public paid their respects to the late Senator, as reported by The Atlantic.

Later, there was a public procession from the Arizona State Capitol to North Phoenix Baptist Church, where a religious memorial service took place. Moving eulogies were given by McCain’s close friend former Vice President Joe Biden and McCain’s daughter Bridget.

On the Friday of Labor Day weekend, McCain lay in state in the rotunda of the United States Capitol. A memorial ceremony in the Capitol also took place, and members of the public were invited to pay their respects to the Senator following the service.

On Saturday, Sept. 1, there was a public processional from the Capitol to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. The motorcade paused at the Vietnam Veterans Memorial where Mrs. Cindy McCain lay a ceremonial wreath to honor those lives lost during the Vietnam War. The public lined the procession route along Constitution Avenue to pay their respects to Senator McCain.

The processional then made its way to the National Cathedral in Washington, DC for a private, invitation-only memorial service. A total of fourteen men and one woman accompanied the late senator’s coffin into the cathedral. The pallbearers, listed as the senator’s friends, included a Hollywood star; a Russian dissident; several politicians; former aides and fundraisers. It was a way for McCain to honor the variety of his relationships, but also to make a public statement about what he considered important in his life and the life of the country.

Toward the end of his illness, McCain planned how he wished to be memorialized. He reached out to his former rivals, former Presidents George W. Bush and Barack Obama, and asked them to speak at his funeral. He also asked his daughter, Meghan, to speak, and she delivered a fiery eulogy in his honor at the service. There were many touching moments during the traditional ceremony, including when McCain’s wife Cindy was visibly moved during a stirring rendition of “Danny Boy” by Renee Fleming.

On Sunday, a private funeral was held at the US Naval Academy in Annapolis, Maryland, where McCain’s sons Jack and Don paid tribute to him, along with retired Army General David Petraeus and long-time friend Senator Lindsey Graham. Crowds of sympathizers lined the route as the senator’s final processional travelled to the academy.

McCain graduated from the elite Naval Academy in 1958, and later served in Vietnam as a fighter jet pilot. A military flyover was performed with the squadron one plane short, to represent the late senator. McCain was buried at the US Naval Academy next to his friend and classmate, Admiral Chuck Larson. “Chuck has his wingman back now,” the late admiral’s widow, Sarah Larson, told CNN.

As a tribute to McCain, his wife Cindy requested that flowers in honor of her late husband be sent to VA hospitals. “If so inclined, flowers may be sent to your local VA Hospital” reads the senator’s website .

Moving Tributes

McCain’s funeral was a tribute to the man himself – passionate, patriotic, with an attempt to bring opposition camps together.

Franklin’s beautiful homegoing in Detroit showcased how she used her gifts to become one of the country’s most beloved musical artists; a force for freedom; and a petitioner of respect.

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Plant.Grow.Share.: FREE Gardening Workshops and Seedlings for Garden Enthusiasts

Tue, 01 May 2018 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share.: FREE Gardening Workshops and Seedlings for Garden Enthusiasts

Plant.Grow.Share., formerly known as Harvest Helpers, encourages backyard gardeners to grow more food locally with the hope that they will share their bounty with others in need. Local residents can pick up free seedlings and attend free workshops to learn how to grow food at home – all materials provided. This season, we’ve added new composting workshops for anyone interested getting more out of their gardens.

Build Your Own Tomato Container Garden for FREE

Tomato Container Gardening Workshops are being held free-of-charge for anyone interested in learning about container gardening. During this approximately one-hour long workshop led by local organic farmer Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset, attendees will be supplied with all the knowledge and supplies needed to create and grow their own free-standing tomato container gardens.

“Growing tomatoes can be easy and fun and we love to help people learn how through the Plant.Grow.Share. program. If you have a spot of sunshine, you can grow tomatoes,” said Cas Casados Executive Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry. “We would love to provide fresh tomatoes to all our food pantry clients and this program helps.”

FREE Tomato Container Gardening Workshop

Come plant your own tomato container garden and grow tomatoes at home this summer in a free workshop led by local organic farmer Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset. All supplies will be provided, including a free tomato plant seedling donated by Keohane Funeral Home. Once it’s time to harvest, enjoy your tomatoes at home and donate a portion to your local food pantry.

“For the past few years we have been encouraging local residents to donate fresh produce to area food pantries,” said Rick Doane, executive director of Interfaith Social Services. “Even if you do not have the land or gardening experience, a container garden is a great way to grow fresh produce. That is why we are partnering with Holly Hill Farm for these workshops.”

FREE Composting for Better Gardens Workshops

Come learn how composting will help you get the most out of your garden this summer. During the approximately one-hour long workshop led by local organic farmer Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset, attendees will be supplied with knowledge needed to build their own compost piles and receive a FREE tomato plant, donated by Keohane Funeral Homes.

“I’m thrilled to be a part of the Plant.Grow.Share program this year. People get to learn how to improve their gardens with composting and have fun at the same time!” said Annmarie Coyle, of Weymouth Food Pantry. “These workshops lead to many donations of fresh produce, which can make a world of difference for hungry people.”

Free Seedlings Available to Grow at Home

Local gardeners and food pantry patrons are invited to pick up free vegetable seedlings in our
FREE Seedling Giveaway. When vegetables are ready to enjoy, gardeners are encouraged to donate a portion of their harvest to the Weymouth Food Pantry or Interfaith Social Services to help local residents in need. “We need fresh produce for people in need in our community,” said Doane. “This is not just for gardeners; this is for people who are committed to feeding healthy food to hungry people.”

Seedlings will be available for pick-up beginning the week of May 22nd to May 25 at these locations: Keohane Funeral Home, 785 Hancock St. in Quincy; McDonald Keohane Funeral Home, 809 Main St. in South Weymouth; Interfaith Social Services, 105 Adams St. in Quincy; and all the Weymouth Food Pantry’s pop-up sites – call 781-331-7682 for locations.

Vegetable gardens will also be planted at Keohane Funeral Homes locations in Quincy and South Weymouth. Interfaith Social Services will have two gardens, one next to their office at 105 Adams Street in Quincy, and one on their rooftop specifically for growing tomatoes.

“We are very pleased to be a part of Plant.Grow.Share.,” said John Keohane, Co-president for Keohane Funeral Homes. “Something as simple as people planting an extra row of vegetables in their gardens can make a huge difference for our local food pantries.”

How You Can Help

For those who would like to help in other ways besides gardening, the food pantries are also happy to receive donations of fresh store-bought produce. Donations of fresh produce for the Weymouth Food Pantry are accepted at all of their pop-up pantry sites around Weymouth. Visit weymouthfoodpantry.org for a complete list of times and locations. Donations are also welcome at their food warehouse at 40 Reservoir Park Drive, Unit B, in Rockland from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., Tuesday-Friday.

Donations from your garden or supermarket for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at 105 Adams Street in Quincy from 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., Monday-Friday, and until 7 p.m. on Tuesdays.

Monetary donations are also always welcomed. Donations to the Plant.Grow.Share. program can be made online at interfaithsocialservices.org/donate .

For questions or to volunteer for the Plant.Grow.Share. program, please contact: Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services, (617) 773-6203; Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane Funeral Homes, (617) 773-3551; or The Weymouth Food Pantry, (781) 331-7682, [email protected] .

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Not Too Young or Too Old to Benefit from a Senior Center

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Not Too Young or Too Old to Benefit from a Senior Center

While the main membership of most senior centers is sixty and over, today’s senior centers offer programs for all ages. From intergenerational programing to dementia awareness and other educational initiatives, kids to centenarians can enjoy what their local senior center has to offer.

“People are very surprised how many different things we have going on,” said Thomas F. Clasby, Jr., Director of the Kennedy Center in Quincy. Located at 400 East Squantum Street in Quincy, the Kennedy Center shares a building with the City of Quincy Council on Aging and Health Departments. Members range in age from sixty to over one hundred years. The center includes a library and a coffee shop.

Some of the services at the Kennedy Center include health screenings, piano lessons, exercise classes, quilting, ballroom dance lessons, blood pressure clinics, computer classes, sing-alongs, chess and chess lessons, and even pickle ball. “That [pickle ball] is huge, especially in the southern states,” said Klasby. “It’s a game similar to ping pong except it’s played on a court.”

Some upcoming special events at the Kennedy Center include a ladies’ luncheon in May; a trip to New York city in June; and a ferry voyage to Nantucket in July.

Intergenerational Programs

The mission of most senior centers is to provide helpful resources, services and programming for older adults. However, senior centers serve the entire community by providing information on aging, supporting family caregivers, training community leaders, and conducting programming that brings the generations together.

“Our center is exclusively for seniors. However, we do a number of intergenerational things,” said Clasby.

During school vacation week, the Kennedy Center will be offering an intergenerational program called “ Eyes on Owls ”. Seniors have the opportunity to bring their grandchildren, nieces and nephews to an interactive presentation with live owls brought in by Mark and Marcia Wilson.

The Whipple Senior Center in Weymouth also brings in animal programs for intergenerational audiences including Eyes on Owls and a hands-on reptile show called Joe’s Crazy Critters . And the pool room at the Whipple Senior Center in Weymouth hosts practice games for the Weymouth Teen Center. Pool games between the seniors and teens were organized to provide extra practice for the teen pool league to hone their skills in order to compete in tournaments across the state. “The kids are so respectful to our seniors and enjoy the fun and games,” said Karen Johnston, Director of Elder Services. “But the seniors don’t just let them win.”

In May, the Kennedy Center will sponsor the 36 ^th annual senior Olympics, which is staffed by student volunteers. The games are open to men and woman fifty-five and older. Competitions are judged by age categories in five-year increments: 55 to 59; 60 to 64; 65 to 69, and up. The games are spread throughout the City of Quincy. Venues include the Kennedy Center for the Pickleball Tournament; Olindy’s Lanes for billiards; Torre Dei Passeri Club for Bocce Ball; the Lincoln Hancock Community School Pool for swimming; and Faxon Field Track for track and field events, among others.

The popular annual program brings together senior citizens and local high school and college students who help to run the events. Director Clasby said the seniors and students get to know one another very well. Many of the students volunteer in high school and then come back over the summers to volunteer as college students.

Another connection between the Kennedy Center and students is a senior field trip to North Quincy High School for a luncheon gathering with the students. The focus is often on civics and history. The younger generation is able to hear about historical events, such as the Vietnam War or the Civil Rights Movement, from primary sources.

Educational Initiatives

The Kennedy Center has been participating in an important dementia awareness initiative that helps to educate seniors, first responders and caregivers about Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia. The center sponsored programs to educate first responders, such as fire, police and ambulance personnel, as well as municipal employees who interact with the public, such as the clerk’s office and the senior center staff. Participants learned first-hand what it might feel like to have dementia. They were trained to spot signs of dementia and learned who to call for help.

The Kennedy Center and the Alzheimer’s Association are offering a program called Taking Action: Living Well with Mild Memory Loss. Taking Action is a free five-week series designed for families impacted by mild memory loss. It combines support groups and educational programming to educate and connect people living with Alzheimer’s and related dementias and their care partners, to one another, and to helpful resources.

The Anne M. Scully Senior Center in Hull will offer a free seminar on Tick Protection in May. The guest lecturer, Blake Dinius, is an Entomologist-Extension Educator and representative of the County of Plymouth. According to the town website , tick disease in Plymouth County is dangerously high, even in the coastal communities. Participants can bring back the vital information to their families and help educate their kids and grandkids.

Senior centers are hubs of activity offering fitness classes, hot meals, fun trips, health information and much more for seniors. But they also provide fun and education for community members of all ages.

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FAQ: What are the Traditions and Etiquette of a Funeral Procession?

Mon, 15 Jan 2018 05:00:00 GMT

FAQ: What are the Traditions and Etiquette of a Funeral Procession?

A funeral procession is used to accompany the body or the cremated remains of a deceased person from the funeral service to the cemetery. A funeral procession allows for the family and friends to come together as one in their grief and mourning. Often the procession will pass important places in the life of their loved one, and together, the family and friends can remember and celebrate.

Funeral Procession Traditions

For thousands of years, many cultures have had funeral processions as they laid their deceased loved ones to rest. This tradition offers a sense that family and friends are caring for their deceased loved ones as they collectively take the journey to their place of rest.

One of the most unique funeral processions happens in New Orleans with the so-called jazz funeral. Blending European and African traditions with Mardi Gras revelers, the jazz funeral procession is accompanied by a brass band. It typically begins with a march by family and friends, accompanied by the band, from the funeral home or church to the cemetery. On the way to the cemetery the band plays more somber music, but after the hearse leaves the procession the music becomes more lively and upbeat to celebrate the life of the deceased. Those that follow the band in the funeral procession just to enjoy the music often twirl a parasol or wave a handkerchief in the air.

Funeral processions at Arlington National Cemetery go from the chapel where the funeral service is held to the burial site. When the services are completed, the casket is often transferred to a horse-drawn caisson. The family either walks behind the caisson, or drives in a vehicle to the gravesite. Processions that involve full military honors include a color guard, firing party and a military band.

For funeral processions in China , the eldest son and the family of the deceased walk just behind the funeral vehicle which carries the coffin to the place of burial. Other relatives follow behind with a piece of white cloth to connect the family to the funeral vehicle. A joss stick is lit and carried during the funeral procession. Joss sticks are made from coarse bamboo paper symbolizing “spirit money” which is burned to guarantee that the spirit of the deceased has many good things in the afterlife.

Funeral Procession Etiquette

In the past, motorists customarily yielded the right-of-way to all vehicles in a funeral procession or pulled over to the side of the road. Today, this custom has been systemized into law in most states, but the laws governing funeral processions vary from state to state. If you’re not sure about the laws in your state, check this document compiled by a law firm.

To avoid deadly accidents or costly traffic tickets, here are some general guidelines to follow regarding funeral processions.

Driving in a Funeral Procession:

If you encounter a funeral procession:

Throughout the ages, human beings have solemnly and respectfully conveyed their departed loved ones from memorial site to burial site. Whatever the transportation method, funeral processions have always been highly respected out of honor to the dead and regard of the mourners. Knowing the laws, customs and etiquette of the funeral procession is essential for everyone’s safety, for fully honoring the deceased, and for solidarity of friends and family mourning a loss.

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5 Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday Season

Fri, 01 Dec 2017 05:00:00 GMT

5 Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday Season

Sure, the holidays are joyful, but the stresses of the holiday season can be overwhelming at times. Between shopping for presents; decorating the house; cooking and baking; and all the holiday parties, we can forget what the holidays are really about – being with our loved ones!

Following these five simple strategies can help you do less but enjoy the holidays even more!

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Wed, 15 Nov 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Documentary Provides Insightful Look into the Art of Writing Obituaries

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Documentary Provides Insightful Look into the Art of Writing Obituaries

Obits used to be dry, dull reports but not anymore. Today’s obituaries strive to educate and entertain readers. The job of an obituary writer is a quest to discover as much as possible about the life of the person he or she is covering – all in one day’s work. The documentary, Obit. Life on Deadline , directed by Vanessa Gould, takes viewers through a typical day in the life of the team of obituary writers at the New York Times.

“It’s counter intuitive, ironically, but obits have next to nothing to do with death and in fact absolutely everything to do with the life,” said Margalit Fox, Senior Writer.

The film opens with a phone ringing. Then we see writer Bruce Weber on the phone asking questions about the life of William P. Wilson , the man who advised John F. Kennedy on his television and media appearances – and may have influenced the outcome of the 1960 presidential election following the televised debate between Kennedy and his rival, Richard M. Nixon. Scenes and interviews cut back to Weber throughout the film to chronicle his day of writing Wilson’s obit as he races against the clock – from the basic legwork of gathering information from relatives, public records and the archives, also called “the morgue,” to writing his article; gathering photos; meeting with the team; and getting the lead just right.

Obituary writers are first and foremost storytellers who weave together the life and accomplishments of newsworthy individuals who pass away – and they are able to maintain their sense of humor in the process. At one time, journalists who were being punished for some transgression would be assigned to the obituary department, but that has changed over the course of the last twenty years. Today, the obit writers at the New York Times find pleasure in bringing to light the life of their subjects. They worry about doing the person justice and getting all the facts right. In fact, Weber says he loses sleep over any mistakes he might make and feels terrible when he has to print a correction for someone’s obituary. However, Weber says family members sometimes remember things incorrectly. The writers are committed to reporting the facts, covering unsavory details such as jail time along with positive accomplishments, regardless of how loved ones remember the details.

But being an obit writer is a dying occupation. One writer says, “There aren’t too many of us doing this anymore. You can count them on one hand.” But the ones who are left are infusing a new vitality and humor into this form of journalism. Fox said that a grimness left-over from a Victorian sensibility used to dominate obituaries and dictated that they had to be somber, serious and devoid of humor. Today’s obituary writers celebrate many aspects of a person’s life, including the positive and the negative impacts, and they aren’t afraid to find the humor in our shared human experiences. Fox gives the example of the obituary of John Fairfax, the first low oarsman to traverse any ocean. She says his obit broke all the rules and was “just as rollicking and swaggering as the subject.”

Who Gets an Obituary?

At the beginning of the work day, the writers gather in an editorial meeting to decide who to write about. Weber jokes that he comes to work and asks, “Who died today?” He explains that an obituary must be written about a “newsworthy person” and says that “a good person is not newsworthy.” Weber says he gets ten to fifteen calls a day from relatives asking for an obituary about their loved one because he or she was a loyal New York Times reader, but that does not make them newsworthy. Other than the fact that the person died, all subjects must have lives that had an impact of one sort or another explains Weber – whether it’s an impact on the world stage, such as the death of Leonid Ilyich Brezhnev, or a cultural impact, such as the inventor of the slinky.

The reality of obit writers is that they have to put a word-length on a human being’s life. Most obituaries top out at 900 words, but the more prominent ones go from 1,000 words to 1,400 words. At 15,000 words, the obituary for Pope John Paul ran several pages and had a number of photographs. The number of words does not judge the worth of the life but the newsworthiness of the subject.

The 4:00 pm managing editors meeting determines who goes on the front page; above the fold is the best position and a blurb at the bottom of the front page as the second-best position. During the photo meeting, editors review photos onscreen to decide the best images to run along with the obituary.

The film gives us a glimpse into the Times “morgue” or archive, which consists of a warren of filing cabinets full of clippings. At one time, there were ten thousand drawers of clippings. But the clippings, along with the department, has shrunk in size. The morgue staff went from thirty people down to just one, Jeff Roth. Roth says it may look chaotic, but it is organized by people, subjects, and even by geographical locations. Writers and photo editors utilize the morgue to find information and images on their subjects.

Roth also explains that they keep advanced files on prominent people to be ready at the time of death. Roth says they have 1,700 advances, including people like Jane Fonda and Stephen Sondheim.

Weber says that his job does force him to think about death every day, but it also has the profound effect of making him think about mortality and what that means. He realizes that life does not go on forever, and he thinks about how best to spend the time he has left.

For Your Loved One

At Keohane Funeral Home, every life matters. “We help our families tell the life stories of their loved ones through personalized tributes and moving memorial services. We can even help them write the obituary for their loved one,” said Co-President, Dennis Keohane.

To speak to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Sun, 15 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Annual Coat Drive Happening Now: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth for the Winter!

Sun, 01 Oct 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Annual Coat Drive Happening Now: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth for the Winter!

Help us provide warmth to the needy during our sixth annual coat drive, underway now through the end of November. Because of your generosity, we have already provided more than 1,500 gently used coats to our neighbors in need – let’s keep the tradition going!

Donations will be professionally cleaned and then distributed to those in need throughout the South Shore by Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull, Interfaith Social Services in Quincy, and Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth.

