Robert “Bobby” Neef, 73, of Randolph, Massachusetts, passed away on August 29, 2026. Born on May 18, 1953, in Attleboro, Massachusetts, Bobby was the son of Rudolph Neef and Lillian Gunnard. To everyone who knew him, he was simply Bobby, a kind, gentle, happy man with an unforgettable smile and a wonderful way of bringing joy to the people around him. The one thing that told you almost everything you needed to know about Bobby was that people loved him. He was genuine, gentle, easygoing, funny, and kind, and there truly wasn’t a mean bone in his body. Simply stopping to say, “Hi, Bobby,” could bring the biggest smile to his face, and seeing that smile had a way of making your day better, too.

Bobby was playful and loved to joke and tease. He took great pride in his independence and his appearance and was quite the fashionista. He carefully chose his outfits and liked everything to be just right. He would come out of his room looking like the dapper man he was, proudly show off what he was wearing, and say, “Good, good, good.” Bobby appreciated his routines and knew exactly how he liked things. His clothing, his belongings, his favorite blanket, and even the way things were arranged mattered to him. Bobby enjoyed puzzles, building and arranging blocks, movies, long car rides, community outings, and especially a good meal. Music was a big part of his life, and he especially enjoyed classical and country music. Some of his favorite songs included “Take Me Home, Country Roads,” “The Gambler,” and “Sweet Home Alabama.” People have fond memories of Bobby enjoying the music, standing with someone on the dance floor, holding their hands, and smiling. He enjoyed trips to Dunkin’, walks in the community, and outings to places such as the aquarium and zoo. Bobby also had his own special way with words. If something was worth saying once, to Bobby it was often worth saying three times, “Hi, hi, hi,” “Dinner, dinner, dinner,” and, of course, “Good, good, good.” His familiar words, routines, favorite things, and the way he enjoyed life were all part of what made Bobby unmistakably Bobby.

Perhaps the greatest testament to Bobby’s life is the extraordinary number of people who loved him. He formed meaningful friendships with the people he lived alongside, those he spent his days with, and the many people who became part of his life over the years. Bobby was fortunate to have many dedicated caregivers through DDS, HSO, Amego, and Vinfen who came to know his routines, preferences, humor, and all the little things that made him who he was. Many people first came into Bobby’s life in a professional role and, over time, came to know, care about, and love him simply for being Bobby. Bobby lived with a developmental disability, but that did not define the life he lived. His life was defined by his independence, his kindness, the joy he found in everyday moments, and the relationships he built. In remembering Bobby, people shared some of the lessons they learned simply from knowing him, to be patient and caring, to appreciate the little moments, to enjoy what makes you happy, and to smile. Bobby did not need many words to leave a lasting impression on people.

At the end of Bobby’s life, it was hoped that he would be able to give the gift of organ donation. Although circumstances ultimately did not allow for organ donation, Bobby was still able to help others through other meaningful gifts of donation. It was a beautiful final reflection of the kind and gentle man so many people knew and loved. Those gifts are now another part of his legacy, but Bobby’s true legacy was created throughout his 73 years of life, in the friendships he formed, the smiles he inspired, the memories he created, and the lives of all those fortunate enough to know and love him. Bobby will be deeply missed by his friends, housemates, caregivers, and the many people who became part of his life over the years. He leaves behind an extraordinary community of people who will remember his smile, his humor, his dapper sense of style, his familiar sayings, his gentle spirit, and all the wonderfully individual things that made him so uniquely Bobby.

On Tuesday, September 8, 2026, those who knew and loved Bobby are invited to join in a special procession in his honor. We will gather at 11:00 a.m. at McDonald Keohane Funeral Home, South, 809 Main Street, South Weymouth, MA, and travel together to North Purchase Cemetery in Attleboro, where Bobby will be laid to rest. There will be no service at the funeral home. Bobby loved long car rides, and accompanying him together on this final ride is a meaningful way to honor something that brought him so much happiness. At the cemetery, we will gather for a peaceful graveside service to honor Bobby’s life, lift our prayers for him, and say our goodbyes. We hope those who loved Bobby will find comfort in coming together, surrounding him with love, and knowing the place where he will forever rest.

Following the graveside service, we will change gears from saying goodbye to celebrating a life well lived. Everyone is invited to join us immediately afterward for a Celebration of Life luncheon at Vinfen, 218 Libbey Industrial Parkway, Weymouth, MA. This will be a time to smile, laugh, share stories and favorite memories, and celebrate the joy Bobby brought to so many lives.

Bobby leaves behind a lifetime of memories and an extraordinary community of people who were fortunate enough to know and love him. His gentle spirit, unforgettable smile, laughter, and the joy he found in life’s simplest moments will remain with us always. Bobby was deeply loved, and he will be deeply missed. Until we see you again, Bobby, bye, bye, bye.