Understanding the Seven Stages of Grief

Grief is one of the most unique and painful experiences we go through as human beings. It doesn’t follow a schedule, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone. While no two journeys are identical, many people find comfort in understanding the commonalities that can follow a loss. 

Grief is the deep sorrow we feel after the death of someone we love or after another profound loss, such as a divorce, serious illness, or unintended departure from a job. During this time, it’s common to experience intense emotions and even physical symptoms. While these feelings can be overwhelming, it’s important to remember that grief is a natural and necessary response to loss. There are many ways to navigate grief, both on your own and with the support of family, friends, or community, that can help you move through it and come to terms with what has changed. 

To help those who are grieving better understand their feelings, grief counselors and mental health professionals have identified seven stages of grief, offering a broader picture of what people may experience. It’s important to remember that these stages are not linear. You may move back and forth between them, skip some entirely, or feel several at once. All of it is normal. 

1. Shock 

Immediately after a loss, many people feel numb or disconnected. Shock can act as a protective response, helping us process overwhelming news in smaller pieces. 

2. Denial 

Denial can feel like disbelief. It gives the mind time to slowly absorb what has changed. This stage may come and go in waves. 

3. Anger 

Anger is a natural response to pain. It may be directed at circumstances, medical providers, other people, yourself, or even the person who passed. Beneath anger is often deep hurt. 

4. Bargaining 

In this stage, thoughts may revolve around “what if.” Bargaining is the mind’s way of trying to regain a sense of control in a situation that feels uncontrollable. 

5. Depression 

As the reality of the loss settles in, deep sadness may follow. This can include changes in sleep, appetite, energy, or motivation. This stage reflects the weight of what has been lost. 

6. Reconstruction 

Gradually, many people begin to adjust to life without their loved one. While the pain may still be present, daily routines start to return. You may begin finding small moments of stability again. 

7. Acceptance 

Acceptance does not mean you are “over it.” It means you are learning to live with the loss. The love remains. The memories remain. The grief simply becomes something you carry differently. 

It’s important to say again: grief doesn’t unfold neatly. Some days may feel manageable, and others may feel just as heavy as the beginning. Milestones, holidays, and anniversaries can bring emotions back unexpectedly. 



There is no “right way” to grieve. There is only your way. 

At Keohane, we understand that support doesn’t end after the service. If you or someone you love is navigating loss, we are here to help connect you with resources, guidance, and compassionate care today and in the months ahead.