Please bring your donations to these Keohane locations:

Keohane Funeral Home at 785 Hancock Street in Quincy

McDonald Keohane Funeral Home at 809 Main Street in South Weymouth

Pyne Keohane Funeral Home at 21 Emerald Street in Hingham

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Plant.Grow.Share. Needs You! Bring Your Fresh Produce to Your Local Food Pantry

Tue, 15 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Plant.Grow.Share. Needs You! Bring Your Fresh Produce to Your Local Food Pantry

Plant.Grow.Share. is an initiative to provide fresh and healthy food to our local food pantries and to encourage local gardeners to help feed the hungry in our community. It is a collaboration between Keohane Funeral Homes, the Weymouth Food Pantry and Interfaith Social Services.

“We’re proud to be a partner of the Plant.Grow.Share. program,” said John Keohane, Co-president for Keohane Funeral Homes. “Just planting an extra row of vegetables in your garden to share with our local food pantries can make a huge difference for our community.”

Don’t Let Your Garden Produce Go to Waste

Don’t let those veggies rot on the vine. Sometimes there’s a tendency for people to think, “My fridge is full, I’m not going to bother to pick those last few tomatoes, cucumbers, etc.”

“You might not need those veggies but our hungry clients do,” said Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services. “Those small donations make a difference. Our programs are sustained because of them – and our food pantry clients get to enjoy healthy food.”

Interfaith Social Services is celebrating their 70 ^th anniversary this year. They have been helping South Shore residents in need for the past seven decades with the support of the community.

“Plant.Grow.Share. isn’t just about raising fresh produce in your backyard. It is about the need for fresh fruits and vegetables in our food pantries. Even after the growing season ends we hope that people will think of purchasing and donating fresh foods, and not just canned goods, to food pantries,” said Doane.

“The Plant.Grow.Share. program is really beginning to catch on and changing people’s ideas about what they can donate to food pantries. It’s wonderful!” said Cas Casados , Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry.

How Does the Garden Grow?

As in past seasons, Keohane Funeral Home and Interfaith Social Services have planted vegetable gardens this year dedicated to the Plant.Grow.Share. program. Kale, peppers, and assorted vegetables are growing quickly.

The tomatoes are starting to ripen in the gardens at our Quincy and South Weymouth locations. We expect to harvest bushels of various vegetables as the growing season progresses which will be donated to the clients at our local food pantries.

“Plant.Grow.Share. is a one way we can give back to the community in a meaningful and sustainable way. We can see how much the program makes a difference to our neighbors in need when we drop off our donations at the food pantries,” said Joseph Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane.

The gardens at Interfaith Social Services are coming in nicely, too. “We planted a garden in the ally next to our building. This is our seventh year planting in that spot,” said Doane. “We have had a bumper crop of kale. It has been wonderful to harvest it, rinse it off and give it directly to our food pantry clients. They love it. The beauty of kale is that it just keeps growing; so, we have been harvesting for weeks, and will continue to do so into the cooler months. We also had a small roof top tomato garden at our building. We have been perfecting this over the past few years. While the harvest from those two dozen tomato plants wasn’t huge it was important to our clients.”

“We don’t currently have a gardening space for the Weymouth Food Pantry, though we’re working on this and hope to have one next year,” said Casados. “So far, we’ve received tomatoes, zucchini and summer squash, various types of cucumbers (mostly pickling and lemon), and we’re beginning to get green beans now. We work with Holly Hill farm and we’ve received lettuce, bok choi, rhubarb, pea shoots, onions, and more. From local farmers at our farmers’ market, we’ve received much of the above plus peaches, concord grapes, kale, and beets from local farmers.”

Free Tomato Container Workshops

At the beginning of the growing season the Plant.Grow.Share. program offered free Tomato Container Gardening workshops along with free seedlings to local gardeners to plant in their own gardens. Tomato Container Gardening Workshops were held free-of-charge for anyone interested in learning about container gardening. The hour-long workshop was led by local organic farmer Jon Belber of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset at the Tufts Library; Hingham Public Library; and other locations in Quincy and Weymouth. Attendees were supplied with all the knowledge and supplies needed to create and grow their own free-standing tomato container gardens.

“For the past few years, we have been encouraging local residents to donate fresh produce to area food pantries,” said Doane. “Even if you don’t have the land or gardening experience, a container garden is a great way to grow fresh produce.”

The goal of the program is to have a ton of tomatoes donated to the food pantries by the end of the growing season – so bring in those tomatoes! #tonoftomatoes

How You Can Help

For those who would like to help, the food pantries are happy to receive donations of both home-grown produce and fresh store-bought produce.

Small donations of 20 bags or fewer can be dropped off at any of the Weymouth Food Pantry pop-up sites during distribution hours. Check out the Contact page for a complete list. Donations of all sizes are welcome between 10am and 1pm at their food warehouse at 40 Reservoir Park Drive, Unit B, in Rockland, Tuesday through Friday.

Donations from your garden or supermarket for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at 105 Adams Street in Quincy from 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., Monday-Friday, and until 7 p.m. on Tuesdays.

Monetary donations are also always welcomed. Donations to the Plant.Grow.Share. program can be made online at interfaithsocialservices.org/donate .

Flowers Help Personalize a Funeral

Tue, 01 Aug 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Flowers Help Personalize a Funeral

Sending flowers is a tangible way of expressing sympathy to the family of a deceased loved one. Flowers can help celebrate the life of the deceased, provide comfort, and lift the spirits. They are a touching tribute, showing the bereaved in full color how much their loved one meant to others. Whether sent to the funeral home for the service or directly to the bereaved, flowers are a reminder that you are thinking of them in their time of sorrow.

Make it Personal

For example, if the deceased loved purple, send a bouquet of purple flowers. If the deceased loved to garden, consider sending a plant that can be added to their garden as a living memorial. Or if the deceased loved a certain type of flower, such as roses, use roses predominately in the funeral arrangements.

Flower arrangements can be made in various shapes as well. For the funeral of fitness expert Jack LaLanne, flowers were arranged in the shape of a barbell to honor his legacy of encouraging physical fitness, healthy eating and pumping iron.

You can also provide memorabilia or personal items to be incorporated into the arrangement. For a sports fan, a hat with the team logo could be the center of an arrangement. A hand-written letter, photograph or painting could be framed by a wreath of flowers.

How and when to send flowers

Flowers have been used since ancient times to comfort those who are grieving and act as a reminder of the beauty and fragility of life. In the ancient world, flowers and herbs were used to anoint the bodies of the deceased and decorate the burial site. Today, flowers are used to enhance the casket; beautify the funeral service and burial site; and eloquently express sympathy.

Different types of funeral arrangements should be sent based on the relationship to the deceased. For immediate family members, a casket spray or wreath is typical. Other florals from immediate family can include table arrangements, swags inside the casket lid, and heart or cross shaped arrangements. A standing spray or informal arrangement can be sent from a member of the extended family.

For close friends or colleagues, a spray, wreath, basket arrangement, bouquet in a vase, or a live plant is appreciated. Friends of the family may send flowers either directly to the funeral home or to the home of the family member. Business associates can have flowers delivered to the work place of the family member.

However, there are times when flowers are not appropriate for funeral services. Some religious traditions, such as Judaism, do not traditionally use flowers at funeral services or at the homes of the bereaved. Sending a fruit basket or other food items are more appropriate for Jewish mourners. Sending floral arrangements isn’t traditionally part of a Hindu funeral, but flower garlands are more commonly used. Traditions vary for Islamic families. If in doubt, consult a family member or clergy of the faith of the deceased.

It is important to recognize the wishes of the family. Some funeral announcements will ask for a donation to be made to a favorite charity “in lieu of flowers.” Some may choose to send flowers in addition to making a donation. If in doubt, respecting the wishes of the family is always appropriate.

Consult the funeral home and local florist

It’s always a good idea to call the funeral home ahead of time before placing your order with a florist.

“Funeral directors have so much experience in making all the arrangements for a funeral, including the flowers. Talking with the funeral director can help you decide the best type of arrangement to order, let you know what’s already been ordered, and tell you about family preferences as well,” said Co-president John Keohane.

Visiting or calling a local florist will assure that you’re sending the right type and arrangement of flowers. Florists are professionals who are knowledgeable in the various types of floral arrangements for funerals. Provide the florist with important information, including the name of the deceased and the date, time, and location of the funeral service. Include a heart-felt message of sympathy for the card that will be sent with the arrangement.

For convenience, you may also choose to purchase flowers online and have the arrangements sent either to the funeral home or to a private home. Most floral websites have a link to order sympathy and funeral arrangements online including forms to add in all the appropriate information about the deceased and the funeral service.

For any questions regarding funeral flower arrangements, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Make Summer Memories with the Whole Family

Sat, 15 Jul 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Make Summer Memories with the Whole Family

It’s summertime and the livin’ is easy – the perfect time to get extended family together, spend time with multiple generations and make memories that last a lifetime. Get everyone involved – from Grandma Mary to the new baby!

Take the opportunity of these long summer days to find ways for your family to spend time together – plan a family reunion; take a multi-generational vacation or do a project that the whole family can enjoy together. Here’s a few tips and tricks for having fun with all ages:

Your summer activities will be certain to become treasured memories as long as they include people of all ages that your family loves – from siblings to grandparents; and cousins to aunts and uncles.

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Plant. Grow. Share.: Bringing Fresh Produce to Local Food Pantries

Mon, 01 May 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Plant. Grow. Share.: Bringing Fresh Produce to Local Food Pantries

Plant. Grow. Share. is a collaborative effort of Keohane Funeral Homes, the Weymouth Food Pantry and Interfaith Social Services, bringing fresh food to local food pantries. During the upcoming growing season the Plant. Grow. Share. program offers free Container Gardening workshops along with free seedlings to local gardeners to plant in their own gardens.

Build Your Own Tomato Container Garden for FREE

“Growing tomatoes can be easy and fun and we love to help people learn how through the Plant. Grow. Share. program. If you have a spot of sunshine, you can grow tomatoes,” said Cas Casados Executive Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry. “We would love to provide fresh tomatoes to all our food pantry clients and this program helps.”

2017 Tomato Container Gardening Workshops

“For the past few years, we have been encouraging local residents to donate fresh produce to area food pantries,” said Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services. “Even if you do not have the land or gardening experience, a container garden is a great way to grow fresh produce.”

As the seedlings grow and begin producing tomatoes, participants are encouraged to donate a portion of their harvest to either Interfaith Social Services or the Weymouth Food Pantry, so they can be used to help feed the hungry.

“Our goal is to literally have a ton of tomatoes donated to our food pantries this summer,” said Doane.

Grow a Row to Share: Free Seedlings Available to Grow at Home

Local gardeners and food pantry patrons are invited to pick up free vegetable seedlings as part of the “Grow a Row to Share” program. When vegetables are ready to enjoy, gardeners are encouraged to donate a portion of their harvest to the Weymouth Food Pantry or Interfaith Social Services to help local residents in need. “We need fresh produce for people in need in our community,” said Doane. “This is not just for gardeners; this is for people who are committed to feeding healthy food to hungry people.”

Seedlings will be available for pick-up beginning the week of May 22nd at these locations: Keohane Funeral Home, 785 Hancock St. in Quincy; McDonald Keohane Funeral Home, 809 Main St. in South Weymouth; Interfaith Social Services, 105 Adams St. in Quincy; or the Weymouth Food Pantry’s warehouse, 40 Reservoir Park Dr., Unit B, Rockland.

“We are very pleased to be a part of Plant. Grow. Share.,” said John Keohane, Co-president for Keohane Funeral Homes. “Something as simple as people planting an extra row of vegetables in their gardens can make a huge difference for our local food pantries.”

How You Can Help

Donations from your garden or supermarket for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at 105 Adams Street in Quincy from 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., Monday-Friday, and until 7 p.m. on Tuesdays.

Monetary donations are also always welcomed. Donations to the Plant.Grow.Share. program can be made online at interfaithsocialservices.org/donate .

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Opioid Addiction Can Affect Seniors

Wed, 15 Mar 2017 04:00:00 GMT

Opioid Addiction Can Affect Seniors

Opioid abuse is a serious public health issue that has grown to epidemic proportions nationwide. While y oung adults are the biggest abusers of prescription opioid pain relievers , many older Americans suffer from opioid drug addiction as well.

What once started as a prescription for pain relief too often has become a source of crippling addiction. While most people can take prescription opioids in small amounts for a short period of time, others become dependent on those drugs. A recent study found that new opioid use after hospitalization is common among Medicare patients with a large proportion of those patients continuing to use a prescription opioid 90 days after hospitalization.

Because the prevalence of pain is high in older adults, health care professionals often prescribe opioid drugs to combat the pain. Studies have shown that the prevalence of pain for nursing home residents can be as high as 70 percent. Oral opioid medications are the most commonly prescribed medications in palliative care and geriatrics, according to The National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI). Because of changes in metabolism and body composition, drugs used in the elderly population tend “to be more potent and have a longer duration of action than predicted” as reported by NCBI , a division of the National Library of Medicine (NLM) at the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

Seniors are more susceptible to addiction than any other population because they are more likely to experience the loss of a loved one, loneliness, increased physical pain, and memory issues, said Matt Eakin, executive vice president of a treatment center in Connecticut, as reported in The Hour .

In a talk to the Kiwanis Club in Wilton, CT, Eakin shared several signs that may indicate opioid abuse in seniors, which can include increased falls, frequent headaches, changes in eating behaviors, poor hygiene, falling out of touch with loved ones, dramatic mood swings, and loss of interest in activities.

How to Combat Opioid Addiction

One important factor in avoiding opioid addiction is to clean out your medicine cabinets. Leftover pain medication in the medicine cabinet is a common way for individuals, young and old, to start taking drugs that can lead to addiction.

Many communities have a program to take back unwanted drugs, often located at the police or fire station. However, if you don’t have a drug take back program nearby, you can dispose of them in the household trash. According to the U. S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA), take the drugs out of the container and mix them with something unpalatable, such as kitty litter or coffee grounds. Place the mixture in a sealed plastic bag and throw it away.

Another way the country is trying to deal with the opioid epidemic is by changing prescription practices. The CDC provided recommendations for the prescribing of opioid pain medication for patients 18 and older in a guideline published March 2016, and the agency also supports training of health care professionals who prescribe opioids.

According to the National Institute of Drug Abuse , the nonmedical abuse of prescription drugs is highest among young adults ages 18 to 25. But while most of the attention on the opioid crisis is focused on this segment of the population, seniors are at risk, too. If you are concerned that you or a loved one may have a problem with prescription medications, seek the help of a health professional who can refer you to the proper treatment.

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Veteran’s Indicator on Driver’s License Now Free in Massachusetts

Wed, 01 Mar 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Veteran’s Indicator on Driver’s License Now Free in Massachusetts

The Registry of Motor Vehicles is now providing Massachusetts driver’s licenses and IDs with “Veteran’s Indicators” to Veterans at no cost. The “Veteran’s Indicator” is a symbol that appears on a license or ID that can be used as proof of service for Veterans to obtain benefits and services available to them as former members of the Armed Forces.

WWLP-22News reported that eligible veterans had to pay $25 to have the indicator printed on their ID or license prior to Baker’s announcement in November of 2016. According to the Massachusetts Veteran Services, there are more than 365,000 veterans living in Massachusetts.

“It can be an issue for some Veterans to prove they served in the military because not all Veterans are eligible for federally issued ID cards. Thankfully, Massachusetts took notice and now includes a ‘Veteran’s Indicator’ symbol free of charge on drivers’ licenses and state issued ID cards,” said Vice President Joe Reardon. “The veteran’s indicator makes it easier for Veterans in our state to receive access to government benefits to which they are entitled as well as discounts at restaurants and retailers.”

The Military Wallet states: “Currently 49 states offer a Veterans Designation on state issued drivers licenses or ID cards. Puerto Rico and Washington D.C. also issue driver’s licenses or ID cards with a Veterans Designation.”

The state of Washington, the only state that currently does not issue an ID card with a Veterans Designation, will begin issuing the Veterans Designation ID card sometime in 2017.

The blog of mass.gov states: “The veteran designation is designed to increase awareness about available resources and benefits. With this feature, first responders will be alerted of all veterans and the Department of Veterans’ Services will notify veterans of benefits they may not have accessed. There is no cost for the veteran designation, as long as it is added during license renewal time.”

Veterans must still pay the normal renewal fees when they renew their driver’s license or Identification Card, but there is no additional fee to add the “Veteran’s Indicator.” However, if a veteran’s license or ID card is not eligible for renewal, he or she can obtain a duplicate license or ID card for no fee with the “Veteran’s Indicator,” according to MassDOT.

“The Registry of Motor Vehicles is excited about the new veteran designation, which is a free service upon license renewal,” said MassDOT RMV Registrar Rachel Kaprielian. “Veterans who have not accessed Department of Veterans’ services will find a wide of array of benefits are available.”

Veterans who wish to have the “Veteran’s Indicator” on their license or ID must bring the following with them to a RMV service center or designated AAA locations:

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Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose Readings for a Funeral?

Wed, 15 Feb 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose Readings for a Funeral?

Readings at a funeral are meant to bring comfort to the mourners and help loved ones cope with the reality of death, while celebrating the life of the deceased and capturing his or her unique personality and outlook on life.

A funeral or memorial service typically uses between two to four readings throughout the ceremony. Funeral and memorial readings can also be used in printed memorial materials, such as funeral programs, funeral or memorial prayer cards, and acknowledgement cards.

Poems appropriate for a funeral

It can be hard to put your feelings into words to express your grief and honor your loved one. There have been many sensitive souls throughout the ages who have been gifted with the power of language to express the nearly inexpressible through poetry, and their poems can often provide the grace and meaning you need.

In Medieval Spain, Yehuda HaLevi wrote a poem, “ Tis a Fearful Thing ,” that expresses the pain of loss, the fragility of life, and the power of love. “ The Peace of Wild Things ” by American poet Wendell Berry describes the ability of nature to provide solace.

Poetry from the funeral services of celebrities and other famous people can be a source of inspiration. One of the most popular poems for a funeral, “ Do not stand at my grave and weep ” by Mary Frye was read at the funeral of Nicole Brown Simpson. Two poems were read at Princess Diana’s funeral by her sisters, including “Turn Again To Life” by Mary Lee Hall and “For Katrina’s Sun Dial” by Henry van Dyke.

A few other poems commonly used for a funeral or memorial include, “ Remember Me ” by Christina Rosetti; “ Death Be Not Proud ” by John Donne, and “ Psalm of Life ” by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. For an extensive list of poems appropriate for a funeral, visit this alphabetical listing of the most beloved poems and readings for funerals from Lasting Post.

If you have searched the poetic canon of funeral writings and still cannot find the perfect words to memorialize your loved one, you can commission a custom funeral poem to capture your loved one’s spirit. Creative Funeral Ideas will write a one-of-a-kind custom funeral poem that is completely original and embodies what made your loved one so special.

Religious Readings

If the funeral or memorial is religious in nature, there are many appropriate readings from biblical texts and other religious writings. Religious services often have prescribed moments for prayers and scriptural readings with a range of traditional selections, so make sure to go over your religious selections with family and clergy to make sure it is appropriate for the traditions of your community.

Some traditional prayers, psalms and religious readings include, Psalms 23; Romans 8:14-23; The Lord’s Prayer; The Serenity Prayer; and I Corinthians 15:51-57. For more inspiration, take a look at this list of funeral prayers and scriptural verses .

Additional Funeral Readings

Secular readings for a funeral can be garnered from a variety of sources, including songs, movies, books, television and original stories – the closer the source is to your loved one’s life, the better to bring meaning to the service. Use an excerpt from your loved one’s favorite book or song; find a quote from his or her favorite movie or television show or use something that you or your loved one wrote, such as an original poem, letter or email.

The classics are a good place to look for funeral readings. Shakespeare had many observations on the nature of life and death. Take a look at these quotes on grief, loss and death from William Shakespeare ’s plays and sonnets.

Song lyrics can be powerful readings for a funeral or memorial service as well, as long as the song has meaning to you or your loved one. Songs such as “ In My Life ” by The Beatles or even Monty Python’s “ Always Look on the Bright Side of Life ” can express your loved one’s personality and philosophy of life.

Whether a poem, prayer or except, a reading can be a powerful expression of your respect and love for the departed, as well as your grief at your loved one’s passing. It can honor the memory of your loved one and help those left behind cope with their loss.

To speak to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors for help in choosing readings for your own service or for the funeral of a loved one, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Having a Pet is Good for Your Health

Wed, 01 Feb 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Having a Pet is Good for Your Health

Pets can boost both our physical and mental health and in some cases, even help us live longer. Many people own pets for the unconditional love and companionship, which directly increases health and wellness, but there are many other ways pets help their owners stay healthy.

Emotionally, owning a pet can decrease depression, stress and anxiety and boost feelings of well-being. Physically, pets can lower blood pressure, improve immunity, ease Alzheimer’s outbursts, and even decrease risk of heart attack and stroke.

Top 5 Healthy Reasons to Own a Pet

Owning a pet can make us feel better, both emotionally and physically. Here are five wonderful health benefits derived from the bond between humans and their four-legged friends:

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, or CDC, provides these links for more information about the health benefits of pets:

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Featured FAQ: What Do I Need to Know About Body Donation or Anatomical Gifts?

Sun, 15 Jan 2017 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What Do I Need to Know About Body Donation or Anatomical Gifts?

An anatomical gift, which is sometimes referred to colloquially as a body donation, is a generous contribution that can save lives and train the next generation of medical professionals. One’s gift may go toward aiding medical research in finding a cure for diseases such as cancer, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, heart disease, and diabetes but more commonly in this area, the gift is a teaching tool for medical students to learn about human anatomy and surgeons to develop and improve surgical techniques.

How Do I Make a Gift?

An anatomical gift is generally pre-arranged by the donor prior to death but some programs accept donations without prior registration. According the Tufts University School of Medicine Anatomical Gift Program website, “Any individual over the age of 18 is eligible to donate their body.”

“When an individual or family chooses to participate in an anatomical gift program, our funeral directors work with them to ensure that the deceased is transferred properly and efficiently into the care of the medical school. At the same time, we are also working with the family to help meet their needs for ritual and memorialization,” said Reardon.

The first step is to contact the school to which you wish to make your gift. Donors often complete a short medical screening by phone and complete a registration form. Once completed, the legal authorization remains on file until the time of death.

When the death occurs, the deceased’s family contacts the medical school to begin the process of transferring the person to the care of the medical school. Once there, the person is prepared for use to train medical students and providers. At the conclusion of the academic cycle, the person may be released to the care of a funeral home at the family’s expense or be cremated at the medical school’s expense. If cremation is chosen, the person who has been cremated may be released to their family, to a funeral home or in some cases, may be buried in Pine Hill Cemetery in Tewksbury at the expense of the medical school. The entire process usually last from approximately on year but may sometimes be longer.

Can I Still Have a Funeral?

Absolutely! However, ceremonies at the time of death cannot be conducted with the deceased present.

“The rites and ceremonies planned for the family of a person who has chosen an anatomical gift are slightly different from most funerals in that the deceased is not able to be present for the ceremonies. However, there are many other options such as memorial visitation or a memorial service. Also, families will have the opportunity to plan final disposition following cremation which will allow another opportunity to say goodbye,” said Reardon.

In addition to ceremonies planned in the donor’s home community, the medical schools also hold regularly scheduled community memorial services to honor the donors. The medical school community, students and the donors’ families are invited to participate in this ceremony as another way to memorialize the donors and reflect on the value of their gifts.

Can My Donation be Declined?

Anatomical gifts may be declined for several reasons including communicable diseases, emaciation, obesity or sometimes simply that the program cannot accommodate a donation based on its current needs. For this reason, it is highly recommended that donors and families have another plan.

“Often times, when a family is choosing an anatomical gift, we are able to immediately transfer the deceased to the chosen medical school and help the family plan the ceremonies that will help them through their loss. However, there are situations where a school is unable to accept the deceased into the program so it is important to have an alternate plan,” said Reardon.

Your funeral director can help you establish plans for both outcomes. “On one occasion, one of our funeral directors made advance planning arrangements with a woman who had registered with an anatomical gift program. The funeral director suggested that two plans be established: one for an anatomical gift and one where we cared for her disposition. In the end, they were two vastly different plans – memorial visitation and memorial service vs. open casket visitation and a funeral service – yet they both concluded with cremation and burial with her parents. In the end, her gift was accepted by the medical school, but her family was very glad that there was fallback plan,” said Reardon.

What Does It Cost?

Anatomical gift programs bear the costs of the transfer and care of the deceased. In addition, they will also arrange for cremation at the end of the academic cycle. However, except for the school’s memorial service, the cost any funeral or memorial ceremonies, newspaper notifications or private burials are borne by the family.

Where Can I Donate?

In Massachusetts, there are several outstanding medical schools that will gladly accept your anatomical gift for the benefit of their medical students:

Anatomical gifts are a wonderful way to contribute to the future of healthcare and the Keohane team is acutely aware of how invaluable they are. Your gift could help a medical student learn about the wonders of the human body, it could help train a provider in a new procedure or it could even help train embalmers including several Keohane team members whose school benefitted from a partnership with Harvard Medical School. The entire team knows how important it is to honor this gift by caring for the donor and the family compassionately and efficiently.

“We are very fortunate to have a team of funeral directors who are very creative and can help families plan truly personal and meaningful ceremonies that will help families through their loss. They are very well prepared to assist families who have opted for an anatomical gift to create the rituals that will meet their needs,” said Reardon.

If you have further questions or would like to talk to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors about whole body donation, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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How to Stay Happy and Healthy: 5 Tips for Seniors in 2017

Sun, 01 Jan 2017 05:00:00 GMT

How to Stay Happy and Healthy: 5 Tips for Seniors in 2017

It’s common to wish someone a happy, healthy New Year, but what is the best way to accomplish that goal? Today’s seniors are living longer than ever before and want to stay as happy and healthy for as long as possible. Of course, eating well, getting enough sleep and regular exercise are essential to maintaining good health and happiness, but maintaining your emotional health is just as important.

Start feeling happier and boost your health now and into the future with these five mood lifting activities:

Taking care of your physical health is fundamental to long-term health and happiness, but it’s important to manage your emotional health as well. Get the most out of each and every day in the coming year and appreciate the good life that comes from staying happy and healthy.

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5th Annual Coat Drive Huge Success!

Thu, 15 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

5th Annual Coat Drive Huge Success!

Our deepest appreciation goes out to our generous community. With your help, we were able to donate nearly five hundred gently used coats to provide much needed warmth to those in need during this winter season.

The donated coats were distributed to the needy through Interfaith Social Services in Quincy, Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth, and the Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull to those in need of a little extra warmth this winter.

“Every year our clients are grateful for Keohane Funeral Home’s annual coat drive. As families came in to request emergency food or Christmas gifts for their children we asked them if they needed a coat. We had a rack full of coats next to our intake desk and clients were so excited to find something warm for them or their children. They are always so surprised by the question and overjoyed when they find a coat in the size they are looking for,” said Rick Doane, Executive Director. “Interfaith Social Services operates one of the largest emergency food programs in Greater Boston. Serving thousands of South Shore residents in need every year. In addition to hunger alleviation our programs also include mental health counselling and homelessness prevention.”

The first Keohane coat drive started in 2012, and we were delighted when we exceeded our initial goal of collecting 250 coats for the first time. Because the effort was so successful, we established an annual coat drive and have been collecting coats each fall for the past five years.

“We love to keep the tradition going. We know that the coats are certainly helping people that have a need at this time of year,” said Co-President John Keohane . “We’re thrilled to continue to support our community and those in need with the annual tradition that we’ve started and we hope to keep it going for many years.”

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VA Cemeteries Now Offering Pre-Need Eligibility

Thu, 01 Dec 2016 05:00:00 GMT

VA Cemeteries Now Offering Pre-Need Eligibility

The Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) now provides eligibility determinations for burial in a VA national cemetery prior to the time of need. Upon request, individuals can learn if they are eligible for burial or memorialization in a VA national cemetery through the Pre-Need Determination of Eligibility Program.

“It will alleviate a lot of stress as to one’s eligibility for burial in a national cemetery. Veterans will now have confirmation in advance rather than having to scramble at the time of need,” said Vice President Joe Reardon. “We will certainly assist veterans and their families in completing the paperwork and filing it with the VA when making pre-need arrangements.”

In Massachusetts, eligible veterans may be buried at the Massachusetts National Cemetery in Bourne on Cape Cod. The beautiful grounds cover approximately 750 acres adjacent to the Otis Air National Guard Base and include a memorial trail where nearly 50 memorials and a carillon have been erected in memory of veterans from World War I to the modern era.

Interested veterans may submit the Application for Pre-Need Determination of Eligibility for Burial in a VA National Cemetery , VA Form 40-10007 , to the VA National Cemetery Scheduling Office. If possible, applications should include supporting documentation, such as the most recent discharge document (DD Form 214) showing the highest rank, valor awards and decorations, as well as active duty service records. If you are unable to locate copies of military records, apply anyway, as VA will attempt to obtain records necessary to make a determination.

Applications will be reviewed by VA which will provide written notice of its determination of eligibility. To expedite burial arrangements at the time of need, VA will save the determinations and supporting documentation in an electronic information system. Because laws and personal circumstances change, VA will validate all pre-need determinations in accordance with the laws in effect at the time of a burial request.

Eligible individuals are entitled to burial in any open VA national cemetery; opening/closing of the grave; a grave liner; perpetual care of the gravesite; and a government-furnished headstone, marker or niche cover – all at no cost to the family. Veterans are also eligible for a burial flag and may be eligible for a Presidential Memorial Certificate. Information on VA burial benefits is available from local VA national cemetery offices at www.cem.va.gov or by calling VA regional offices at 800-827-1000.

To make burial arrangements at any open VA national cemetery at the time of need, call the National Cemetery Scheduling Office at 800-535-1117.

VA operates 135 national cemeteries and 33 soldiers’ lots in 40 states and Puerto Rico, including the Massachusetts National Cemetery in Bourne. More than 4 million Americans, including Veterans of every war and conflict, are buried in VA’s national cemeteries. VA also provides funding to establish, expand and maintain 105 Veterans cemeteries in 47 states and territories including tribal trust lands, Guam, and Saipan. For Veterans buried in private or other cemeteries, VA provides headstones, markers or medallions to commemorate their service. In 2016, VA honored more than 345,000 Veterans and their loved ones with memorial benefits in national, state, tribal and private cemeteries.

Submit Pre-Need Determination of Eligibility Program Application and Supporting Documentation to VA by:
Email: to the National Cemetery Scheduling Office at [email protected] ; or

Mail: to National Cemetery Scheduling Office, P.O. Box 510543, St. Louis, MO 63151; or

Fax: to the National Cemetery Scheduling Office at (855) 840-8299

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Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose Music for a Funeral?

Tue, 15 Nov 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose Music for a Funeral?

Music is a powerful vehicle for expressing emotion, setting a mood and bringing people together – and choosing the right music for a funeral or memorial can make the service tremendously personal while creating a moving and meaningful experience for all in attendance.

Funerals are no longer limited to just organ music. Most venues have a modern sound system to play recordings, and with digital music, the choice is nearly unlimited. Families may also choose to have musical instruments, such as guitar or violin, to accompany chosen musical selections. They may ask family members to sing, hire a professional singer or enlist the help of their community’s choir. A little preparation ahead of time will help those performing to become familiar with the musical selections and be prepared to participate in the service, even under difficult and highly emotional circumstances.

Music appropriate for a funeral

While there are traditional hymns and songs commonly used for a funeral, appropriate musical selections can be found in almost any genre. In fact, the deeper the personal connection to the music, the deeper the meaning of the service. Finding music that has some connection to your loved one – such as a favorite song or lyrics that express your loved one’s unique perspective on life – adds a true personal touch to the memorial. More and more, people are choosing music that is not traditional for funerals. It’s not unusual to utilize music from Broadway, country, rock or pop music.

When considering whether or not a song is appropriate, one critical aspect is to examine the lyrics to the musical selection. Be sure to read or listen to all the lyrics ahead of time to make sure the words are appropriate for the occasion and will not offend anyone in attendance.

Religious services often have prescribed moments for music with a range of traditional selections. Ask your religious leader for suggestions or if you have music in mind, run it by your religious leader to make sure your selections are appropriate for the traditions of your community.

Another important consideration when choosing music for a funeral is the copyrights for public performance of the music. Most funeral homes and even many houses of worship have standard licenses from music royalty groups such as BMI and ASCAP which gives them the right to play almost any recorded music in a public funeral service hosted at their facility. It is a good idea to ask the venue that you have chosen if they have purchased such blanket licenses to cover the use of your musical selections. However, those licenses may not apply to live music performed by a band or solo performer, so find out if the band or performer has the appropriate licenses to perform your selected music.

Suggestions for Musical Selections

It is important to find the music that best reflects the life and personality of your loved one, but it can be overwhelming with so many songs available. If you need specific suggestions for musical selections, here is a list of the Top 40 Funeral Songs from Your Tribute website. Selections include “Unforgettable” by Nat King Cole; “You’ll Be In My Heart” by Phil Collins; and “The Way We Were” by Barbra Streisand.

For selections for a funeral mass – such as the processional; presentation of gifts; or recessional – try some of these suggestions from Peter Paul Catholic Church: In Loving Memory – Musical Selections for a Funeral Mass .

For more suggestions, follow these links from Funeral Wise:

Broadway Music

Christian/Classical Music

Country Music

Pop/Rock Music

Other Music

While it’s certainly appropriate to utilize traditional music at a funeral, it’s not unusual to play the deceased’s favorite tunes; use popular music to convey certain periods of a loved one’s life; or employ a specific musical genre to create the right mood. Choosing musical selections which represent the life of the individual can mean more to family and friends than simply choosing standard funeral music.

To speak to one of our knowledgeable funeral directors for help in choosing musical selections for your own service or for the funeral of a loved one, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose a Funeral Home?

Tue, 01 Nov 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How Do I Choose a Funeral Home?

While it may be convenient to choose a funeral home based on the fact that it is nearby or it comes recommended by someone you know, contacting your local funeral homes, visiting their facilities, and developing a relationship with the staff before there is a need will ensure that you feel comfortable with the facility and build trust with the staff who will be guiding you and your family through an emotional time.

“We are constantly improving our facilities to create a clean and comforting environment, and our dedicated staff works compassionately with our families to determine what will best honor and memorialize their loved one,” said Co-President John Keohane.

Comparing Funeral Homes

1. The team : The staff should welcome your visit, gladly show you the funeral home, and clearly explain their policies. The funeral director should understand the type of funeral you desire and be committed to helping you actualize your wishes. Comfort and care are some of the most important elements of the funeral home industry. People are vulnerable after a loved one dies, and a caring staff will treat you with respect and compassion. They are trained experts to help you through this time of need by guiding you through the variety of choices based on your values and needs.

2. The facilities: The site should be clean, welcoming and well-maintained. You should feel comfortable entering the building and be at-ease meeting with the staff in a pleasant environment. If the staff takes good care of their facility, they will be likely to take good care of you and your family. Consider if the facility has the amenities necessary to cater to your space needs such as areas for visitation and services, as well as other special needs such as a handicapped bathroom or private meeting area for family before the service.

3. Goods and services: Ask the funeral director if they offer the goods and services that you’re interested in purchasing, such as picking up and preparing your loved one for burial or cremation, preparations of the obituary, filing necessary documents and permits, tribute videos; flower arrangements; use of the funeral home facilities, vehicles and staff; as well as merchandise such as caskets and urns. Funeral homes are required by law to provide a list of prices for their services and merchandise, including any packages as well as itemized prices for each type of service or article, so don’t be afraid to ask for pricing.

4. Religious and cultural considerations: Find a funeral home that understands your cultural or religious needs. Ask if they have ever performed a funeral service for your particular belief system. If they do not have the specific products or services necessary to perform a traditional funeral according to your beliefs, find out if they are willing to acquire them or allow you to bring them in from an outside vendor.

Personal Protection

As you visit funeral homes and speak to funeral directors, bear in mind that, you are the customer and while the subject matter is extremely sensitive and personal, you have certain rights as a consumer that are protected. In fact, the Federal Trade Commission created the Funeral Rule , to ensure the rights that a consumer has when shopping for or purchasing a funeral.

According to the FCC website: “The Funeral Rule, enforced by the Federal Trade Commission (FTC), makes it possible for you to choose only those goods and services you want or need and to pay only for those you select, whether you are making arrangements when a death occurs or in advance. The Rule allows you to compare prices among funeral homes, and makes it possible for you to select the funeral arrangements you want at the home you use.”

For more detailed information on the protections provided by the Funeral Rule, visit the FCC website .

To visit our facilities or discuss funeral arrangements with one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

Featured FAQ: What Happens to My Digital Data After I Die?

Sat, 15 Oct 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What Happens to My Digital Data After I Die?

In this digital age, we share a variety of personal information online – from emails, to photos, to credit card data, to posts on a multitude of social media networks. But what happens to that information after we die and who has access to it? As there is no uniform answer to that question, it may be a good idea to make a plan for what happens to your digital information upon your death and to appoint someone to carry out your wishes.

Digital Data Plan

Think about what types of data you would want to share and what you’d prefer to keep private after you die. Designate someone you trust as your representative upon death and decide if you want that person to have access to your data once you die. Most platforms won’t share login information or allow others to log on as the original user. Your representative will need to contact the various digital platforms on your behalf and inform them of your passing.

Google helps its users make plans for their accounts through the Inactive Account Manager which allows you to designate who has access to your information and whether or not you want your account to be deleted.

However, if a user dies suddenly or has not left instructions on how to manage online accounts, Google will work with an immediate family member or representative to close the account of someone who has died. While Google has a commitment to keeping content safe, Google may provide content from a deceased user’s account under certain circumstances.

Facebook Options

Facebook, one of the most popular social media networks, has options for accounts upon the user’s death. If you plan ahead, you can notify Facebook if you’d like to have your account deleted or memorialized upon your death. Memorialized accounts maintain the content previously shared by the user, such as photos and posts, and provides a place for friends and family to gather online. Depending on the privacy settings of the account, loved ones can continue to share memories, post condolences and provide funeral information on the memorialized timeline.

Facebook also allowed users to designate a legacy contact which is someone you elect to be responsible for the management of your Facebook account after it is memorialized. While no one can log into your account, legacy contacts can write a post for your profile – to share a final message on your behalf or to provide information about a funeral service, for example; maintain your page and wall once it is memorialized; respond to new friend requests; update your profile picture and cover photo; and even download a copy of your Facebook data, should you choose to enable that feature.

Other Social Media Networks

Most digital platforms protect the data of their users, even upon death, so it is a good idea to research the policies of all the social media networks that you use. For instance, in order to deactivate a deceased person’s account on Pinterest , the designated person must provide documentation of the passing, such as a death certificate or obituary, as well as documentation of the person’s relationship to the deceased.

Twitter will work with a person authorized to act on the behalf of the estate or with a verified immediate family member of the deceased to have an account deactivated, but they will not provide account access to anyone, regardless of the relationship to the deceased.

LinkedIn can close an account and remove the member’s profile if provided with a link to an obituary and other relevant information.

Whether you are young or old, in good health or ailing – if you have an online presence and use email for communications, you can help your loved ones to preserve and protect your digital legacy by making a plan for your all your digital data and making sure your heirs are aware of your wishes.

For more information, follow these links:

Facebook

Twitter

Google

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Annual Coat Drive Underway: Your Gently Used Coats Will Provide Warmth to Those in Need This Winter!

Sat, 01 Oct 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Annual Coat Drive Underway: Your Gently Used Coats Will Provide Warmth to Those in Need This Winter!

With your help, we have provided over 1,000 gently used coats to those in need! Help us continue the tradition to provide warmth to the needy in our community with our fifth annual coat drive, happening now through the end of November.

The donated coats will be professionally cleaned and then they will be distributed to those in need through the Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull, Interfaith Social Services in Quincy, and Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth.

Each year we are amazed by the generosity of those in our community who help us make our Coat Drive such a huge success. Watching our community bringing in their gently used coats during such a busy time reminds us of the true spirit of giving during the holiday season.

Our annual Coat Drive started back in 2012, and we were amazed to exceed our goal of collecting 250 coats during our first-ever drive. Because of the remarkable success of the event, we began collecting coats each fall in order to have the coats ready for the winter season. “This is the fifth year we have been doing the drive, and we have already collected well over 1,000 coats for the needy,” said Co-President John Keohane . “We are so proud to have partnered with all of you in our community to provide the recipients of these donations with a warm coat or jacket when it is needed the most.”

Please bring your donations to these Keohane locations:

Keohane Funeral Home at 785 Hancock Street in Quincy

McDonald Keohane Funeral Home at 809 Main Street in South Weymouth

Pyne Keohane Funeral Home at 21 Emerald Street in Hingham

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Plant. Grow. Share. reaches more people than ever before to help provide fresh food for the hungry!

Thu, 15 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Plant. Grow. Share. reaches more people than ever before to help provide fresh food for the hungry!

As the growing season winds down, we are pleased to see how well the Plant. Grow. Share. program – a fresh food initiative for our local food pantries – grew this year with the addition of several new initiatives. The program added three successful workshops and our Facebook campaign exceeded our goal to provide our local food pantries with 300 pounds of fresh tomatoes!

Tomato Container Gardening Workshops

This year, the program was kicked-off with three Tomato Container Gardening Workshops at no cost to participants. More than 50 people participated in each of the three workshops in which organic farmer Jon Belber, of Holly Hill Farm in Cohasset, helped participants to create their own tomato container garden.

“The Plant. Grow. Share. program was a greater success this year. I do think that the workshops played a role in this. The workshops proved to be a great launching pad for the program. The people who attended the sessions were genuinely interested in learning about gardening and about helping provide fresh tomatoes to the food pantries. Many of them told me that they never would have considered growing tomatoes for the food pantry because they did not know how or because they did not have a place to plant them. The container workshops solved both of these problems,” said Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning.

Participants learned how to plant the seedlings, how often to water, and where to best to grow them. Each person was sent home with an organic tomato seedling, a bucket full of rich, nutritious soil and the confidence to grow tomatoes anywhere there is a patch of sun.

“We were delighted by the enthusiastic response from the community and couldn’t quite accommodate the 80 people who wanted to attend the free workshop we offered. For the 50 that were able to get in, this year has been a much bigger community effort than in the past,” said Cas Casados, Director of the Weymouth Food Pantry. “Each year we’re inspiring more and more people to grow at least some of their own food. It’s not that hard, is fun to do, and the price and taste can’t be beat!”

Facebook Fundraiser Success!

Our donation will go a long way toward reaching the program’s goal of a ton of tomatoes for the season. Due to drought conditions this summer, the growing season has been delayed so food pantries are still receiving donations and final numbers have not been tallied.

By mid-September, the food pantry at Interfaith Social Services received 300 pounds of homegrown produce, including 75 pounds of all kinds of fresh tomatoes. Donations also included other nutritious produce such as beets, cucumbers, zucchini, green beans, squash, lettuce, herbs, and even okra! The Weymouth Food Pantry received144 pounds of tomatoes and 33 pounds of other crops in the same time period.

Ton of Tomatoes: #tonoftomatoes

There’s still time to make donations to your local food pantry with produce from your own garden or even store-bought vegetables. Tomatoes are still coming in and fall vegetables such as squash and pumpkin are ripening on the vine, not to mention all kinds of root vegetables. We are gratified by how many different individuals and organizations donated fresh produce this year.

Donations of fresh produce for the Weymouth Food Pantry are accepted at the Monsignor Hackett Center gymnasium, located on the Immaculate Conception Parish campus at 1189 Commercial Street in East Weymouth, between 8:30am and 11:30am Tuesday and Thursday mornings.

Donations for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at their food pantry at 105 Adams Street in Quincy. “We will still gratefully accept any produce donations, as squash and pumpkin season are upon us!” said Doane.

Featured FAQ: How Much Do Funerals Cost?

Thu, 01 Sep 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How Much Do Funerals Cost?

No two funerals are exactly alike as they reflect the life of the individual being memorialized. Ultimately, the cost of a funeral depends on what services and merchandise are chosen in accord with the family’s needs and values.

“We strive to provide the highest level of service and facilities while helping our families to determine what best suits their needs in honoring their loved one,” said Joe Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning.

Factors to Consider

Funeral costs can be divided into several areas, and your personal choices within those areas will help determine total funeral costs. Becoming familiar with the areas involved in planning for a funeral will help you establish the costs involved:

One important decision to keep in mind when considering funeral costs is pre-payment. The National Funeral Directors Association reports that the median cost of an adult funeral in the United States has increased 28.6 percent over the past decade. At Keohane, we offer a cost protection program that insulates families from future price increases.

To discuss funeral costs, pre-planning or our cost protection program with one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Free Local Hospice Guide Available

Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Free Local Hospice Guide Available

Hospice: A Wealth of Information About a Rich Resource answers many questions you might have about what hospice really is; how to choose a hospice; and how to pay for hospice. The guide covers other important topics, such as the benefits of hospice; bereavement services; meeting the needs of terminally ill patients and dealing with grieving children, as well as a directory of important agencies and services for further information.

“We understand that determining if hospice care is needed for a loved one can be a difficult decision with many complicated issues,” said Co-President John Keohane. “We hope this guide will be an invaluable resource to our community to provide helpful information and help ease any uncertainties around hospice care and end-of-life issues.”

The guide explains what you can expect hospice to provide and how to be referred to hospice:

Lisa Melchionna is an RN and Interim Hospice Director at the Hospice of the South Shore, which is part of the South Shore Hospital organization. “We provide a whole continuum of care to the south shore region and are fortunate to be affiliated with some of Boston’s well- known teaching institutions. Although many of our patients come to us from South Shore Hospital, many others are referred from a variety of community resources.”

Some of those community resources for referral to hospice include hospitals, nursing homes and physicians.

Hospice facilities often provide a home-like atmosphere and strive to make patients and their families as comfortable as possible. The Pat Roche Hospice Home in Hingham, operated by the Norwell VNA and Hospice, was originally a stately home. Joan Wright of Norwell VNA and Hospice describes the facility in the guide:

“We have the only non-profit residence on the South Shore,” said Joan Wright of Norwell VNA and Hospice. “It’s important to get a residence in the neighborhoods where the patients live. Our 12-bed residence was an old house, used as a rest home that morphed into assisted living. We bought it in 2012 and renovated it extensively to meet the Americans with Disabilities Act. We often have a waiting list.”

Hospice care can be utilized as soon as a patient receives a terminal diagnosis with a life expectancy of six months or less, however, patients may receive hospice services as long as medically necessary. Some families wait for the last few days of life to bring in hospice and miss out on much-needed relief.

Mike Cruza of Old Colony Hospice says in the guide: “Ideally, families should use the six-month benefit, but there is no crystal ball that tells you when that point is reached. I hear a lot: ‘I wish I had known about this sooner.’ Nobody says, ‘I wish I hadn’t come so soon.’”

The hospice guide is available at all Keohane Funeral Home locations as well as senior centers and hospice groups in the South Shore area, including South Shore Hospital Hospice of the South Shore; NVNA and Hospice; and Old Colony Hospice. It will also be available in .pdf format via email or downloadable directly from our website.

To view our new hospice guide, please follow the link to our newsletter page .

Featured FAQ: What is the Value of a Funeral?

Mon, 01 Aug 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What is the Value of a Funeral?

The most important meaning of a funeral is honoring the life of a loved one and providing a safe and supportive venue for family and friends to express their grief and offer support to one another. A funeral provides an opportunity for closure and becomes an important first step in the path toward healing.

“A funeral is really for the survivors and not for those who have passed,” said Co-President Dennis Keohane. “The main reason to have funerals is to fulfill the need for the children, grandchildren and other loved ones to invite the community to participate in a ceremony and service to honor the person who has died.”

Holding a funeral helps confirm the reality and finality of death, which can be difficult to grasp in the throes of grief. While some may feel it is more convenient to have the body cremated without holding a ceremony, survivors may find it difficult to move forward without the opportunity to say goodbye and the closure provided by a funeral service. Many people are not aware that funeral services can still be held even if a loved one chooses cremation as a final dispensation. Many families choose to have the urn holding the ashes present during the visitation or at the funeral services while others choose to provide a photograph of the deceased in lieu of a casket.

A funeral is an opportunity for the community to pay its respects. It provides a shared experience of loss where loved ones can offer their expressions of grief as well as support, so that survivors no longer feel alone in their grief.

A funeral can be based on religious ritual, but it doesn’t have to be. There are many options available today, including ceremonies led by Funeral Celebrants to celebrate the life of a loved one in a non-religious environment – whether at the funeral home or other gathering space, either indoors or outdoors.

Providing a time to honor the person’s life within a community setting and an opportunity to say good-bye, the ritual of a funeral helps survivors heal and move on with their lives in a healthy way while still feeling connected to the deceased.

If you have any additional questions about the value of a funeral or would like to make an appointment to meet with one of our experienced funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 800-536-4263.

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Elie Wiesel: A Voice For Peace Dies at 87

Fri, 15 Jul 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Elie Wiesel: A Voice For Peace Dies at 87

Nobel laureate and Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel was laid to rest after a private service at the Fifth Avenue Synagogue in New York City on Sunday, July 3, following his death the previous day at his Manhattan home. Wiesel, who died at the age of 87, was an important witness to the worst in humanity – as chronicled in his memoir, Night – yet his life-long goal was to achieve peace among nations and among all people and to make sure the world never forgot the terrors he endured.

According to the New York Times , Wiesel’s coffin was wheeled from the synagogue around noon surrounded by a dozen mourners. Wiesel was interred in a simple pine box draped with a blue velvet cloth which is the custom for Orthodox Jewish funerals. He was buried at Sharon Gardens cemetery in Valhalla, N.Y.

The Elie Wiesel Foundation for Humanity reported that the private funeral will be followed by a public memorial at a later date.

Worldwide Tributes

Immediately following his death on Saturday, July 2, the Jewish Sabbath, leaders around the world expressed their tributes regarding the Nobel Peace Prize Laureate. President Barack Obama said, “Elie Wiesel was one of the great moral voices of our time, and in many ways, the conscience of the world.”

Secretary of State John Kerry said of Wiesel, “He emerged from one of the darkest chapters of human history consumed not by vengeance, but rather a desire to quell the fires of prejudice and bigotry by serving the cause of hope and leading the pursuit of justice and peace.

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu called him “a ray of light and greatness of humanity who believed in the good in man.”

The Mayor of Jerusalem, Nir Barkat, who gave Wiesel the medal of Honorary Citizen of Jerusalem a few months ago, said, “Instead of giving in to despair, the face of evil and cruelty that at the time was the darkest of humanity, he carried all the way through the message of tolerance and peace for all peoples of the world.”

Celebrities lit up social media with their comments to pay respect to the acclaimed author, world-wide teacher and activist for peace. On Twitter, Jamie Lee Curtis posted, “We will never forget, Elie Wiesel. That, you can rest knowing. You were a light in the night & the world mourns your passing. #neverforget.”

A Voice for the Voiceless

Elie Wiesel was born Eliezer Wiesel on September 30, 1928, in Sighet, Romania to Shlomo and Sarah Wiesel. He grew up with three sisters and pursued religious studies at a nearby yeshiva, a Jewish institute of learning where students study sacred texts. At the age of fifteen, his entire village was deported to Auschwitz-Birkenau concentration camp in Nazi-occupied Poland in May of 1944. An older Jewish man saved him from the gas chamber by advising Wiesel to tell the Nazis that he was eighteen which was considered old enough to work.

Wiesel was freed from Buchenwald in 1945. His father died just months before the liberartion of the camps and only he and his two older sisters survived. He spent some time in a French orphange and studied at the Sorbonne in Paris in 1948. As a journalist with a French newspaper, Wiesel became friends with Nobel laureate Francois Mauriac who influenced Wiesel to write about his experiences in the camps. Wiesel published his memoir, Night , which became the seminal work about the holocaust and a tribute to the millions of victims who were unable to tell their own stories. He went on to publish more than 40 books.

In 1986, Wiesel was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for speaking out against violence, repression, and racism. The Norwegian Nobel Committee called him a “messenger to mankind” and described Wiesel as “one of the most important spiritual leaders and guides in an age when violence, repression and racism continue to characterize the world.”

Wiesel was awarded many more awards, accolades, honorary degrees and posts, including the U.S. Congressional Gold Medal in 1984; National Humanities Medal in 2009; and more than 90 honorary degrees from colleges worldwide, among many others.

Wiesel and his wife, Marion, founded the Elie Wiesel Foundation for Humanity in 1986, the same year he received the Nobel Prize for Peace, and they used the award money from the prize to fund the organization. The Foundation is dedicated to bringing together people from around the world and combating indifference, intolerance and injustice.

Wiesel also served as chairman for the Presidential Commission on the Holocaust from 1978 to 1986, spearheading the building of the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C.

Dedicated Teacher

Wiesel considered himself a writer and an educator and said that he was happiest in his role as a teacher. He taught at several institutes of higher learning, including New York’s City University and Boston University. He was a professor at the City College of New York from 1972 until 1976 when he left to become a humanities professor at Boston University where he taught for nearly forty years. Wiesel was the Andrew W. Mellon Professor Emeritus in the Humanities and a College of Arts & Sciences professor emeritus of philosophy and religion.

Michael Zank, the director of the Elie Wiesel Center for Jewish Studies at Boston University, said, “Boston University is losing an iconic teacher who brought an incredible intensity to every encounter with students and colleagues. It was a privilege to know and work with him. He will be missed.

Keep the Torch Burning

Honoring and remembering the lives of our loved ones is an integral part of carrying on their legacy. In the case of Wiesel, it is important not only to honor his life, but to remember the important historical events that he witnessed firsthand in order to continue the fight against injustice, intolerance or genocide wherever they may occur.

Actor George Clooney was willing to take up Wiesel’s mantel and continue the fight for peace: “We had a champion who carried our pain, our guilt and our responsibility on his shoulders for generations. Now he’s gone. It’s hard to fathom. So I guess it’s up to us now. To fight for the disenfranchised. To speak truth to power and to never forget how cruel man can be to man. In memory of Elie it’s the least we can do. Rest in peace my friend. You brought us this far. We’ll take it from here.”

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Pyne Keohane Exclusive Sponsor of Commemorative and Forever Flares to Illuminate Hull Harbor in Annual Festival

Fri, 01 Jul 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Pyne Keohane Exclusive Sponsor of Commemorative and Forever Flares to Illuminate Hull Harbor in Annual Festival

Join us and the Hull Lifesaving Museum for the 2016 Hull Harbor Illumination Festival July 30 in the spectacular tradition of communal celebration and personal remembrance. A thousand flares will illuminate the picturesque crescent of Hull Harbor transfiguring the shoreline into a glowing tribute to loved ones.

Remember, celebrate and honor

Light Up the Night

Each year the public is invited to sponsor a flare for the Harbor Illumination. The flares help to Remember, Honor, and Celebrate – for some it’s to honor a beloved family member, for others to mark a special event in their lives and for some merely to be a part of this marvelous celebration. Sponsor a flare for only $10 each.

This year the festival has added the Forever Flare , a special level of participation. A onetime donation of $300 allows the donor to commemorate someone special in his or her life with a flare that will be lit at each succeeding Illumination celebration. The flare will be placed in a special holder inscribed with the donor’s memorial name and a commemorative plaque will be permanently displayed at the Hull Lifesaving Museum with the name of the honoree for all to see.

For more information visit the Hull Lifesaving Museum website .

We thank you for the trust you have placed in us and look forward to seeing you on July 30. We hope that this event will serve as a way to honor your memories and your trust.

The Greatest, Muhammad Ali, was Celebrated in Death as He was Admired in Life

Wed, 15 Jun 2016 04:00:00 GMT

The Greatest, Muhammad Ali, was Celebrated in Death as He was Admired in Life

Muhammad Ali, the heavyweight champion in the ring and “The People’s Champion” in the world, was laid to rest in Louisville, Kentucky following his death at age 74 on June 3 in Phoenix, Arizona. He inspired generations of people, of all races and religions, and thousands gathered to pay final respects during a funeral procession through his hometown. With the help of his family, Ali designed his own funeral to allow as many people as possible to celebrate his life in a way that was celebratory, inspirational and yet respectful.

Ali had battled Parkinson’s Disease for many years and was taken to a hospital in Arizona for respiratory issues. Initially in fair condition, he spent a few days in the hospital until family members were contacted to say their goodbyes when his condition worsened. The official cause of death was septic shock due to unspecified natural causes.

Born Cassius Marcellus Clay, Jr. on January 17, 1942, he took the name Muhammad Ali in 1964 after joining the Nation of Islam. Ali eventually converted to orthodox Islam during the 1970’s and following his death the champion was given a Muslim funeral. Approximately 14,000 people attended Ali’s jenazah , funeral in Arabic, where movie star Will Smith and boxing champion Mike Tyson, amoung others, were pall bearers and former President Bill Clinton; Ali’s widow, Lonnie; Billy Crystal; and others gave eulogies at the public service.

Ali’s cherry-red casket was draped with an Islamic shroud. Ali and his family had planned his funeral for ten years to make sure it would honor both his Muslim faith and Western culture and give as many people as possible an opportunity to pay respects to him, including a public service. The service was led by an imam and included clerics from multiple religions, including a rabbi. Imam Zaid Shakir concluded the ceremony with an Islamic prayer and a poem at the closing of service.

Moving Tributes

Known for his trash talk as a boxer as well as his championship for humanitarian causes, Clinton called Ali “a universal soldier for our common humanity.”

“The first part of his life was dominated by the triumph of his truly unique gifts. We should never forget them…But the second part of his life was more important because he refused to be imprisoned by the disease that kept him hamstrung longer than Nelson Mandela was kept in prison in South Africa,” said President Clinton at Ali’s funeral. “In the second half of his life he perfected gifts that we all have. Every single solitary one of us have gifts of mind and heart.”

Clinton said he was brought to tears watching Ali struggle with Parkinson’s to take the final steps to light the Olympic cauldron in Atlanta in 1996 in Atlanta, a meaningful moment in sports.

Ali was survived by his fourth wife, Yolanda, or “Lonnie,” and they were married in 1986. “Muhammad indicated that when the end came for him, he wanted us to use his life and his death as a teaching moment for young people, for his country and for the world,” Lonnie said. “In effect, he wanted us to remind people who are suffering that he had seen the face of injustice. That he grew up during segregation, and that during his early life he was not free to be who he wanted to be. But he never became embittered enough to quit or to engage in violence.”

President Barak Obama, who regretted that he could not attend the funeral in person, released a video statement on Facebook. “This week we lost an icon, somebody who was a personal hero of mine,” said Obama. “Somebody who ended up transforming not just the world of sports, but the world as a whole. The Greatest. The Champ. Muhammed Ali.”

In the ring and in life

Regarded as one of the greatest boxers in history, Ali is renowned not only for his remarkable athletic prowess but for speaking his mind and challenging injustice throughout the world.

In the ring, Ali remains the only three-time lineal heavyweight champion – he won the title in 1964, 1974, and 1978. He is the only boxer to be named Fighter of the Year five times in The Ring magazine. He was also named Sportsman of the Century by Sports Illustrated and the Sports Personality of the Century by the BBC. Ali competed in several historic boxing matches including the “Thrilla in Manila” versus his rival Joe Frazier and “The Rumble in the Jungle” versus George Foreman.

At the time of his boxing career, Ali was known for trash talking his opponents and often freestyled with rhyme schemes and spoken word poetry, including his famous catchphrase for himself “floats like a butterfly; stings like a bee” which summed up his unusual style of heavyweight fighting including speed, fast reflexes and continuous movement around his opponents.

Outside the ring, Ali became famous as a political activist and social reformer by his refusal to serve in the U.S. military during the Vietnam War. He was arrested and found guilty on draft evasion charges. He was originally stripped of his boxing title, but his conviction was eventually overturned in 1971.

After his retirement from boxing, Ali devoted much of his time to philanthropy. In 1984 he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, a degenerative neurological condition, and was involved in raising funds for the Muhammad Ali Parkinson Center in Phoenix, Arizona. Ali was also involved in supporting the Special Olympics and the Make-A-Wish Foundation, among other organizations.

Ali traveled around the world to help out those in need. Because of his work in developing nations, he was designated as a United Nations Messenger of Peace in 1988. In 2005, Ali received the Presidential Medal of Freedom from President George W. Bush, and in 2009, Ali received the President’s Award from the NAACP for his public service efforts.

As a musician, Ali recorded two spoken word albums and a rhythm and blues song, and received two Grammy Award nominations. As an actor, he performed in several films and a Broadway musical. Ali was also an author and wrote two autobiographies both during and after his boxing career.

Ali’s legacy

Throughout his life, Ali fought for the dignity of all people, regardless of the color of their skin or their station in life. His inspiration to thousands of people around the world will live on as his life’s true legacy.

Actor Will Smith, who portrayed Ali in a biopic, was moved by seeing how many people adored Ali from the “outpouring of love” of the fans cheering along the route of the funeral procession.

“I learned a really valuable lesson about how the moment of the end of a life illuminates how it was lived. And every day you have to focus and concentrate on making sure you’re living your life in a way that it illuminates the things you want illuminated, and the things that were illuminated today were his love, and his heart, and his unconditional appreciation for all people of every race and colour,” said Smith who felt that the crowds who turned out to pay their respects to the heavyweight champion created a true celebration of Ali’s life.

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Remembrance Project Honors Unsung Heroes Among Us

Wed, 01 Jun 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Remembrance Project Honors Unsung Heroes Among Us

The Remembrance Project on WBUR celebrates the lives of ordinary people from New England and around the United States who lived extraordinary lives. While the rich and famous have well-read obituaries, there are lesser-know but special people among us who have lived amazing lives, are well-loved by those who knew them, and whose stores should not go untold.

The creator of The Remembrance Project , a WBUR series produced by Amory Sivertson , is Elissa Ely , a writer and psychiatrist who worked for decades with the Massachusetts Department of Mental Health and is now a contributor for WBUR, Boston’s NPR radio station, among other jobs. Ely combs the small print obituary columns to find those special people that she features on the weekly series.

If you’ve lost one of those extra-ordinary people within the last year and would like to suggest your loved one to be featured on The Remembrance Project, please share your memories with Ely by contacting her at [email protected] . It could be someone from Boston, New England or anywhere in the United States, as The Remembrance Project is growing into a national project.

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Featured FAQ: How Do I Write a Fitting Eulogy?

Wed, 01 Jun 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How Do I Write a Fitting Eulogy?

The days following a loved one’s passing is a naturally emotional time for those left behind, and writing a eulogy may seem daunting. But it is a great honor and a final act of love you can bestow on both your loved one and all in attendance at the funeral. You don’t have to be a great writer to capture the essence of the deceased nor an inspirational speaker to deliver the eulogy at the memorial service – keep it brief and heartfelt; use specific examples and stories; and don’t forget to sprinkle in a bit of humor, too.

Step-by-step Guide

Key Tips to a Great Eulogy

Follow these helpful tips to write and present the most effective eulogy as possible.

Sample Eulogies from WikiHow :

Spiritual Eulogy

Family Eulogy

Biographical Eulogy

Remember that the people who will listen to your eulogy at the memorial service will be enormously supportive and appreciative. By presenting your eulogy, you will be honoring the memory of your loved one, doing a great service to those who hear you, and beginning the healing process for yourself by presenting precious memories and conveying love and laughter during a time of loss and sadness.

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Featured FAQ: Do Hotels Offer Bereavement Rates?

Sun, 15 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Do Airlines Still Offer Bereavement Fares?

Sun, 01 May 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Do Airlines Still Offer Bereavement Fares?

At one time many major airlines offered reduced fares for those passengers who were traveling last-minute due to a death or imminent death of a family member. However, those types of so-called bereavement fares are much less common nowadays and may not provide the most economical option.

Although bereavement fares may provide more flexibility on travel plans, they are not necessarily the lowest fares available. Many carriers that still offer bereavement fares, such as Air Canada and Alaska Airlines, apply discounts only to unrestricted, full fares. Alaska Airlines offers a 15% discount for the death of an immediate family member but restricts discounts to full-fare refundable coach tickets that can be changed without penalty, which can be significantly more expensive than a nonrefundable economy ticket.

Many airlines, such as American and United, discontinued bereavement fares due to several factors, including cost-cutting measures, online discounts and fraud. With today’s technology, it became far too easy to create a fraudulent letter from a funeral home or doctor’s office as “proof” of the death of a loved one. The reduced fares were being abused by scammers and airlines found the time required for calling the funeral home or hospital to verify the death was too costly.

Some carriers that continue to offer bereavement accommodations, such as Delta , will only take reservations over the phone and may offer cheaper fares through their website or other online booking agencies, such as Expedia or Priceline which offer last-minute deals that can undercut so-called bereavement fares.

Often, the best bet is to look for lower-cost economy fares which are less expensive and less hassle.

Southwest Airlines does not offer bereavement or emergency fares but encourages passengers to take advantage of their every day low fares and liberal policies on baggage and change of plan fees. Other low-cost carriers such as JetBlue, AirTran, Virgin America, and Frontier make similar claims.

Delta offers additional flexibility to their lowest published fares, such as waiving service fees on the return portion of the trip, rather than a discounted fare. In addition, Delta’s Bereavement Policy only applies to Delta SkyMiles members for the death of immediate family members, but passengers can apply on the spot to be members of the program if not already enrolled. Delta does not require written proof and only asks for the name of the deceased, the passenger’s relation to that person, the name and phone number of the deceased’s funeral home, hospital or hospice and the name of his or her doctor.

German carrier Lufthansa “offers immediate family members special fares for outbound and return flights to attend the funeral if their journey starts in the USA or Canada.” Customers from the USA or Canada are requested to contact the Lufthansa reservations office, and the airline charges an additional $20 for booking the trip over the phone.

When it becomes necessary to book last-minute flights to attend a funeral service, memorial service or burial of a loved one, be sure to call the airline directly and confirm their policy on bereavement fares. Polices are continuing to evolve and the airline’s website might not be current. And be sure to check the web for special online fares, time-sensitive deals and last-minute fares which may be cheaper and easier than booking directly with the airline over the phone. If traveling overseas, package deals may be the most economical as the discounts on hotel or vehicles can offset other airfare savings.

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Famous Funerals to Inspire Us

Fri, 01 Apr 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Famous Funerals to Inspire Us

Whether it is a funeral procession for a head of state attended by many thousands, a private service for a high-tech visionary, or a nation in mourning for a beloved literary figure, the eulogies, tributes, viewings and outpouring of love and devotion from these famous funerals can inspire us all.

A Man of Peace: Throngs Mourn

These were the words of Jawaharlal Nehru, the first prime minister of the modern state of India, delivered extemporaneously in a nationwide radio broadcast on January 30, 1948, following the assassination of 78-year-old Mohandas “Mahatma” Gandhi earlier that day. Prime Minister Nehru’s eulogy was spoken from the heart in an attempt to bring healing to himself and to a nation of mourners. His speech not only honored Gandhi but also inspired others to follow Gandhi’s non-violent ways rather than succumb to anger and violence.

Nehru’s speech continued with a plea for mourners to offer their prayers for their fallen leader at the river or the sea during the appointed time for Gandhi’s cremation the following afternoon: “And while we pray, the greatest prayer that we can offer is to take a pledge to dedicate ourselves to the truth, and to the cause for which this great countryman of ours lived and for which he has died. That is the best prayer that we can offer him and his memory. That is the best prayer we can offer to India and ourselves.”

Gandhi’s body was laid out in state at Birla House, a house of prayer in New Delhi where the assassination took place, and was draped in a white Khadar sheet surrounded by flower petals. Members of his family and ashram gathered around his body while a Sikh priest recited prayers. The funeral procession left from Birla House toward the banks of the river Jumna where the cremation took place.

The funeral route was thronged with nearly a million people, both Hindus and Muslims, to pay tribute to the Indian statesman as it wound its way to the site of the cremation. Vast crowds witnessed the burning of the funeral pyre. Gandhi’s ashes were collected at the funeral and then carried through the streets of Allahabad, one of India’s holiest cities in the north, before being scattered in the Ganges River.

This public funeral and cremation allowed an entire nation to mourn and pray for a man who had guided them toward freedom and peace.

A Modern Visionary: High-tech farewell

But the many fans and admirers of Jobs were able to express their sympathy in true high-tech style through online websites, a memorial email address as well as onsite tributes at Apple stores and corporate headquarters. Flags were flown at half staff at both the Apple and Microsoft headquarters. The family of Steve Jobs set up a website for the many people who mourned his loss and needed an outlet to express their sympathy and send well wishes to the family.

Apple did not hold a public service but provided an email address, [email protected] , for well-wishers to send their condolences and the Apple website displayed a page with Job’s name and lifespan next to his portrait for two weeks following his death. Apple held a private memorial service for employees at their Cupertino campus.

An online group of Apple fans declared October 14, the day the iPhone 4S was released, as “Steve Jobs Day” to pay tribute to his legacy. The site encouraged admirers to use Facebook and Twitter to share their thoughts about Jobs and to dress in his iconic jeans and black turtleneck on that day.

While the family was able to honor Jobs’ sense of privacy with an intimate funeral service for loved ones only, the larger public was able to pay tribute to a titan of technology in the medium he embraced and moved forward through his unique vision.

A National Treasure: Public and Private Tributes

Clemens died at seventy-five of a heart attack on April 21, 1910, in Redding, Connecticut. His body was transferred in a horse-drawn hearse from his home in Connecticut for burial in New York. His body was taken from Grand Central Station in New York City to the Brick Church, at Fifth Avenue and Thirty-Seventy Street for a simple service, including a reading from Scripture, a short address, and a prayer which was attended by 400 ticket holders. Then, for an hour and a half, members of the public were allowed to view the body as an immense line of 3,000 mourners of the author of such classic works as The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn passed in front of the open casket to see his face for the last time.

Following the church service, the coffin was taken to Elmira for a small service for surviving family members and closest friends. Clemens was buried at Woodlawn Cemetery, next to his wife and daughters.

For a public figure such as Clemens, the adoring public was allowed an opportunity to say goodbye to the writer and humorist, while his immediate family had the intimacy of a private service and burial at the family plot. Clemens’ funeral was the perfect example of a blend of public and private ceremonies.

Featured FAQ: When is the Right Time to Call Hospice

Tue, 15 Mar 2016 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: When is the Right Time to Call Hospice

Hospice care is designed for terminally ill patients and their families to make their final months and days as comfortable as possible. Hospice can be called as soon as a patient receives a terminal diagnosis with a life expectancy of six months or less.

Oftentimes patients or family members are reluctant to embrace the terminal diagnosis and hospice is involved only in the last few weeks or days of a loved one’s life. However, the sooner a hospice team is involved in a patient’s care, the more physical, emotional and spiritual support both the patient and caregivers can receive. If possible, contact hospice before pain management becomes necessary. When a patient has made the decision to end curative medical treatment, they are probably ready for hospice care.

One hospice nurse, a clinical liaison who educates medical staff, families and potential patients about hospice care, commented on a website for family caregivers called caring.com : “Unfortunately because of fear, lack of understanding and lack of communication, most people have hospice services only a very short period of time, sometimes days. This denies the patient and loved ones the full services that hospice can offer. I suggest you contact a local hospice and have someone come in and have an honest discussion with you and your loved one so you can make an informed decision.”

Bringing in hospice should not be seen as a lack of hope or a guarantee that death is imminent. Some patients on hospice show improvements and are able to go off of hospice care. Some patients even continue to go to work under hospice care. And there is a renewal process to extend hospice services if a patient lives longer than six months.

Getting a referral to hospice

Anyone can refer a patient to hospice, including family, friend, clergy, or doctor. The referral process can begin with a discussion with the patient’s physician who can then make the referral. Or it can begin with a call to a local hospice, and the hospice staff will contact the physician to see if hospice is appropriate.

Most patients are referred by their physician or other health care professional and many hospice services require a physician’s certification that death is likely to occur within six months to begin services. Hospice services are covered by Medicare, Medicaid and most types of insurance. Also, costs for medications and equipment needed due to the terminal condition are covered once hospice becomes involved.

End-of-life decisions can be difficult, but hospice care makes the last months, weeks or days as comfortable as possible, allowing time for loved ones to say goodbye. And hospice support continues for surviving family members including bereavement support groups, visits, and phone calls.

For more information, visit www.nhpco.org , the website for National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization.

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Women in Funeral Service On the Rise

Tue, 01 Mar 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Women in Funeral Service On the Rise

As March is Women’s History Month, we’d like to acknowledge and honor the increasing number of women choosing to work as funeral directors, funeral celebrants, and funeral planners. In what was once a male dominated field, female students are now the majority of those studying the mortuary sciences – from 35 percent in 1995 up to more than 60 percent today.

Coming full circle

But the War Between the States changed all that. Soldiers were often dying far from home and families began to request that the bodies be embalmed in order for their loved ones to be preserved for the long trip home to be viewed and buried. Previously, the custom of embalming was held with suspicion as an unnatural practice, but gained acceptance during the war, especially after President Lincoln’s body was embalmed and and toured on a funeral train in 1865. This shift in funeral practice and public attitudes created the birth of the funeral industry in America which was headed by those educated in the mortuary sciences – and until recently was predominantly men. Many trade journals of the time argued that women did not have the ability to study the sciences; were not physically able to lift the bodies; and were not emotionally stable enough to deal with death.

Funeral Service Has Come a Long Way

Things have improved for women since those days, but it has taken a long time to break down barriers in the funeral professions. It wasn’t until the turn of the millennium that the number of women graduating from U.S. mortuary schools equaled the number of men. While women have even exceeded the number of male students enrolled in mortuary sciences today, the number of women working in the funeral field is still below that of men. Approximately 43 percent of funeral directors in the United States are women today, up from 5 percent only forty years ago.

The same qualities that kept women out of funeral service in the past – empathy, intuition and being in touch with emotions – have now become advantages in a compassion-driven business. Many families feel more comfortable opening up to a female funeral director as well as seeking comfort and nurturing from a woman.

At Keohane Funeral Home, we are proud to have five female funeral directors and three female funeral apprentices on our staff.

If you’d like to make an appointment with one of our knowledgeable funeral directors, male or female, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Free Tax Preparation Help for Seniors from AARP Foundation Tax-Aide

Mon, 15 Feb 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Free Tax Preparation Help for Seniors from AARP Foundation Tax-Aide

AARP Foundation is providing free tax assistance and preparation designed especially for taxpayers fifty years or older with low- to moderate-income through the AARP Foundation Tax-Aide program – the nation’s largest free tax assistance and preparation service, giving special attention to the older population. Taxpayers do not need to be a member of AARP or a retiree to use this service.

AARP Foundation Tax-Aide volunteers are trained and IRS-certified each year to ensure their knowledge of revisions to the U.S. tax code. In 2015, AARP Foundation Tax-Aide’s 35,000 volunteers provided 2.6 million people with free tax help. Taxpayers who used AARP Foundation Tax-Aide received $1.3 billion in income tax refunds and more than $250 million in Earned Income Tax Credits (EITCs). This is a free service – there’s no fee, no sales pitch for other services, and AARP membership is not required.

Offered in conjunction with the IRS, the AARP Foundation Tax-Aide has helped nearly 50 million taxpayers prepare and file their taxes since 1968. Almost four out of five people who turn to AARP Foundation Tax-Aide are 60 or older with low to moderate incomes.

Find a Location Near You

AARP Foundation Tax-Aide has more than 5,000 locations in neighborhood libraries, malls, banks, community centers and senior centers. While there is no appointment necessary at certain locations, some do require an appointment, so please call ahead to find out availability and hours of operation. For a complete listing of locations near you, visit the Tax Aid Site Locator .

For more information, such as a list of important documents to bring with you, visit the AARP Foundation Tax-Aide website or call 1-888-AARPNOW (1-888-227-7669).

South Shore sites offering AARP Foundation Tax-Aide:

Kennedy Center Council On Aging – Appointment Required

440 E Squantum St, Quincy, MA 02171-1505

Call for appointment: (617) 376-1506

2/1/2016 – 4/13/2016

Monday: 9:00 AM – 3:30 PM; Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM

Weymouth Senior Center – Appointment Required

182 Green St, North Weymouth, MA 02191-2054

Call for appointment: (781) 682-6140

2/1/2016 – 4/13/2016

Monday: 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM; Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Hingham Senior Center – Appointment Required

224 Central St, Hingham, MA 02043-2745

Call for appointment: (781) 741-1458

2/3/2016 – 4/13/2016 Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 12:00 PM and 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM;

Friday: 9:00 AM – 12:00 AM and 1:00 PM – 4:00 PM

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Featured FAQ: What is a Funeral Celebrant?

Mon, 01 Feb 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What is a Funeral Celebrant?

A Funeral Celebrant is a trained and certified non-clergy professional who officiates at funerals, helping families without a particular church affiliation, to create a personal and meaningful ceremony. After meeting with family and friends, the Celebrant helps express the life story of the individual who has departed through a unique service that celebrates life.

You Have Choices

“No two services are the same – they are specific to that individual, their personal lives, their individual lives, because the reality is that no two people are the same. Everyone’s life journey is different from somebody else’s journey so therefore the funeral service reflects that – it reflects who that person was,” said Certified Funeral Celebrant Joseph Moya.

Life Stories

A Celebrant is a facilitator who is able to take the time to sit down and listen to the needs of loved ones in order to fully honor the individual who has passed. During the meeting with family and friends, often in the comfort of their own homes, the Celebrant collects stories and memories in order to express the life story of the individual who has departed. The Celebrant then designs and conducts personalized funeral services that celebrate the life of the loved one through a unique tribute. Many personalized elements can be included, such as personal stories; favorite music; video tributes; photos or memory boards; poems and readings; as well as prayers and rituals.

“There are two purposes to a Life Celebration; one is to celebrate the person who died but the other is to help loved ones as they begin the process of grief. What is most helpful for so many people is to take the time to tell the stories of the person’s life; not so much listing the accomplishments of the person – those will be weaved into it – but it’s mostly about the lasting effect this person had on the people who loved him or her; what will live on in memory,” said Mary Gallagher, Certified Funeral Celebrant.

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Bowie and Frey: Two Titans of Rock Who Left Their Marks on Many

Sun, 31 Jan 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Bowie and Frey: Two Titans of Rock Who Left Their Marks on Many

The beginning of the New Year saw the loss of two of rock and roll’s most influential and enduring artists. On January 10, David Bowie passed away at 69 after a battle with cancer and on January 18, Glenn Frey, lead guitarist of the Eagles, died at 67 of complications from various illnesses. Both those closest to the rock stars as well as their legions of fans left many moving tributes to the men, their contributions, and their lasting effect on those who knew and loved them.

Whether it was through bouquets of flowers left near their homes or posts on social media, the outpouring of grief and support was tremendous. Sharing these special memories and tributes – whether the person who died was world famous or not – is important in celebrating the life of the individuals and providing comfort to family, friends and fans.

David Bowie

Bowie’s accomplishments were abundant and varied, including ten Grammy nominations with a Grammy win in 1985 and a Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award in 2006; a Golden Globe Award in 1983 for Best Original Song in a Motion Picture; a GQ award in 2000 for Most Stylish Man of the Year, and many, many more. Bowie made contributions to music, film, live theater and fashion. His parting gift to fans was a video titled “Lazarus” that was released just days before his death in which he seemed to foreshadow his own demise.

Glenn Frey

Frey was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 1998 as a member of the Eagles and won six Grammy Awards, including record of the year for Hotel California, which hit No. 1 in 1977. Frey co-wrote and sang on most of the Eagles hits before the group disbanded in 1980. Frey then made his mark as a solo artist and many of his best-known songs were written for movies and television. Frey reunited with the Eagles in 1994 and was making music until the end. The band finished the final leg of their two-year History of the Eagles tour just last summer.

Moving Tributes

In the wake of their deaths, the loved ones and fans of Bowie and Frey left many moving tributes that were broadcast to the world through social media, websites and other online venues. Bowie’s wife, the former fashion model Iman, left uplifting posts on Twitter and Frey’s bandmate Don Henley released a moving message about their relationship posted on the Billboard website. Many other music industry notables and entertainment stars Tweeted their condolences and loss as well.

Tributes to Bowie

A sold-out tribute concert to Bowie at Carnegie Hall on March 31, announced just hours before his death, has now become a memorial concert. The concert’s website posted the following message: “The unexpected death of David Bowie has made this tribute to him into a memorial concert. While the series has had the surprise appearances and performances of the honoree several times in the past, this one will certainly become a poignant honor of his music by his friends, peers, and fans. We are all deeply saddened at this news, the timing of our public on-sale date is bizarre in its timing, and the show is taking on many more emotions. RIP David and may gods love be with you…”

Many of Bowie’s famous family, friends and devoted fans took to social media to share their grief over the loss of one of entertainment’s most iconic figures. Bowie’s wife, model Iman, shared an inspirational Tweet the day before he died that read: “Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” The day following his death, Bowie’s son, Duncan Jones posted a grainy black and white photo from his childhood showing an infant Jones atop Bowie’s shoulders.

At the news of Bowie’s death, Ricky Gervais, who had just completed hosting the Golden Globes, shared his grief just hours after the show with a tweet that read: “I just lost a hero. RIP David Bowie.” News of Bowie’s death quickly spread, and the DJ at Fox’s official Golden Globes after-party made an homage to the artist by playing Bowie’s “Fame.”

In his grief, Kanye West tweeted: “David Bowie was one of my most important inspirations, so fearless, so creative, he gave us magic for a lifetime.”

Praises for Frey

A large memorial party in Los Angeles in being planned to honor the musician , according to Frey’s long-time agent, Irving Azoff, as reported on AOL’s The Wrap .

Azoff told The Wrap, “I wouldn’t have been the success that I’ve been without Glenn Frey teaching me, leading me and supporting me for over 40 years … He was a passionate family man, a great father, a great humanitarian, and he’s gone way too soon.”

Henley, Frey’s former bandmate and close friend, released a moving statement that read: “He was like a brother to me; we were family , and like most families, there was some dysfunction. But, the bond we forged 45 years ago was never broken, even during the 14 years that the Eagles were dissolved. We were two young men who made the pilgrimage to Los Angeles with the same dream: to make our mark in the music industry — and with perseverance, a deep love of music, our alliance with other great musicians and our manager, Irving Azoff, we built something that has lasted longer than anyone could have dreamed. But, Glenn was the one who started it all. He was the spark plug, the man with the plan. He had an encyclopedic knowledge of popular music and a work ethic that wouldn’t quit. He was funny, bullheaded, mercurial, generous, deeply talented and driven. He loved is wife and kids more than anything. We are all in a state of shock, disbelief and profound sorrow. We brought our two-year ‘History of the Eagles Tour’ to a triumphant close at the end of July and now he is gone. I’m not sure I believe in fate, but I know that crossing paths with Glenn Lewis Frey in 1970 changed my life forever, and it eventually had an impact on the lives of millions of other people all over the planet. It will be very strange going forward in a world without him in it. But, I will be grateful, every day, that he was in my life. Rest in peace, my brother. You did what you set out to do, and then some.”

Online Memorials and Tributes

Online outlets provide modern platforms for posting condolences, memories and photos. Along with social media, such as Twitter and Facebook, today’s funeral homes offer online guest books where friends and family can leave messages of condolence and even upload photographs, whether or not they are able to attend funeral or memorial services.

While fame may visit a few, the end of life is a reality for all. The importance of memorials and tributes is as powerful for the everyday person as it is for a rock star. Personalized memorials and funeral services are healing for all those left behind who feel comforted when their loved ones and heroes of all shapes and sizes are truly remembered and celebrated.

Bowie photo credit: [email protected]

Frey photo credit: Steve Alexander

Featured FAQ: Why is a Viewing Important

Sun, 10 Jan 2016 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Why is a Viewing Important

One of the most important purposes of a funeral is to provide the opportunity to say a final farewell to a loved one in a safe and supportive setting. Having the chance to view the deceased before burial or cremation provides that opportunity to say goodbye and can play an important role in helping loved ones accept the reality of loss in order to transform grief into healing.

A viewing is especially important to the grieving process if the loved one faced difficulties at the end of life, such as battling a prolonged illness or enduring through pain. Seeing the body in a state of peacefulness brings comfort to family and friends with the knowledge that their loved one now rests in peace. It is also important in the instance of a sudden death or accident in order to give loved ones the opportunity to say goodbye.

When is a viewing appropriate?

The decision as to whether a viewing is suitable is a highly personal one, but your funeral director is always available for guidance. If you are unsure about the emotional affect of a viewing or if you are otherwise uncomfortable about it for any reason, don’t hesitate to ask your funeral director whether a viewing would be possible or helpful in the given cirucumstances. There may be ways to accommodate the need for personal goodbyes and still achieve an outcome that will be healing, personal, and helpful for those in attendance.

There are certainly circumstances when a public viewing with an open casket is not suitable, but it may still be appropriate for immediate family, especially if they have witnessed their loved one suffer at the end of life. If the loved one had been ill for a long time or was severely damaged in an accident, family may opt for a closed casket at the funeral. However, an open casket viewing for immediate family only before the funeral services provides the opportunity for family members to say goodbye; see their loved one bathed, dressed and at peace; and make it easier to accept that the death has actually occurred. A lovely option would be to place a photograph next to the closed casket to provide a memory of the way in which the loved one would want to be remembered.

There is no right or wrong way to conduct a funeral. A funeral that offers a true opportunity to honor, remember and bid farewell helps us heal. Decisions about a viewing can be discussed between the family and the funeral director to make the best choice for each individual.

If you have any additional questions about the importance of a viewing or would like to make an appointment to meet with one of our experienced funeral directors, please contact us at any of our locations or call our main office at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263).

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Fascinating Funeral Customs from Around the World

Thu, 31 Dec 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Fascinating Funeral Customs from Around the World

Every society has created and practiced their own form of remembrance and care of the dead. Different cultures around the world commemorate death with their own distinctive traditions, whether marked by elaborate celebrations, simple rituals or funeral rites lasting many days or even years. While practices vary from culture to culture, there are commonalities across traditions to memorializing the dead, marking their journey on this Earth, and laying them to rest.

Ceremonies

Burial

Every culture deals with final dispostion of the dead in a variety of ways. A popular choice is interment or burial, whether in the ground, in a tomb or in a mausoleum. Several world cultures, including many Buddhist and Hindu societies, prefer cremation. Each culture has its own traditions surrounding these various methods.

There are as many different ways of burying the deceased and memorializing the dead as there are cultures around the globe. Reverence for the dead and proper funeral rites have been part of human culture since Neanderthal times and have developed many fascinating variations through the ages.

For more information and additional funeral traditions from around the world, visit these knowledgeable websites:

frazerconsultants.com

bustle.com

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Featured FAQ: How do I cope with grief during the holidays?

Sun, 13 Dec 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: How do I cope with grief during the holidays?

If you have recently lost someone, you may be anxious about facing the holidays without your loved one, especially for the first time. Even if it has been many years since your loved one has passed, you may still experience some anxiety over the holidays.

With the pervasiveness of the holiday season in our culture – from songs on the radio to holiday sales and mall decorations – it is almost impossible to ignore the holiday season. So what can you do to cope?

Do what is comfortable for you

With all the hustle and bustle of the holidays, you may not be able to accomplish as much as you have in the past, so consider what you can comfortably handle. There are many expectations at this time of year, from sending out holiday cards, to buying gifts, and being merry at parties and family gatherings.

Most importantly, make a plan about how you want to spend the holidays. Share your plan with family and friends, so they can help you and support you. Be gentle with yourself and lower expectations about what you can and can’t accomplish. While it may be difficult to be social, it’s important not to isolate yourself from others. Find a balance of alone time and being with family and friends.

Protect yourself as best as you can by finding ways to put some distance between yourself and all the commotion. You can buy gifts online rather than go to the malls. Give yourself permission to say “no” when you feel overwhelmed. Perhaps make plans to leave early from a holiday gathering. Remember, this might not be the way you celebrate the holidays forever, but it is what you need to do for the time being, regardless of what other’s think is best.

Remember your loved one

It’s important to acknowledge your loved one as he or she will be on everyone’s minds as well. It’s helpful to speak openly about the person you’ve lost because it allows others the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings, too.

Everyone grieves in his or her own way, so you must fine the way that works best for you. Here are some suggestions that might help bring your loved one into the holidays in a gentle and meaningful way:

• Make gifts from that person’s clothing such as quilts, pillows or stuffed animals. A stuffed bear made from grandpa’s shirt gives a grandchild a way of holding onto the love.

• Create a consecrated space in your home with photos, candles and other mementos.

• Put a bowl and slips of paper by the person’s photo for loved ones to write down why they are grateful to have had that person in their lives.

• Give gifts in memory of your loved one by making donations to causes important to him or her.

• Create a memory tree by making special ornaments. You can write notes about special memories of that person and tie them on the tree or even stuff them into a stocking.

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Featured FAQ: What is a Green Funeral

Mon, 30 Nov 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What is a Green Funeral

A green funeral involves conducting final arrangements and burial of the deceased in ways that cause minimal environmental impact as well as restore and conserve the environment.

Going Out Green

A green funeral and burial furthers both environmental and public purposes including, reducing carbon emissions, conserving natural resources, protecting worker health and preserving habitat.

However, choosing to go green does not exclude any of the traditional funeral services, including private or public viewings, graveside burials or even cremation. At Keohane, we offer the full range of funeral services while honoring the choices of our families who choose to be environmentaly-friendly.

“We are privileged to work with families who wish to sustain the environment while honoring their loved one with all the funeral services necessary to put their loved one to rest with dignity and honor and deliver closure for the entire family,” said Co-president Dennis Keohane.

The Green Burial Council proposes “Four Ways to Ensure an Eco-Friendly Burial” :

Green Certified

The Green Burial Council developed the world’s first set of sustainability standards and the first eco-certification program for funeral homes, burial grounds and burial products, and it has set the standard for green burial in North America.

Keohane Funeral Home is proud to be one of two GBC’s Green-leaf certified funeral homes in Massachusetts. Certification by the Green Burial Council verifies that the green or natural burial services being provided have been thoroughly vetted against stringent standards created by a team of environmentalists, scientists, lawyers, and representatives from the funeral industry.

For more information, the council maintains a list of all GBC certified funeral providers, cemeteries, and disposition products on their website.

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Giving Thanks at this Season

Mon, 16 Nov 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Giving Thanks at this Season

Gratitude, the feeling of appreciation and thankfulness for benefits we have received, is a powerful thing – it lifts us up and reminds us of all the blessings in our lives.

We Give Thanks

“We are grateful for all the families that put their trust in us during some of the most difficult times of their lives,” said Co-president John Keohane. “We are grateful for the caring and supportive staff at Keohane that helps our families put their loved ones to rest with dignity and helps them to celebrate their loved ones’ lives. And we are grateful to our own families who support us throughout rewarding careers that often puts others needs before their own.”

The Benefits of Gratitude

According to Psychology Today , gratitude has multiple benefits:

Gratitude is an emotion expressing appreciation for what one has—as opposed to, for example, a consumer -driven emphasis on what one wants. Gratitude is getting a great deal of attention as a facet of positive psychology : Studies show that we can deliberately cultivate gratitude, and can increase our well-being and happiness by doing so. In addition, gratefulness—and especially expression of it to others—is associated with increased energy, optimism , and empathy .

Dr. Robert Emmons, author of Thanks! How Practicing Gratitude Can Make You Happier proposes that there are three stages to gratitude: recognizing what we’re grateful for, acknowledging it, and appreciating it. Based on his research, Dr. Emmons says the benefits of practicing gratitude can strengthen relationships, improve health, reduce stress, and make us happier overall.

The Practice of Gratitude

Even when life is not going our way or we have experienced a loss, focusing on the things that we are grateful for can shift our attitude in a more positive direction. Gratitude for even the smallest things can make a difference – from admiring a beautiful sunset to noting a neighbor’s smile. Of course, being thankful for the important aspects of life such as good health and connections with friends and family is powerful as well.

Sometimes it can be hard to be grateful when we are stuck in a difficult place. Cultivating gratitude takes practice, just like any other skill. The digital app, Unstuck , gives some practical advice on cultivating gratitude:

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Coping with the Anniversary of a Loved One’s Death

Sat, 31 Oct 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Coping with the Anniversary of a Loved One’s Death

Grief is a journey that may lead us back again and again to feelings of loss, especially during special milestones, such as the anniversary of a loved one’s death. These feelings, often referred to as an anniversary reaction, may seem like a setback but are a normal part of the grieving process.

But knowing what to expect and putting coping strategies in place can help you through the feelings of loss and get you back on the path to healing.

What to expect

Knowing that you’re likely to experience feelings of loss during an anniversary of a death can help you understand your feelings and not become overwhelmed by them:

Ways to cope with reminders of loss

Here are some tips to cope with grief reawakened by the anniversary of the death of a loved one:

The loss of someone significant never totally leaves you. It may resurface again and again during key periods, even many years after the loss. But each time you face those feelings of loss, it will be on new terms, and most likely those feelings won’t last as long or be as difficult.

Have Coffee with a Cop in Weymouth

Wed, 07 Oct 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Have Coffee with a Cop in Weymouth

As part of the Weymouth Police Department Community Outreach Initiative, Weymouth residents, community groups and business owners are invited to have Coffee with a Cop.

“Some people don’t like to talk in groups, so this gives them an avenue for open communication between police and the citizens of Weymouth.” said Sgt. James St. Croix who was appointed to head the Community Outreach unit this summer. “It’s all about building bridges with the public and the police.”

St. Croix has had one or two meetings a week with Weymouth residents since the program began in August. He and other officers of the Community Outreach unit have met with individuals, couples and community associations in local coffee shops like Dawn Til Dusk. The most common question from the public is about the opiate addiction problem and what police are doing about it.

“People don’t know all the efforts being made by the police department in the background,” said St. Croix.

The Coffee with a Cop program gives officers the opportunity to talk about all the programs that the police department offers, such as DART (Drug Addiction Resource Team) which helps drug addicts get into detox programs and FAST (Family Addiction Support Team) which provides addicts and families with information on available programs and resources.

To Have Coffee with a Cop

Weymouth citizens can sign up to have coffee in their neighborhood with St. Croix and other officers. Applications can be submitted via mail, email or dropped off at the police station at 140 Winter Street in Weymouth. St. Croix said that he does his best to get back to applicants in a timely manner.

The application form is available at http://www.weymouth.ma.us/home/news/coffee-with-a-cop or call St. Croix at 781-927-6287.

Annual Coat Drive: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth This Winter

Wed, 30 Sep 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Annual Coat Drive: Gently Used Coats Needed to Provide Warmth This Winter

We are honored to continue our tradition of spreading warmth throughout our community with our fourth annual coat drive now through the end of November.

We will have all the coats professionally cleaned after which they will be distributed to those in need through the Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull, Interfaith Social Services in Quincy, and Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth.

Many of us have gently worn coats in our closets that can be better utilized by those less fortunate than ourselves. It’s a great opportunity to clean out your closet and help others in need at the same time!

The effort began in 2012 when we exceeded our initial goal of collecting 250 coats for our first Coat Drive. Due to the incredible success of the event, we established an annual drive. “Hopefully we won’t have nearly the severe winter we had last year,” said Co-President John Keohane . “But whatever the weather, we are confident that the recipients of these donated coats and jackets will be thankful for the warmth of a coat when it is needed the most.”

Please bring your donations to these Keohane locations:

Keohane Funeral Home at 785 Hancock Street in Quincy

McDonald Keohane Funeral Home at 809 Main Street in South Weymouth

Pyne Keohane Funeral Home at 21 Emerald Street in Hingham

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Featured FAQ: Should Children Attend Funerals?

Thu, 10 Sep 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Should Children Attend Funerals?

A funeral is an important lifecycle event for the entire family, and children should be included to the extent to which they are able in order to help them through the grieving process. The decision to allow a child to attend a funeral depends on the age and temperament of the child as well as the traditions and values of the families involved.

Important things to consider

According to The Dougy Center , the National Center for Grieving Children & Families, one of the most important things parents and caregivers can do for children is to give them choices. Your funeral director can help your family find ways to make sure children are not left out and work with the family to make appropriate arrangements, such as a separate visitation time for the children.

For further information, The Dougy Center offers a book for parents called What About The Kids: Understanding Their Needs in Funeral Planning and Services . To order a copy of the book, visit the center’s online bookstore or contact The Dougy Center at 503-775-5683.

Quincy Police Department Provides New Online Resources

Mon, 17 Aug 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Quincy Police Department Provides New Online Resources

In an effort to increase the department’s accessibility and communication, Quincy Police have updated their website and released a smartphone application.

The new Quincy Police Department website, quincypolice.org , went live a few months ago and provides important updates and crime reports; answers frequently asked questions; has links to online forms; and posts a phone list to contact the police department. Most importantly, it provides opportunities to leave anonymous tips about drug related activity or any other type of crime through online forms, email, and a hot line.

If you have a drug or crime tip for the Quincy Police Department, you can call the hotline at 617-328-4527 or use the online form . You can also send an email to [email protected] or [email protected] .

“ That’s more or less personalized police service. That’s what the people want and anything to make it easier to for them to give us information helps us because we run on information, and if we don’t have any things are a lot slower,” said Glynn.

Quincy Police Smartphone App

Quincy Police have also released a smartphone application that connects users directly to the Police Department from their iPhone, iPad or Android smartphone.

“Basically it’s a mini website. People are able to access complaints; actually give a police officer a commendation or a complaint; be able to file any paperwork online or get forms, such as accident forms and so forth,” said Glynn. “It’s very user-friendly.”

The MyPD app includes features for checking on the latest department news, including Twitter updates and Facebook posts. It can also be used for sharing feedback and questions, sending crime tips, finding directions to the department, and commending a police officer. Users can also choose to get alerts directly to their device.

The application can be found in the iPhone App Store or Android Market by searching for “MyPD” or “My Police Department” or by clicking on the link: http://mypdapp.com/

To stay connected, follow the Quincy Police Department on Twitter @quincymapolice or on Facebook .

Become a Harvest Helper!

Mon, 03 Aug 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Become a Harvest Helper!

The Harvest Helpers program is looking for backyard gardeners to donate fresh produce from their gardens to help feed the hungry in their own back yard. Anyone can become a Harvest Helper!

The gardens at our Quincy and South Weymouth locations are growing quickly. The tomatoes are starting to redden, and so far we have been delivering peppers to both Interfaith’s food pantry and the Weymouth Food Pantry. We expect to harvest bushels of assorted vegetables as the growing season progresses to be donated to the clients at our local food pantries.

“Harvest Helpers is a great way to give back to the community in a unique, meaningful and natural way. When we visit the food pantries with donations, we see how much of a difference the program makes,” said Joseph Reardon, Vice President for Community Development and Advance Planning at Keohane. “I never thought such a simple idea could have such an impact.”

Donations are growing

Whether harvested from their own gardens, grown by their own clients or donated by community gardeners, fresh produce is beginning to be distributed to the families at Interfaith Social Services in Quincy and the Weymouth Food Pantry in Weymouth.

Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services Rick Doane said the garden at Interfaith is doing well and that they have already harvested green beans and given them out to clients. They have an abundance of tomatoes, cucumbers and green peppers still growing. Doane estimates that the tomatoes will be ready to go out to clients within the next week or so.

The Weymouth Food Pantry has been changing locations this summer and does not have a garden of its own. Director Cas Casados said that most of the vegetable seedlings donated by Keohane were taken home by their clients who chose to grow their own food in pots and yards. “Tomatoes were a favorite for our families,” said Casados.

You Can Help

Even if you didn’t join in on the Harvest Helpers program from the beginning but have surplus produce from your backyard that you’d like to donate, there are families in your community who need it. “We love giving out fresh vegetables to our clients and they love getting them,” said Doane.

Donations of fresh produce for the Weymouth Food Pantry are accepted at the Monsignor Hackett Center gymnasium, which is located on the Immaculate Conception Parish campus at 1189 Commercial Street in East Weymouth, between 8:30am and 11:30am Tuesday and Thursday mornings.

Donations from your garden for Interfaith Social Services can be dropped off at their food pantry at 105 Adams Street in Quincy.

Interfaith is still looking for volunteers to help them harvest their bounty. “It is the worst thing when vegetables go bad on the vine!” said Doane.

Food Pantry Fundraiser

Thank you to everyone who “liked” our Facebook page during the month of July. Keohane was thrilled to be able to donate $150 to Interfaith Social Services from our summer Facebook fundraising campaign to benefit our local food pantries. The campaign continues until the end of the month: for every new “like” on our Facebook page during the month of August, Keohane Funeral Home will donate $1 to the Weymouth food pantry.

So please visit our Facebook page this month and “like” us to help support our local food pantries!

Pyne Keohane Sponsors 2015 Hull Harbor Illumination Festival July 25

Thu, 16 Jul 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Pyne Keohane Sponsors 2015 Hull Harbor Illumination Festival July 25

Join us and the Hull Lifesaving Museum in the moving tradition of celebrating life and remembering loved ones during the Harbor Illumination Festival when hundreds of flares will illuminate the shoreline of Hull bay transforming it into a necklace of light.

Remember, celebrate and honor

Pyne Keohane Funeral Home, a sponsor of Harbor Illumination, will be remembering all of those we have cared for during the past year at this event. In addition, if you wish to personally honor any of your loved ones, you may purchase a flare at Hull Livesaving Museum or email [email protected] for more information. You can even volunteer to light the flares! Proceeds from the event benefit the Point Allerton Station Preservation Fund.

Music festival, boat parade and after party

Prior to the illumination, this year’s annual festival will include a pre-party with live music and food vendors at L-Street Field at 6 PM followed by a parade of boats at 8 PM. The Illumination takes place at 8:30 PM with an after-party at Sea Dog Brew Pub until midnight.

The Music Festival features three bands and several solo artists who will perform between 6 and 8 PM. There will also be food booths and games for kids, families and adults.

Following the music festival, the Boat Parade of Lights will take place in Hull bay with a prize for best-illuminated craft. The Illuminated Boat Parade, presented with the support of Pyne Keohane, will feature the Boston Fire Boat and Boston Pilot Boat along with 20 other illuminated vessels.

Thank you for the trust you have placed in us. We hope that this opportunity will serve as a way to honor your memories and your trust. We look forward to seeing you on July 25.

Photo Credit: Brian Tague

Summer Safety Tips

Tue, 14 Jul 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Summer Safety Tips

After the worst winter on record, warm weather and long, summer days are finally here. Keep your summer both fun and safe with these seasonal safety tips:

Safe summer swimming

Keep cool in hot, humid weather

Rising temperatures and high humidity during the summer months can pose a threat to health and safety, especially for senior citizens, small children and pets. Keep these suggestions in mind when the thermometer rises:

Outdoor grilling

Summer is the perfect time for outdoor garden parties and backyard BBQ’s. But cooking on a grill poses certain dangers. Please follow these tips for grilling safely:

By following these simple but important safety procedures, you can enjoy the summer and keep your family safe, too!

Harvest Helpers Program is Growing

Tue, 30 Jun 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Harvest Helpers Program is Growing

The Harvest Helpers program for 2015 is now in full swing, opening with Keohane’s donation of free vegetable seedlings in May and then gardens dedicated to growing food for the hungry planted in early June at our Quincy and South Weymouth locations.

We’ve already had more people participate this year than ever before, and we hope to receive even more donations as the summer progresses. So think about the Harvest Helpers program when you get that bumper crop of cucumbers or run out of canning supplies for all your tomatoes! If you can’t grow produce then buy some extra veggies from the supermarket to help the food pantry clients eat fresh, healthy foods this summer.

Seedling Program

We were delighted to donate hundreds of seedlings from Artery Garden Center to the Harvest Helpers program during the last week of May. Free vegetable seedlings were available to backyard gardeners and food pantry clients at Keohane Funeral Home in Quincy and the McDonald Keohane Funeral Home in Weymouth, as well as at Interfaith Social Services’ food pantry in Quincy and the Weymouth Food Pantry in Weymouth.

Both the Interfaith food pantry and the Weymouth Food Pantry reported more participants in the seedling program than in years past, including backyard gardeners with young children and clients of the food pantries who wanted to grow their own food.

“It’s great to see parents using this not only as an opportunity to teach their kids where food comes from but how to give back to the community as well,” said Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith Social Services.

Harvest Helpers Gardens

Through the efforts of our Facilities Manager Scott Whittemore, we have planted Harvest Helpers gardens at our locations in Quincy and Weymouth. And with the help of volunteers from Arbella Insurance , Interfaith Social Services has a Harvest Helpers garden growing right next to their office at 105 Adams Street in Quincy. Volunteers from the Weymouth Food Pantry also help to tend a community garden at Glastonbury Abbey for the Harvest Helpers program.

All of the produce from our gardens, including beans, tomatoes, lettuce, peppers, zucchini, cucumbers and squash, will be donated to the food pantries to help provide nutritious, fresh and tasty produce to those in need.

Food Pantry Fundraiser

We are delighted to sponsor a Facebook fundraising campaign to benefit the local food pantries: For every new “like” on our Facebook page , Keohane Funeral Home will donate $1 to Interfaith’s Food Pantry for the month of July and to the Weymouth food pantry for the month of August.

So please visit our Facebook page and “like” us today!

Inspired Ideas to Personalize a Funeral Service

Thu, 11 Jun 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Inspired Ideas to Personalize a Funeral Service

Funeral services give us the opportunity to celebrate the uniqueness of each individual and honor the character and values of the deceased’s family through thoughtful and personalized touches. The more personal the funeral service, the more meaningful to friends and family who want to know that the life their loved one lived has truly been commemorated.

Ways to Personalize a Funeral Service

Try some of these innovative ideas to honor your loved one’s unique qualities, traits and interests and make the funeral service as personal and unique as the deceased:

Today’s Technology

Modern technology offers many significant and creative ways to incorporate personalized tributes into today’s funeral services:

We are happy to assist you in creating a personalized tribute of your loved one that brings closure and meaning to friends and family. Our staff will help you plan a personal and significant memorial that celebrates your loved one’s life and honors the values of the family left behind.

Call us at 1-800-Keohane (800-536-4263) to discuss planning a personalized funeral service.

Featured FAQ: Should I Pre-Plan Funeral Arrangements?

Mon, 01 Jun 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Should I Pre-Plan Funeral Arrangements?

We encourage advance planning for funeral arrangements as a loving way of reducing stress for grief-stricken loved ones; making sure that end-of-life decisions will be respected; and alleviating financial concerns.

What are the benefits of pre-planning?

There are both financial and emotional benefits for pre-arranging funerals. Pre-planning alleviates concerns about leaving behind grieving loved ones who will not know what you or a loved one would have wanted , and it can relieve financial concerns as well.

While pre-payment is never required, many people find it helpful to get an idea of costs in advance. You can choose to pre-pay the funeral home in which the funds are held in trust.

Pre-paying can be helpful for several reasons – it eliminates the stress of coming up with the funds during a difficult time; it eliminates overspending by keeping your family from purchasing unnecessary additions; it can lock in prices for merchandise or services that will most likely be more expensive in the future; it can set aside funds when qualifying for Medicaid; and it can help provide a sense of control over an inevitable cost.

What happens during the pre-planning conference?

During the pre-planning conference, you will meet with the funeral director who will record your preferences, wishes and desires, and note the information that will be required at the time of death so that family members will not have to worry about those details during a very difficult time. You will also have the opportunity to discuss how to create a personalized memorial that will hold special meaning for those in attendance.

The funeral director can also assist the family in considering payment options by providing a cost estimate for the services the family is considering. While prepayment is never required, knowing what the costs will be can help you plan accordingly. If pre-paying is the right option for you, the funeral director can often help you consider the benefits of payment plans, which are usually not available after a death has occurred.

In addition, many people wish to pre-pay as pre-paid funeral contracts are not considered a countable asset when applying for Medicaid. Another reason people pre-pay is to take advantage of price-guarantees that can prevent inflation over time. Whatever your particular situation may be, pre-planning will help you gain a sense of control over an inevitable cost.

If you have any additional questions about pre-planning or would like to make an appointment to meet with one of our experienced funeral directors, please call Joseph Reardon at 617-773-3551 or email at [email protected] .

Featured FAQ: Do I Qualify for Veterans’ Burial Allowance

Mon, 18 May 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Do I Qualify for Veterans’ Burial Allowance

After the death of a loved one, families of veterans often want to know if they qualify for financial aid to ease the burden of burial expenses. While there are burial allowances available from the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs for dependents and survivors of eligible veterans, several eligibility requirements apply.

What are VA burial allowances?

What are the eligibility requirements?

First of all, eligible veterans must have been honorably discharged. In addition, at least one of the following conditions must be met:

• the veteran died as a result of a service-connected disability, OR

• the veteran was receiving VA pension or compensation at the time of death, OR

• the veteran was entitled to receive VA pension or compensation, but decided instead to receive his or her full military retirement or disability pay, OR

• the veteran died while hospitalized by VA, or while receiving care under VA contract at a non-VA facility, OR

• the veteran died while traveling under proper authorization and at VA expense to or from a specified place for the purpose of examination, treatment or care, OR

• the veteran had an original or reopened claim for VA compensation or pension pending at the time of death and would have been entitled to benefits from a date prior to the date of death, OR

• the veteran died on or after October 9, 1996, while a patient at a VA–approved state nursing home.

How much does the VA pay for burial allowances?

For a service-connected death : if the veteran died on or after September 11, 2001, the maximum service-connected burial allowance is $2,000; if the veteran died before September 11, 2001, the maximum service-connected burial allowance is $1,500. If the veteran is buried in a VA national cemetery, VA may reimburse some or all of the cost of transporting the deceased veteran’s remains.

For a non-service-connected death : if the veteran died on or after October 1, 2014, VA will pay a $300 burial allowance and $745 for a plot; if the veteran died on or after October 1, 2013, but before October 1, 2014, VA will pay a $300 burial allowance and $734 for a plot; if the veteran died on or after October 1, 2012, but before October 1, 2013, VA will pay a $300 burial allowance and $722 for a plot.

In addition, there are higher non-service-connected death rates payable if the veteran was hospitalized by VA when he or she died. If the veteran died on or after October 1, 2014, VA will pay a $745 burial allowance and $745 for a plot; if such a veteran died on or after October 1, 2013, but before October 1, 2013, VA will pay a $734 burial allowance and $734 for a plot; if the veteran died on or after October 1, 2012, but before October 1, 2013, VA will pay a $722 burial allowance and $722 for a plot.

Also, if the death occurred while the veteran was properly hospitalized by VA, or under VA contracted nursing home care, some or all of the costs for transporting the veteran’s remains may be reimbursed.

How do I apply?

We will be pleased to help you determine what benefits you may be eligible for. Please contact us at 1-800-Keohane or check here for additional information.

Pop-Up Food Pantries Upcoming Throughout Weymouth

Fri, 08 May 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Pop-Up Food Pantries Upcoming Throughout Weymouth

The Weymouth Food Pantry will soon be popping up all over town. The building that has housed the current location for the past 28 years will soon be sold, and there was not one space available to fit all their needs. The solution? Pop-up pantries at locations in every village in Weymouth.

After looking into several locations, the Weymouth Food Pantry was not able to find one place to fit all their needs. So, they decided to think outside the box and consider other possibilities. They traveled throughout the state to observe how other food pantries in Massachusetts operate and to gather both inspiration and information to help them derive a creative solution to fulfill their mission to end hunger in Weymouth.

After mulling over the possibilities, the Food Pantry’s Board of Directors decided to adopt a new operational design by distributing food directly within every village in Weymouth. This new designs allows the pantry to fit into a smaller and less expensive space, but more importantly, enables the pantry to service twice the number of people as before.

The New Location & Pop-Up Pantries

The new distribution design includes storing all the food in a warehouse and distributing food at various distribution points throughout town called “pop-up pantries.” Many of the panty’s clients have limited or no access to transportation and having a single location limits the amount of people who are able to access the food pantry when they need it.

Pop-up pantries will not only be in every village, but they will span a range of service times from mornings, afternoons, and evenings to weekends. Unlike the current service times which occur mostly in the mornings, the new schedule will provide working families with a wider range of access to emergency food at some point in their week.

Harvest Helpers Program

The Weymouth Food Pantry is an enthusiastic partner in the Harvest Helpers Program, co-established by Keohane and Interfaith Services. The Harvest Helpers program asks backyard gardeners to plant an extra row of produce in their garden and donate the bounty to Interfaith Social Services’ Pantry Shelf or the Weymouth Food Pantry.

Get all the details about the new locations on the food pantry website .

Seniors Connect to Social Media More Than Ever

Fri, 10 Apr 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Seniors Connect to Social Media More Than Ever

Social media networking sites are not just for the young but also for the young at heart. Staying connected with loved ones, especially if they live far away, is the number one reason seniors have adopted the use of social media, especially Facebook.

Benefits of Social Media Networking for Seniors

Older Americans use social media to see pictures of their grandchildren; look up old friends; find classmates and fellow veterans; and connect with people who enjoy similar hobbies and interests. There are even a growing number of seniors looking to find companionship on internet dating websites catering to their age group.

On the Senior Care Center website, Barry Birkett lists five major benefits to seniors for using social media, including:

If you are on social media, we’d love to keep in touch. Be sure to “Like” our Facebook page, Keohane Funeral Home to hear about our latest updates, tips and posts. You can also subscribe to our RSS feed by clicking on the button above.

Leonard Nimoy Leaves the Legacy to “Live Long and Prosper”

Thu, 12 Mar 2015 04:00:00 GMT

Leonard Nimoy Leaves the Legacy to “Live Long and Prosper”

Leonard Nimoy, an actor who was most well-known for playing Mr. Spock, the half-Vulcan and highly logical crew member in the Star Trek franchise, taught the world what it meant to be human by playing an alien. He left the world an iconic character that struggled with the foibles of humanity, including friendship, the quest for knowledge, war and conflict and the desire to rise above.

Social Impact

Nimoy considered his work not just a job, but an opportunity to have an impact on society. In a 2009 interview with The Associated Press, Nimoy said, “I’ve fulfilled that dream, including ‘Star Trek,’ for that matter. If that’s part of the legacy, then I’m very pleased with that. I would hope the work I chose to do had some reason for being done other than just simply being a job.”

Nimoy’s fans would agree that he met his goal. Scientist77 left this comment on the Fox News website: May God bless Leonard, he made our lives better. Thank you Mr. Spock, we will really miss you.

Another fan commented on the same website: He “Lived long” and We “Prospered”

Active on social media, Nimoy’s final twitter on Feb. 23 was both prescient and poignant: A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory. LLAP [abbreviation for “Live Long and Prosper,” Nimoy’ signature line as Mr. Spock’s Vulcan greeting].

Astronaut Terry W. Virts, a NASA astronaut on board the International Space Station, tweeted a photo of the Vulcan hand salute with Boston, Massachusetts, Nimoy’s hometown, seen through the window of the space station. Italian astronaut Samantha Cristoforetti, also aboard the International Space Station, joined the tribute and tweeted, “Live Long and Prosper, Mr. Spock!”

Nimoy drew upon his Jewish heritage in developing the signature Vulcan hand salute. Nimoy based the gesture on the split-fingered hand sign used by rabbis during the priestly blessing. The position of the fingers represents the Hebrew letter “shin” for Shaddai, one of the Hebrew names for God. In an interview for the Wexler Oral History Project at the Yiddish Book Center, located on the edge of the Hampshire College campus in Amherst, Massachusetts, Nimoy said the hand signal took off right away. Within days of the first Star Trek episode to utilize the Vulcan greeting, fans were greeting Nimoy on the street with the hand sign and it continued for the rest of his life and now beyond his life.

Although he had legions of fans due to his portrayal of Mr. Spock, Nimoy was also an accomplished director, stage actor, photographer, musician and writer. Nimoy published numerous collections of his poems, including “A Lifetime of Love: Poems on the Passages of Life” in 2002; two autobiographies; and a book of his photographs devoted to the Jewish idea of the female aspect of God called “Shekhina.”

Early Life

The actor was born in the West End of Boston on March 26, 1931, as Leonard Simon Nimoy, the second son of Yiddish-speaking Jewish immigrants from Iziaslav in the former Soviet Union, now Ukraine. His parents Max and Dora Nimoy left Iziaslav separately and reunited in the United States. Nimoy’s father left first and walked over the border into Poland before leaving Europe for America. Nimoy had an older brother, Melvin. His father, Max, owned a barbershop in Mattapan and his mother Dora was a homemaker.

Nimoy was bitten by the acting bug early in life and performed in local productions from the age of eight. He won several parts at a community college, where he performed through his high school years. In 1949, after taking a summer course at Boston College, he traveled to Hollywood, though it wasn’t until 1951 that he landed small parts in two movies.

Nimoy continued to find bit parts until he landed his first starring movie role in 1952 in “Kid Monk Baroni,” in which he played a disfigured Italian street-gang leader who becomes a boxer.

Nimoy served in the Army for two years, and spent eighteen months at Fort McPherson in Georgia, where he participated in shows for the Army’s Special Services branch. He also directed and starred as Stanley in the Atlanta Theater Guild’s production of “A Streetcar Named Desire” before being discharged in the rank of sergeant November 1955.

Nimoy returned to California, where he worked odd jobs while studying acting at the Pasadena Playhouse. He landed several TV roles in the late 1950s and early 1960s on shows such as “Wagon Train,” “Rawhide” and “Perry Mason.” Then came “Star Trek” and the rest is history.

Coping with the Loss of a Pet

Wed, 25 Feb 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Coping with the Loss of a Pet

The death of a pet can be a devastating loss. More often than not, pets become part of our families and their loss creates a significant impact. Nine out of ten pet owners consider their pet to be a member of their family, according to a 2012 Harris Interactive Poll.

The death of a pet creates similar feelings and emotions as that of the loss of a loved one, including grief, anger, denial, depression and loneliness, but those feelings aren’t always recognized by those around us.

Three types of pet loss grief

Anticipatory grief begins when the Veterinarian gives a terminal diagnosis or when the pet owner begins to consider euthanizing their beloved pet. This is the grief of anticipating the time when the pet will no longer be part of the owner’s life. Disenfranchised grief is felt when friends, family or co-workers dismiss the grief over a pet. They may say, “It’s only a dog” or “You can get another pet.” Pet owners often do not receive the support they need to deal with their grief, leaving them feeling isolated and depressed. Then when their pet is gone, owners are faced with the reality and finality of death and the grief of the actual loss begins.

O’Brien’s guide provides tools such as a relaxation CD and grief journal to help pet owners heal through a three step program. The steps include: rest and relaxation; giving yourself permission to grieve; and adjusting to a new way of life after the loss of a pet.

Resources and tools

If you are experiencing the loss of a pet or any of the three types of grief associated with the loss, there are things you can do and resources to lean on to help support yourself through the grieving process after the death of a pet:

For additional help with pet loss, visit the following organizations, blogs and online resources:

The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement :

Pet Loss Professionals

Talking to Children about Death and Dying

Mon, 16 Feb 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Talking to Children about Death and Dying

As difficult as it may be to talk to a child about the loss of a loved one, children not only deserve the truth, but need to hear the truth in order to maintain a sense of trust with the adults around them. Moreover, children need to hear the truth in language that they can understand and in concrete terms.

Here are some additional tips adapted from the book 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child available from The Dougy Center:

For more information visit The Dougy Center which also provides helpful tip sheets for caregivers.

Additional resources

There are many useful books, websites and tools for adults to help children dealing with grief. Many wonderful books for children are helpful in educating them on the subject of death and dying, such as Always and Forever by Alan Durant and The Next Place by Warren Hanson. For more titles, visit Children’s Book Guide .

The Center for Loss and Life Transition offers several books for children and for adults helping children grieve written by founder Alan Wolfelt who is known across the country for his compassionate messages about healing and grief.

Healing the Bereaved Child: Grief Gardening, Growth Through Grief and Other Touchstones for Caregivers is a parable that compares grief counseling to gardening. Dr. Wolfelt shuns the traditional medical model of bereavement care in which grief is an illness that must be cured. He suggests that caregivers instead embrace a more holistic view of the normal, natural and necessary process that is grief. He then explores the ways in which bereaved children can heal and grow through grief.

How I Feel: A Coloring Book for Grieving Children is Dr. Wolfelt’s coloring book for children ages 3 to 8 that looks at the feelings grieving children can experience. The expressive drawings portray disbelief, fear, anger, loneliness, happiness, sadness, and other common feelings of grief.

For more resources from Dr. Wolfelt that are for and about grieving children, visit the online bookstore .

Grieving in a Digital Age

Tue, 03 Feb 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Grieving in a Digital Age

While nothing can replace the hug of a friend or the presence of family at a funeral service, the digital age offers many non-traditional ways of coping with grief including online guest books for condolences; online obituaries and memorials; online bereavement groups and social media platforms.

Funeral homes offer online services

Following the death of a loved one, your funeral home offers essential services that cannot be replaced digitally, such as meeting with your funeral director to discuss the type of service that is most in accord with your values; providing a place for loved ones to gather for visitation as well as funeral services and burial. But funeral homes also offer digital possibilities that can enhance the traditional funeral services.

Funeral homes today are able to post the deceased’s obituary online, making it easy for loved ones across the country or around the globe to access the information. Online guest books allow those from near and far to leave their condolences. Those online sentiments both console the grieving family and allow guests the opportunity to express their sympathies no matter where they are located at any time day or night.

Online Memorials

The digital age also allows funeral homes to create online memorial pages and tributes. This allows loved ones from all over to virtually come together to share thoughts, memories, pictures and insights about the loved one on a platform that can be accessed twenty-four hours a day. Loved ones can create webpages in memory of the person who has passed away including special memories, biographies, timelines and photographs. Others can then leave messages, post memories or add photographs as well.

Online bereavement support groups

Bereavement groups provide a support system for mourners. Support groups, whether in person or online, provide the opportunity to share your story of loss openly and talk about coping day-to-day, as well as on the most difficult days. Hearing the stories of others lets us know that we are not alone in our grief journey. Grief support groups offer comradery and understanding from others experiencing a similar loss and the challenges that living with grief brings.

Online bereavement groups offer several advantages. Those in pain can reach out to a sympathetic community any time of the day or night. Grief often creates insomnia and it helps to know that someone who cares is out there during the lonely nights. Online communities and bulletin boards are useful for those who have difficulty traveling to meet in person or find comfort in posting difficult feelings and experiences anonymously.

Social Media

Social media provides a digital platform to remember our loved ones after they’re gone. For young people who have grown up in a

digital age, social media allows them to grieve in a way that makes sense to them.

Posts on Facebook, Twitter or other social media platforms can provide a place for sharing our grief, even years after a loved one’s passing. Users often post on the birthday or anniversary of the death of a loved as a way to remember and pay tribute.

David Sherman of Jupiter, Florida recently posted a message and photo on his Facebook wall to pay tribute to his father on the anniversary of his passing: my dad,Pappa Murray, passed away 33 years ago – his memory is a blessing… pictured here with his boys (1980)

Posts on social media remind friends and family of the deceased and allows them the opportunity to remember and offer support. One of David’s friends was reminded of happy moments shared: Wow…when you mentioned this photo I remembered the day I took it. Thanks for reminding me of those fun times!

How to Make Healthy New Year’s Resolutions Stick

Thu, 08 Jan 2015 05:00:00 GMT

How to Make Healthy New Year’s Resolutions Stick

Many Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but very few are able to stick to them throughout the year. According to statisticbrain.com, 45 percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but 75 percent of those keep them less than two weeks and only 46 percent are able to stick to their resolutions for more than six months. In addition, only 14 percent of people over 50 achieve their resolution each year.

Some of the most popular resolutions are to lose weight; stay fit and healthy and quit smoking. All healthy goals – but how to stick to them?

The health.com website offers these tips:

Lose Weight

Quit Smoking

Don’t worry if you have tried and failed. Many ex-smokers found that multiple attempts to quit were the path they had to take to be successful. Try several methods to find what works for you, such as nicotine replacement therapy; support groups; acupuncture; quitting “cold turkey” – or some combination of smoking cessation methods.

And if the health benefits aren’t enough to help you stick with it, think of all the money you will save!

Commit to Get Fit

Regular exercise is associated with more health benefits than any other path to fitness, including reducing the risk of some cancers, achieving and maintaining weight loss, enhancing mood, lowering blood pressure and reducing insomnia. But how to stick to an exercise routine? About.com suggests:

Quincy’s Legendary Locals Celebrated in New Book

Thu, 01 Jan 2015 05:00:00 GMT

Quincy’s Legendary Locals Celebrated in New Book

From Presidents to punk bands, the sons and daughters of Quincy have shaped the face of the nation and the character of the town they called home. Author Jack Encarnacao is something of a local legend himself. Encarnacao – a journalist by trade – covered Quincy for years as a reporter at the Patriot Ledger, Quincy’s daily newspaper, and is now a reporter at The Boston Herald.

“We are so proud to be serving the Quincy community for three generations and to be part of its storied history,” said John Keohane, Co-President of Keohane Funeral Home.

The city’s local characters and neighborhood legends are featured as well, including Mike “The Winger” Zadrozny who launched vinyl records like Frisbees around town; Father William McCarthy who founded the shelter Father Bill’s Place as well as our own Edward Keohane, Chairman of the family owned and operated group of Keohane funeral homes.

“I’m honored to be included among such remarkable citizens of our fair town,” said Ed, son of company founder Cornelius V. Keohane. “Service to the community is of the utmost importance to the Keohane family and the entire Keohane Funeral Home team.”

The front cover of Legendary Locals of Quincy features images of John Adams, the second president of the United States; Phyllis Godwin, the CEO of Granite City Electric Supply Company; and Josiah Quincy III, Boston’s second mayor, among others.

The back cover shows photographs of Richard Koch, the founder of the “Koch Club” as well as employees of Tubular River & Stud, the leading industrial employer in Quincy from the 1880’s to 1960.

Legendary Locals of Quincy is part of the Legendary Locals series of books by Arcardia Publishing which are filled with vintage photographs and images. The series features hometown history and delves into the unique individuals and groups which have had a lasting impact on their community: http://www.arcadiapublishing.com/9781467101523/Legendary-Locals-of-Quincy

Coping with Grief During the Holiday Season

Mon, 15 Dec 2014 05:00:00 GMT

Music at the Gazebo in Hull Free Sunday Concert Series Beginning Sept. 7th

Wed, 03 Sep 2014 04:00:00 GMT

Music at the Gazebo in Hull Free Sunday Concert Series Beginning Sept. 7th

We are proud to present our “end of summer” Sunday concerts series at Veterans’ Memorial Park in Hull again this year. On three successive Sundays, beginning September 7 ^th from 2 pm – 4 pm, three popular bands will present both instrumental and vocal music at this family-oriented free concert series, guaranteed to get your musical toes tapping!

The kick-off concert features The Jazz Depot with featured vocalist (and Hull native) Katy Shea. The Jazz Depot will perform a variety of New Orleans Jazz, Rhythm, Cool Jazz, Contemporary and Improv. This popular jazz group also features Edward Troxler on guitar, Barry Stainer on drums, Eric Clough on bass, Adam Weber on trombone, and Staffon Jonsson on trumpet.

On Sunday, September 14 ^th , The Workingman’s Band will perform classics from the Great American Songbook – popular music from the 1930s through the 1950s. Highlighting renowned Jazz Vocalist Phyllis Fallon, The Workingman’s Band is a Music at the Gazebo favorite!

The closing concert on Sunday, September 21st will feature an old “friend,” Tom Nutile who, with his band, will present patriotic songs, swing, pop, rock, and classic oldies.

We want to thank the Hull Memorial Commission for allowing us to use this lovely park for our concerts, which are presented as a gift to the community. Music at the Gazebo has become a staple of September activities in Hull, and we are excited to be able to present this concert series again this year – we look forward to it as much as the residents of Hull! Bring a blanket or chair, relax and enjoy the music.

Distributing Warmth: Keohane Completes Second Annual Coat Drive

Mon, 27 Jan 2014 05:00:00 GMT

Distributing Warmth: Keohane Completes Second Annual Coat Drive

Our 2 nd Annual Coat Drive was a success, and a testament to the kindness of our community. Keohane participated in the drive, along with several local organizations, in order to distribute warm coats to those in need this winter.

We again surpassed our goal of 250 coats, as each community contributed: Quincy, Weymouth, Hingham, Hull and surrounding Boston and South Shore towns. It was nice to see that many of the families we serve were able to donate some of their loved ones coats and take comfort in knowing they would be put to good use.

All coats were distributed through Interfaith Social Services just in time for the brutally cold weather and snow that set in. Rick Doane, Executive Director of Interfaith, witnessed the powerful effect a warm coat can have for someone in need:

At Keohane, we take pride in our social responsibility and support our local communities throughout the year however we can. Seeing our community participate in the Coat Drive during such a busy season was a great reminder of the true holiday spirit.

We look forward to next December, when we will surely continue our tradition of spreading warmth throughout our community.

The Various Methods of Condolences

Fri, 27 Dec 2013 05:00:00 GMT

The Various Methods of Condolences

The most important condolence you can offer a grieving family is your presence during the services. But there are plenty of additional ways to express your sympathy.

People are often uncertain of what is expected or appropriate in terms of condolences. First, let’s make sure we’re on the same page with what forms condolences can be in: a phone call, sympathy card, personal letter, flowers, or online message. You can choose whichever seems right for the relationship and the particular family. Regardless of how you do it, the family always appreciates heartfelt sympathy.

The Importance of Advance Health Care Planning

Tue, 12 Nov 2013 05:00:00 GMT

The Importance of Advance Health Care Planning

We encourage advance planning for funeral arrangements, and it is also important that you have addressed advance care planning from a health care perspective.

For most people, advance care planning is a difficult topic to discuss, whether it is about yourself or a loved one. But as difficult as the planning may be, it makes the difficult events much easier. Knowing the goals and wishes of those we love takes away any doubt or questions once the moment is upon us. There is a lot of comfort in knowing that the decisions that have to be made are ultimately their own.

Most people think that advance care planning comes when a person is nearing the end of their life, diagnosed with a terminal illness, or for those that have a laundry list of illnesses with no avail in sight. But the truth of the matter is that all of us, no matter how young or how healthy, should be aware of our wishes and goals of care. Though it may seem like a cryptic conversation to have around the dinner table, there are ways of approaching the topic without making it morbid. The organization, Engage with Grace, the One Slide Project, approaches Advance Care Planning in just 5 questions. Their goal is “to help ensure that all of us—and the people we care for—can end our lives in the same purposeful way we lived them.” The one slide is:

While answering these questions, it’s important to note the kind of care you want and the kind of care you do not want. And while the answers may be hard, they are even harder questions for your loved ones to answer on your behalf, when you are unable to speak for yourself.

Talking about these topics and thinking about your answers is advance care planning. Once your have a clear picture of what your specific wishes are, the next step is putting them into written directives, know as advance directives. The first step in creating advance directives is choosing a health care proxy. This should be someone with whom you trust to make decisions and speak on your behalf. This person should be someone who knows your ultimate wishes, goals, and values so that the decisions they make for you ultimately reflect what you would have decided for yourself.

These conversations are important to have, and while it never seems like an opportune moment, the more comfortable you are at understanding your wishes, the better you can ensure they happen. Asking yourself these five questions and knowing the answers for your loved ones is a good start. For more information relating to Engage with Grace , please check out their website.

It is also important to think about advance funeral planning, another way to make a very difficult time for your family a bit easier. Death is a difficult fact of life to understand in a moment’s notice, but here at Keohane, we strive to make this tough time as painless as possible. Please feel free to reach out to Joe Reardon , one of our funeral directors, who specializes in working with families interested in advance planning. He and the rest of our team are always available for questions or assistance. To get started, you can contact us directly or fill out our form .

In the Community: Second Annual Coat Drive

Tue, 05 Nov 2013 05:00:00 GMT

In the Community: Second Annual Coat Drive

It’s hard to believe it’s getting to be that time of year again, but the Holidays are upon us! During this time of year, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. But while we reflect on what we are thankful for, let’s not forget about those things we sometimes take for granted.

Here at Keohane, we take pride in our social responsibility and support our local communities however we can. This year marks our second annual Coat Drive, and we encourage your participation.

According to the 2010 Census, 1 in 5 children live in households whose earnings fall below the poverty level in the United States. It is also said that an estimated 671,850 Americans experience homelessness on any given night. As quoted on OneWarmCoat.org,“Health experts report that even a 2-degree drop in body temperature results in reduced heart rate, loss of coordination, and confusion. Adults cannot work effectively and children find it difficult to learn. For most, a warm coat solves the problem. But, for the now nearly 15% of Americans living in poverty, a warm winter coat is a budget extra.”

Last year, we were thrilled with the generosity shown, and we surpassed our initial goal of receiving 250 coats. This year, we continue to have faith in our communities and are confident we can receive even more! You can drop off any gently worn coat, for a child or an adult, to these locations:

We will be working with several local organizations to make sure all coats are distributed to our neighbors in need. So go through your closets and see what you can donate today!

Featured FAQ: What are the Rules for Transporting Cremated Remains?

Wed, 02 Oct 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What are the Rules for Transporting Cremated Remains?

People often ask about the rules for transporting cremated remains. Some airlines will not allow cremated remains as checked baggage, whereas other airlines may only accept it as checked luggage. A variety of documents may be required, such as the death certificate and/or certificate of cremation. Since different airlines have unique rules, the best thing to do is to check with them directly prior to your flight to ensure you follow their required procedures. A funeral director will be able to help you navigate the various rules as well.

Here are a few universal tips to follow:

Your airline should be able to help you with any questions, and more general information can be found on the TSA website . As always, a funeral director can help answer any questions or guide you through your specific situation.

Celebrating 22 Years of Service

Tue, 24 Sep 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Upcoming Event: Music at the Gazebo

Fri, 13 Sep 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Upcoming Event: Music at the Gazebo

September is here, and we’re looking forward to this year’s Music at the Gazebo, a free annual concert series that we organize and sponsor. It takes place over three Sundays in September at the Veteran’s Memorial Park Gazebo in Hull (at the corner of Nantasket and Samoset Avenues).

It’s a great event with a wide range of musicians. We have the same three bands as last year with these corresponding dates:

Music at the Gazebo has come to be a great end-of-summer tradition. We love seeing our community come together and enjoy the music and the atmosphere. So mark your calendars and be sure to make it to Hull for this terrific event at least once this year!

A New Flag at North Weymouth

Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:00:00 GMT

A New Flag at North Weymouth

We just added a flag pole to our North Weymouth McDonald Keohane Funeral Home location at 40 Sea Street, like we have in our Quincy and South Weymouth locations. Take a look in this recent picture we snapped:

Featured FAQ: What are the Rules for a Funeral Procession?

Fri, 19 Jul 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: What are the Rules for a Funeral Procession?

The funeral procession takes place when the funeral ceremony and the burial are both held within the local area, as friends and relatives accompany the family to the cemetery. The procession is formed at the place of service.

Of course, operators of vehicles in a funeral procession must exercise care while driving, obeying all of the typical rules of the road. The funeral director can advise you of the traffic regulations and procedures to follow, and Massachusetts breaks down the exact laws surrounding funeral processions . Here, we just want to reiterate the main points:

If you are driving as part of the procession:

If you are driving and come across a funeral procession, the general rules for you to follow are:

Harvest Helpers

Mon, 01 Jul 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Harvest Helpers

Harvest Helpers is a great program here at Keohane, which is loved by the staff and community alike. The premise for the program is quite simple: we distribute free seedlings to anyone in the community who is willing to grow the plants and then donate the produce to the Interfaith Food Pantry when harvested. We also plant and tend to a backyard garden of our own at our Quincy location, donating the harvested crops. The garden last year yielded tomatoes, green peppers, beans, cucumbers, zucchini, and herbs – all healthy, nutritious, home-grown produce that goes towards nourishing those most in need.

Interfaith Social Services calls the Harvest Helpers program “a sustainable community-based endeavor that uses locally grown food to alleviate the hunger that exists within our community.” In other words: it is so simple, yet so rewarding.

Joe Reardon says of the program:

‘Harvest Helpers is a great program. The thought that people can help others by merely tending their own gardens is so simple yet so overlooked. There are so many people who don’t have enough to eat and can benefit from fresh fruits and vegetables. It is healthy. It is green. And, it is a great way to give back to the community and invite our neighbors to help.’

Here are some ways you can participate in the Keohane Harvest Helpers Program:

Featured FAQ: Now that the funeral is over, what else do I need to address?

Sat, 16 Mar 2013 04:00:00 GMT

Featured FAQ: Now that the funeral is over, what else do I need to address?

There are some important things that need to be done once the funeral is over and friends and relatives have left. Keep in mind that your funeral director is a great resource for you even after the funeral, able to direct you to the appropriate professionals for guidance in all matters.

Celebrants

Sat, 12 Jan 2013 05:00:00 GMT

Celebrants

There is a common assumption that funerals are tied to religious beliefs. Well, a funeral can certainly reflect religion and incorporate the specific beliefs of the family, but the service is really about celebrating the life of the deceased. This is something our funeral directors recognize, as it is our job to create a service that best celebrates the loved ones life and individuality. One option that people are not always aware of is having the service run by a Celebrant.

A Celebrant offers an alternative to a funeral service provided by a member of the clergy for those families who are not affiliated with a church or who do not wish to have a traditional religious funeral service. Services run by Celebrants serve the same purpose as other services: celebrating a person’s life and providing comfort to the family and friends. Services may include readings, stories, music, and other customizations to best reflect the life lived.

Keohane has several Certified Funeral Celebrants on staff, and they are truly dedicated to providing a customized service that reflects the wishes and values of the loved one and their family. They can incorporate religious beliefs or spirituality, but they don’t have to. It is all about creating a ceremony that allows everyone to be comfortable honoring death while celebrating life.

Coat Drive

Sun, 16 Dec 2012 05:00:00 GMT

Coat Drive

Throughout the month of November we held our first coat drive, encouraging people to clean out their closets and drop off any gently worn coats that they were willing to donate to those in need. We weren’t sure what to expect, and set an initial goal of 250 coats.

It’s amazing how generous people can be, and how willing to help other organizations are. Dependable Cleaners graciously offered to clean all of the coats collected, which was a huge help. We also worked with several organizations to get them delivered to children and adults in need. Coats were distributed to the Interfaith Social Services in Quincy as well as the Weymouth Youth and Family Services in Weymouth and Wellspring Multi-Service Center in Hull.

Everyone at Keohane was astounded by the generosity of the community, and thrilled to exceed our initial goal. We’re excited to make this an annual Keohane event!